“Best commitment-ceremony-that-wasn’t-really-a-ceremony ever!”: A commitment ceremony where this one couple exchanged shoes instead of rings.
I was browsing through Molly and Laurie’s wedding photos and came across an officiant’s blessing that made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. The couple said their vows in Washington before the state had legalized gay marriage, and their celebrant closed the ceremony with this statement:
We do not currently live together, we have three cats between us, only one of us (me) has US citizenship, oh and she doesn’t fly… During those many anxious months, we were often asked if we’d get married so that she could immigrate. Every time it came up I had such vehemently negative response. I recognize that at some point I may have to sign papers, because the state has a nasty way of making itself necessary. But I’d prefer not to and I plan to avoid it if at all possible, and here’s why…
There are many reasons that commited people don’t get legally married — from not being allowed to by law, to just not being comfortable with the concept. We don’t give a shit why you don’t want to make it legal, we just love the fact that you want to celebrate your commitment to to one another. So here are some ways you can throw a non-wedding party…
This is basically the best post ever written about how to build a wedding ceremony from the ground up.
While there’s a bit of ritual theory, but mostly it’s expert advice about how to structure your wedding ceremony from start to finish, complete with a sample outline.
Welcome to another edition of the Monday Montage. This week we have some fun and froofy pink dresses, ladies in white and some groovin’ groomsmen. P.S. Don’t forget to submit your photos to the pool. If you’re lucky, they might even end up on here.