"Your wedding is tacky"
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I am officially decreeing myself done with the word “tacky.” It's a word thrown around a lot in the wedding world — even the non-traditional wedding world!

People are worried their centerpieces will look tacky. People decree honeymoon registries tacky. There's muttering over etiquette: “I want to do things this way … but is that tacky?” brides whisper in terror. Tacky: the dark evil that sneaks into your bedroom and eats your face at night.

I'm here to tell you that, YES: everything you want to do for your wedding is tacky. All of it. The red dress is tacky. The handmade paper flowers are tacky. Your custom-designed invitations? TACKY.

Because you see, “tacky” is in the eye of the beholder and there is always, always going to be someone who sees things differently than you.

Your handwritten wedding vows? Tacky!

Using old mugs as favors? Tacky!

Your ribbon veil? Tacky!

Your father reading a poem he wrote instead of Corinthians? Tacky!

There is no end to the tackiness. It is ALL tacky, according to someone. Someone will tell you it's tacky to get married in your backyard. Someone will tell you it's tacky not to decorate your chairs with large bows and organza. Someone will tell you it's tacky to have portapotties at your wedding. Someone somewhere thinks sequined wedding shoes and button bouquets and Wai-Ching dresses are all tacky.

…This website? TACKY!

I'm exhausted by the tacky debate. I'm sick of people asking if some component of their wedding is tacky. (Sure it is! …to someone. Do you care? Is that why you're doing it?) I'm sick of commenters decreeing certain wedding thangs as tacky. (Sure it is! …to you. Do I care? Are you invited to my wedding?) Tacky: the dark monster that creeps in at night … tacky is the manifestation of your fears that people won't approve of your wedding.

Moving forward, I'm decreeing a moratorium on the word. When it's ALL tacky, none of it's tacky and we can finally stop talking about it.

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Comments on Your wedding is tacky

  1. I completely agree with Helen. By the end of this entry I was thinking to myself taq-eee? TAKy?

    Tack like? So it’s sharp and helps keep things flat? What does that word even mean?

  2. I find it funny that when you do something out of the ordinary for your wedding that it gets called tacky, but you do everything traditional, your not. I find it extremely wrong to tell someone that their ideas aren’t what they should be.

  3. yes this is the whole point of this blog. it isnt for people who do not like offbeat things. i often wonder, why people choose to spend their time somewhere if all they do is want to be negative.

  4. Funny, and true. Look what I brought on myself today when discussing plastic rings. It’s true though, in general. Enough with the Tacky debate. It’s like the DIY guilt issue… it’s not tacky for god’s sake, just make sure it’s what you love.

  5. I heard it’s tacky to talk about the definition of the word tacky on a wedding blog.

    LMAO 😀

  6. I *JUST* had a conversation about the subjective nature of tacky last night with my future MIL.

    Last month I went to a 100%-by-the-book traditional wedding and (probably because I’m so spoiled with all of the amazing weddings I get to see on OBB everyday) I thought that THAT wedding (the wedding everyone else was “oohing” and “ahhing” over) was THE tackiest thing I’d ever seen.

    Which is ironic, considering most of the people present at that wedding think that MY wedding is going to be the tackiest thing that they’ll ever see.

    To each her own, right? Tacky. I embrace the “tacky,” whatever that means.

  7. Here Here Here Here!!!!!
    I could NOT have SAID it any better if I where TRYING!!!
    I guess this is why YOU are the BOSS! 😉
    –Diann…

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