Stacey's elegant stormy wedding #Real Weddings: Canada#british columbia#cake alternative#gold dress#lake#pie#wedding in the round#yellow dress Updated Oct 17 2019 (Posted Feb 8 2008) Offbeat Editors The offbeat bride: Stacey, Figure Skating Coach & Graphic Designer Her offbeat groom: Joel, Motion Capture Specialist Location & date of wedding: Strathcona Park Lodge between Campbell River and Gold River, BC. August 25, 2007 What made our wedding offbeat: My job as a Graphic Designer was at a wedding invitation design studio. My whole life had been filled with other people's wedding plans for years. I'd always been the one dishing out advice and helping people with their taffeta filled or very alternative plans. So when it was my turn I had lots of ideas but I also knew that everything had to be different from anything I had worked on for a client. Having helped with a few hundred weddings, that was very difficult but it also pushed me to try things I wouldn't have otherwise. I grew up with folk music festivals and and barn dances. I wanted to host our reception in a barn with a folk band but I also wanted to design lavish stationery and have table linens and wild flowers adorning the tables. My fiancee and I found the vibe of Strathcona Park Lodge very refreshing. Their staff were all very enthusiastic about all our plans and were open to any idea we threw at them. First of all, we didn't want titles for anyone or a traditional bridal party and we both felt the most influential people in our lives were our families so were each escorted to the ceremony between our parents and with our siblings walking just ahead. We also arrived at the same time so there was no symbolism of the groom waiting and the bride being given away. The 94 guests sat in a circle three rows deep down on the beach facing a backdrop of mountains. When we arrived with our families we closed the circle. My brother wrote the music which he played on his fiddle as he walked just ahead of my family which let the guests know we were arriving. We wrote most of the ceremony which the officiant read from. We had asked a parent from each side to give their words of wisdom for a happy marriage and we wrote our own vows. My 89 year old Grannie signed the register just as she had signed my mother 27 years earlier. We ended the ceremony by walking into the middle of the circle as guest threw flower petals from my mother's garden. We led all the guests straight to the champagne and then my father led the champagne toast on the beach as my husband and I got into a canoe and were paddled away to begin our new passage in life supported by nature. (This also meant we had a moment alone to just reflect before the party began) I wore a custom raw silk gown by Sandra Sung who is a local Vancouver based designer which was a major splurge for me but very worth it. I also wore an antique necklace from Joel's Grannie who was unable to be with us and I had a very comfortable pair of shoes hidden under that train. Joel wore his favourite black suit and a tie also made out of the fabric from my dress made by his mother. The menu was simple west coast cuisine. Wild Sockeye salmon was smoked over an open fire all day long and the dessert was tiny pies in lieu on a wedding cake. I didn't toss my bouquet, wear a garter or 'cut the cake' with Joel but we did serve a pie to each guest after dinner which made for a very fun informal alternative to the receiving line. We also had a sweetheart table and no head table. Guests came by and chatted with us all through dinner. After dinner almost all the tables were taken down so everyone took to the dance floor. We had the two time Juno Nominated roots band The Bills play the whole night long for us. Bringing my brother's band up was a special gift from my parents and they made sure we all danced the night away. My husband and I retired to a cabin on the lake and spent the rest of the weekend having after parties with family and guests. Our biggest challenge: There were a lot of challenges! It was a larger wedding by alt-wedding standards and while we paid for it ourselves it still ended up being a challenge to make our families happy. The funny thing was both of our parents had very alternative weddings back in the '70s so their input was almost always “what are you doing that for?” In the end we all had a blast. My favorite moment: In the canoe right after the ceremony when we looked at each other and said “we did it” My offbeat advice: Your budget is your business, don't share it with anyone you're not marrying unless they are picking up the tab. That's one thing I regret doing. I thought it would be a gesture of sharing and openness to make that available to the parents but it really made things very difficult having our families in on the nitty gritty details that were really between my FH and myself. One thing you don't need is people questioning what you are your fiance have carefully put together based on your values as a couple. Make some boundaries! Enough talk — show me the wedding porn: So many beautiful photos, so little time … Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Wedding invitations from Retrospective Design NEXT Pre-order your "Altar your thinking" t-shirt! Show/Hide comments [ 17 ] The weather made for one of the most stunning backdrops I've ever seen. Reply Fabulous dress! (And I love that his tie is from the same material!) Interesting thought about not sharing budget – I would have agreed with you about being open but you make a good point. Reply What lovely photos! Interesting point about the budget. Only one person knows of ours, and I'd probably keep it that way… Thanks for sharing your wonderful day! Reply "…I had lots of ideas but I also knew that everything had to be different from anything I had worked on for a client…" I feel exactly the same way. Everything here sounds incredible and heartfelt – and it was Canadian, to boot! Your style of elegance and comfort is exactly what I want to capture when I get married. Reply You chose a gorgeous place for the ceremony. The weather made your pictures look Anne Lebowitzesque. Reply Gorgeous wedding! And I have to agree about not sharing the budget. Ours was pretty modest by wedding standards, but since we don't run in a wealthy crowd, I *know* that people assumed it cost more than it did! And there's a lot of alt-culture snobbery about paying less (which I've been guilty of myself, no doubt). I had one friend do her damndest to get a number out of me and ask how much my father was contributing and it felt very invasive! It's like being asked how much you make per year – there's just no way revealing the truth is going to be a positive thing, because what seems modest and affordable to you might be overwhelmingly extravagant to another. Just don't go there! Reply I love the idea of a wedding in a barn. And the circle idea! I might snag that one. Reply Thank you for posting this and your pictures! My fiance and I have been going a bit crazy trying to figure out how to have everyone be in a circle and still be able to see. Seeing your picture of how you set the chairs up made the whole thing suddenly make sense. Yay! Congratulations on such a beautiful unique wedding! Reply Absolutely gorgeous wedding! I'm going to have to steal the wedding pies idea. My fiance has an obsession with pie and both of us are not too fond of cake. Reply I love the gold dress. So spectacular. Reply Beautiful dress, beautiful wedding. I really love the flowers though – and I was wondering what greenery you used. Thanks! Reply The green in the bouquet was ivy. Thanks for the comments everyone! Reply As a redhead, I have never looked forward to wearing white, and of course red doesn't do me any favors either. After seeing you in that gold gown, my light-bulb has totally gone off. THANK YOU! Reply you glowed. what a stunning wedding. i loce your favours too – i might have to do something similar for my Really Big Party 🙂 Reply Can I go back in time and row the canoe for you? Brilliant wedding! I love the old-timey feeling of it all, from the barn to the folk band to the tiny pies in lieu of a cake. Reply […] we thought for sure weâ€™d want to book Strathcona Park Lodge (this wedding there remains a major source of inspiration). Iâ€™d never been to Canada before! Crazy, huh? Boy, […] Reply Those photos are gorgeous. Any chance you could share the name of your photographer? Congrats! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.