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I'm nonbinary with an non-accepting family: should I be in my sister's wedding?

I’m nonbinary with a non-accepting family: should I be a bridesmaid in my sister’s wedding?

>My sister has asked me to a bridesmaid. I’m deeply estranged from the majority of my extended relatives. She’s turning this wedding into a family reunion (300+ guests). I thought I had enough to worry about with being nonbinary and potentially needing to deal with gender dysphoria on the day, but many of these relatives are horrendously bigoted as well. Part of me wants to say fuck it and be outrageously myself as a nonbinary bridesmaid… but my anxious self fears for my safety. I’m not out to everyone.Should I ask to be demoted from bridesmaid to “regular guest” status so I can have full choice over what I wear?

What's the heck is a microwedding (and could it be the perfect wedding for you?)

4 reasons you should have a micro wedding (plus, micro wedding venues and ideas)

If you’ve seen the word “microwedding” around the internet, your brain may jump straight to eloping, right? But a microwedding is a tiny wedding of under 50ish people, usually planned in a similar fashion to larger weddings but on a smaller scale.

If you can get over the hurdle of convincing your ultra nearest and dearest that it’s okay to only have them at the wedding, you’re in the clear to plan your own microwedding. Ready to see if a microwedding will be your jam? Here are the reasons teeny tiny weddings kick serious ass…

Wedding charity drama: mom won't come because she hates our choice

Wedding charity drama: mom won’t come because she hates our choice of charity

My partner and I have a wedding website that allows for automatic charity donations. We chose Planned Parenthood and now my partner’s mother won’t come to the wedding. We’ve already changed the charity on the site and tried to explain our choice, but to no avail. I can’t imagine the wedding without her. Any ideas on getting back in her good graces?

Dad's religious and I'm not: How can I include him without giving him a platform?

Dad’s religious and I’m not: How can I include him without giving him a platform?

How do I include my religious dad in my wedding day without giving him a platform? I’m afraid if I ask him to read, or allow him to do a speech that he will bring religion into it and I really don’t want that at all. I’m also not sure if I’m going to have a father/daughter dance due to our slowly healing relationship. Help!

My partner's parents aren't supportive: how can I help?

My partner’s parents aren’t supportive: how can I help?

I’m incredibly close with my parents and they’re supportive of our wedding. The problem is that my partner’s parents have been the complete opposite of my parents. My biggest source of worry is that my mom and I always have lots of fun talking about wedding details, and I can tell she is hurting. How can I support my fiancee during our wedding planning?

Ring shopping regret: I went window shopping for rings and now regret it

I went window shopping for rings and now regret it

I had a modest ring that I could afford bookmarked and budgeted. Then my fiancé convinced me that we HAD to go try on rings at a big box jewelry store. The men’s band and wedding set we found and fell in love with costs $8,000! And my reasonable little ring looks shabby and drab by comparison. I thought I could walk away, and I can. I just did not anticipate the other cascade of feelings…