“My 44 year old daughter is planning and paying for her own wedding. The guest list is at 200, and she has agreed to let us invite 6 close friends… but what do I say to all our other friends who may be expecting to be invited?”
When I got engaged, my immigrant family disowned me. This post is the guide I wish I had, for all my fellow first-generation children of immigrants who are planning a wedding without their parents’ approval.
I only had a dozen guests at my wedding. For those of you who may also be having tiny microweddings due to Covid, here’s my advice for how to talk to guests who weren’t invited and may be dealing with hurt feelings…
My boyfriend and I have now lived together for over a year and a half, and have decided to get married (yay!)… But my dad and my older brother still don’t like him. Do I ask them to come to the wedding, or no?
Your engagement should be a joyful time. You have a lifetime ahead of you with the person you love. What could be better than to celebrate that love surrounded by friends and family? And yet, somehow things go awry. Conflicts flare. And the time that should be so happy — the build-up to your wedding — is fraught with possibilities for strife.
The good news is you can avoid most of the problems by planning your wedding planning. That’s right. Plan how you’re going to plan.
I recently read an article addressing the psychology behind unsolicited advice. The article focused on a research paper titled “Advice Giving: A Subtle Pathway to Power,” which confirms what most of us have likely suspected: unsolicited advice more for the benefit of the adviser than the advisee. So how can you work with this to make unsolicited advice less irritating, and more helpful?