“I think there can be a HUGE amount of pressure for brides to be happy 100% of the time. If they're not, they're called bridezillas. Working in mental health, this expectation that I needed to feel a certain way 100% of the time immediately ground my gears.” How do you deal when the pressure rises to always be a happy bride?
I was met with was a multitude of articles with instructions on how to avoid becoming a Bridezilla, but none with helpful tips on how to avoid frustration at continually being called one. The bottom line for me is this: Being called a Bridezilla, warranted or not, seems very sexist and insensitive. So, how do we fight this deeply rooted concept?
I am a Planzilla. I love planning things. I love planning things way way way in advance. I could quite happily start planning for my wedding right now and get all the planning done by myself. But here’s where the problem lies…
I did not expect to learn so much about self-confidence when I started this whole wedding thing. (Even though I needed SOME self-confidence to even make the proposal in the first place.) While other people have written about how wedding planning helped them learn to say “no” to people who kept making demands. Me? I’ve learned to say “yes” to myself.
It’s not hard to find wedding snark on the web. And I don’t disagree with the fact that there is a lot to dislike about the Wedding Industrial Complex and about how it makes some people behave. Maybe I just hang out with good people, both online and off, but in my experience, most brides genuinely are happy anyone wants to be a part of their wedding and would never want to take advantage of those people.
We’re totally sick of the term Bridezilla, but there’s no denying that as you grind your way through wedding planning, it can be helpful to have a term for that rage-filled, insane creature that bubbles up in your mind at times.
And now, courtesy of Offbeat Bride Tribe member ladyphae and her fiance, we finally have our new term…