How to best submit your Offbeat Bride wedding profile (and make us love you forever!) #Site News#blogging June 27 2011 | Catherine Clark bijouxandbits Photo from Cali and Rick's wedding So you'd like to see your name up in lights — er, more like up in pixels on the homepage of Offbeat Bride. We LOVE featuring all sorts of weddings: simple, classic with a twist, wild and energetic, geeky and intimate, gothic and glam. Don't worry about being too offbeat or not offbeat enough. But DO take a few helpful hints to make sure that you have the best chance of getting featured. Your photos This is often our first impression of your wedding: your photos! Let's make sure they're workable: Whatever platform you're using to submit your photos (we take it all: Dropbox, Flickr, Google Drive, Imgur, whatever), make sure they are public to view and download, or provide us with the password/download code, if needed. Make sure there are a lot of good photos of you and your partner. We'll need an amazing lead image. 😉 Include a good amount of photos from the ceremony AND the reception if you had one/both. If you talk about it, we want to see it! If you talk about details in your submission, include photos of those details if available. And if you have really awesome photos of a detail, make sure to talk about it. We know that you love all your guests, but we, uh, don't really know them. So if you're choosing between pics of guests just being there and you, go with you. That said, if your guests are doing something cool or something you talk about (photobooth, dressed as Storm Troopers, etc), hell yes to those photos! The basics of the profile itself Please write in complete sentences and spell check. Pretty please with a cherry on top? Watch out for the most common error: you walk down an aisle, not an isle. OH: and write it in FIRST PERSON. We want to read it from your personal perspective. Draft your submission before you submit it in a separate document just in case the internet decides to eat it. Be concise, but feel free to include any funny, sweet, or meaningful details that you want included. We do have character limits, and do sometimes edit for brevity, so keep that in mind. What NOT to say Don't speak ill of family and friends. We've had years and years of experience in this department and the bottom line is this: if you say something bad about someone, somehow they will see it and they will get upset. Don't put words in your guests mouth. Specifically, don't say they "love the wedding" or said it was "the best wedding ever." Language like this can come off as boastful, since we all know your wedding is not a contest, right? Don't say that your wedding was offbeat, because "we did stuff our way." Because, well, duh. Tell us HOW you did stuff your way. Don't worry about your last names. We don't use them, so there no point in adding them in. Vendors are important! They pay the bills. Always credit your photographer, even if they're just a friend. Attribution matters! Include ALL of your vendors — photographer, food, cake, dress, coordinator, makeup, hair, jewelry, musician, belly dancer, cake topper maker, officiant, photo booth sign maker, etc. We can't tell you how many emails we get from vendors being sad about a couple leaving them out of a wedding's vendor list. If all you have for a vendor is their Facebook/Twitter/Flickr/Yelp link, double check that they don't have a real URL they'd rather have us linking to. List your vendors following this general format: Vendor type: business name, business.com. For example: Dress: Wai-Ching, http://wai-ching.com (feel free to include their Instagram name, too, as we credit them there as well!) Be patient We can't stress this enough, don't give up on us! If we don't feature you immediately, it doesn't mean we won't! We try for editorial diversity — by region (regions of the US, Canada, and Global), cultures, as well as different styles of weddings. Also, there are A LOT of weddings (200+ as of right now) to wade through and we just may not have looked at yours yet. If you do decide to submit your wedding elsewhere, please let us know as we may not be able feature it — no worries! If, on the sad, off-chance, your marriage doesn't last and we haven't featured you yet, let us know so we can save all of us a lot of headache. (Yes, it's happened. Several times, in fact.) Submit your wedding! Related Post My book's cover Cover of my first book, originally uploaded by .Ariel. This is it! Evidently, my editor had a huge amount of back 'n' forth with the... Read more Any questions? Ask 'em in the comments! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Catherine Clark Catherine Clark is Offbeat Bride's Senior Editor. In her spare time she loiters at her local library, makes art, watches movies en masse, plays video and tabletop games, poorly cooks healthy things, cuddles with her feline fur baby, and blogs at BijouxandBits.com. @enidjcoleslaw @bijouxandbits @bijouxandbits PREVIOUS The sexy men of the wedding party, plus major cake geekage NEXT When "awkward" is actually "awesome" Show/Hide comments [ 29 ] Awesome info! I'm waiting impatiently for my photos from the photographer and then I'll be doing up my wedding so I will keep in mind to keep the text down and get all the awesome photos and vendors! 🙂 Reply Thanks for the info! It's actually VERY helpful 🙂 Reply Darn!! I submitted my wedding yesterday. This came out right after I did. WAA!! I think I hit all the points, however Reply @Timolea, I remember when OBB did its Eastern European week just DAYS before I got my Czech wedding photos back. "Timing!" Reply @Tiomela I was thinking the same thing, then I got all worried that I totally messed my chances of having my profile feature :s Reply Don't fret! These are just guidelines to make life easier. 😉 Reply Just out of curiosity, why do different sites not want to feature weddings already featured on another site? I wanted to submit ours to So You're EnGAYed as well but since we had ours profiled on OBB, they won't feature it. I was kind of bummed that I was essentially forced to pick between the two since being offbeat and having queer wedding visibility are so, so important to me. Reply Misha, for us this is mostly an issue of not wanting to step on other bloggers' toes. If a blog has already run a wedding, we'd rather just link to their post than run the same wedding. In terms of the reasons for SYE's policy, you'd need to ask them. We're totally pals with those guys, so we're guessing they've got their own solid reasons. 🙂 Reply The "Aisle-not-isle" thing is one of my pet peeves as well 🙂 Reply You know, I saw it misspelled SO many times in my life that I just figured that was how it was spelled in American English, and figured I would just keep spelling it my Australian English "aisle" way!!! Reply I actually had no clue it was spelled with an A until now. I figured it was spelled the same as any other isle. Reply Can we just add one more thing… "Veil" not "Vail"! Unless you're skiing, of course. I can't tell you how many vails are for sale on Craigslist 🙂 Reply Curious, it does say to list all your vendors. However, 90% of our wedding is volunteer work from family and friends, so the only real vendors I can think of are the venue and food. Would that be okay? Or would I list the people that made the dress, cake, where I got the lanterns (in place of bouquets), etc? Reply You don't have to list all your volunteer help, just the vendors that have links other readers would benefit from. So those two are perfect! Reply I am thinking about writing up our wedding but had a question about the whole sharing vendors and not speaking ill of others. One of our vendors was a total and utter nightmare to work with. It was a big part of our wedding and I want to briefly share what happened (especially because I think how we handled it was so indicative of our wedding mentality). However, I don't want to engage in public trash talk and certainly would not recommend others use this particular vendor. Any suggestions? Reply Great question! My best suggestion for couples submitting their wedding to us is to include that you had a major challenge with *a vendor* (don't name names) and then share how you dealt with the challenge. Then, conspicuously do NOT mention the vendor at the end of the post. Ultimately, what we're most interested in sharing is lessons you learned from dealing with vendor challenges. If you want to advise others not to use this particular vendor, I'd suggest doing that on a vendor review site like Wedding Wire. Ultimately, Offbeat Bride just isn't a review platform. Reply Excellent – just what I was thinking but wanted to check to see what others thought. Thanks for the quick reply! Reply Thinking about submitting our wedding, but sadly, there were a lot of little details our photographer missed, but we photographed ourselves. How can we include these in our photo set and still make sure all credit is given where credit is (or is not) due? Reply Feel free to include all of them and then just label the ones that you guys took in the Flickr set. 🙂 Reply The photographs that I've put in our flikr album aren't ones taken by our official wedding photographer – rather they're gathered from a variety of friends and family shots. Should I still list my official photographer under Wedding Photographer or just leave that blank and put them under the vendor links list? Reply You can list the actual people in the vendor links. Reply We are still waiting for our pro-shots to come back! Is it okay if I sumbit the photos we have now, and update my Flickr when the actual ones come thru? Reply Sure! Just note that in the profile so we know to look for those later. Reply I submitted my profile last night but realized I omitted a lot out of the details from the "at a glance section" but I do have a LOT of info in my flickr descriptions. Can those be used if my profile is submitted? I guess that's what I get for doing it late at night! Reply Yep, no worries. We'll find it! Reply I'm about to submit our wedding! We've whittled our Flickr down to 107 and can't bare to get rid of anymore. Is that ok, or will it impact our submission?! Reply I really don't like the idea of putting photos out on flickr for ANYONE to grab and use as they please. Is there any other way to have the photos available for offbeat bride to use? Reply If I want to share my fiancee's proposal to me, should that be a guest submission or here under "wedding" submissions? Reply Feel free to submit that as a guest post. We'd love to hear the story! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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