Deirdre and Dylan planned the goth wedding of their dreams at Blackwater Castle in Castletownroche, Cork, Ireland. They started with a gorgeous church ceremony, then some creepy-chic portraits in the cemetery, and finally into the seriously majestic castle for dinner and celebration.
As practicing pagans, we also incorporated many elements of our spirituality, such as tarot readers at the reception and a Samhain memorial altar. Harry Potter has been interwoven into our relationship for 20 years, so we had subtle hints of our love for the series in our decor (side note: we got engaged at and shot our engagement photos at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter). We made our reception personal by including all the things we love: coffee, beer, tattoos, and tarot!
We had an overall gothic Halloween wedding, with comic and hockey-themed aspects. Our short ceremony had music by the Smiths, The Cure, and Type O Negative, as well as an officiant dressed as a friar. The ceremony highlighted with nerdy themes including, but not limited to, X-Men, Star Wars, Stardust, Princess Bride, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, and Lord of the Rings.
Our wedding was our own style for sure. I have always loved vintage and Victorian styles. But to give it a twist, I have blue hair! Mark also goes nowhere without his baseball cap. So I said wear it! He did and I felt it was perfect for us. Being on a very tight budget, we had lots of DIY from seating charts, favors, and table numbers. It was Victorian with a twist!
The D&D geek theme started because I had the thought to myself, "you have encountered a wedding ceremony — roll for initiative." We both thought it was funny, and it sort of spiraled from there that all of our favorite nerdy things could be incorporated.
The theme to our wedding was pretty simple: "these are a few of our favorite things." One of the things that made us fall for each other was our similar interests from childhood. We wanted our wedding to be full of nostalgiac whimsy and, most importantly, us. From the first day we were engaged we knew we wanted to get married at Childrens Fairyland in Oakland, a place near and dear to our hearts. You better believe I called the venue that first day while laying on the beach in Hawaii.