So, what about Wedinator?

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I found Offbeat Bride through Wedinator — it was linked under one of the comments of a photo posted there. Wedinator tends to bash strange wedding choices. However, after reading Offbeat Bride, I discovered a number of photos from Wedinator had appeared here first. What's your opinion on all this? Some of the comments over there can be rather closed minded. -Sarah

Ah yes. Wedinator. Well, let me say this right off the bat: Since the whole point of Wedinator is making fun of people's weddings, of course it's not really my style. But it's a great big internet, and they've got every right to their snarky little corner of it.

Now, having said that, of course I have some opinions on the matter…

So sure: Wedinator isn't my thang when it comes to tone, but that's just a matter of taste. My only actual beef with them is that they feature unsourced photos. I've brought this up with their editors, and they respond that they don't have control over it when users submit photos without a source, and that as soon as someone identifies an image, they always credit it. Thankfully, Offbeat Bride has enough readers that Wedinator commenters usually recognize OBB photos pretty quickly — as you evidently found by seeing Offbeat Bride referenced on the site!

Amusingly, every exchange I've had with the Wedinator folks always ends with a friendly, “We love Offbeat Bride!” and well, of course they do — we're a treasure trove of free content for their site!

Ultimately, I have no control what happens to photos and content once it's posted on Offbeat Bride. Of course it would be cool if everyone on the internet played nice, but the reality of the situation is that photos and stories get lifted from Offbeat Bride every day … sometimes we get mentioned as a source, and sometimes we don't.

Offbeat Bride is a gold mine for writers looking for sources. I know that there's at least one writer quietly mining the Offbeat Bride community for book material right now, and I'm frequently contacted by journalists looking for brides to talk to. Some of these journalists credit Offbeat Bride as a source in their final pieces, and some of them don't. (For the record: if you're a journalist or author using Offbeat Bride as a source of material: it's cool, but please be polite and email me to say hello!)

I get it, though: as you point out, Wedinator is part of the Cheezburger network, founders of the ultimate lolcat website, and so of course unsourced photos are par for the course. Because really: who cares who took that photo of a tabby with the words O RLY? So there's a precedent here of them not sourcing photos. As I've mentioned to the Wedinator editors, unsourced photos of cats are one thing … unsourced photos of real people's real weddings feel like a different matter. But it's their site, and they can run it with whatever policies they'd like. It's not my job to police the internet.

Someone on the internet is WRONG!Really, this is all an exercise in online etiquette, because here's the deal breaker: I don't own the images that appear on Offbeat Bride. Granted, we make a point to attribute and link all photos we feature on the site — but it's not like they're MY photos.

The copyrights for the photos on Offbeat Bride belong to the photographers, and the wedding stories belong to each bride who submits her wedding to be profiled. Offbeat Bride, like Wedinator, features a lot of user-submitted content, and really the only differences are that A) we make a point to attribute photographers and B) celebrate weddings … while they run A) unsourced work and B) snark about weddings.

Like I said at the start though: ultimately it's a great big internet out there. Wedinator's not my style, so I don't read it … I'd rather spend my time celebrating weird weddings right here.

Comments on So, what about Wedinator?

  1. I don’t treat anything I put on the internet as secure (including emails) but life’s too short to worry about the snarky stuff and I’m happy to celebrate the weird and wonderful here

  2. what’s effed up about their response about the sourceless photos, is they don’t -have- to post them just because they were submitted. but after looking at the site, obviously they wouldn’t have much to post if they only posted photos with sources. seriously though, requiring a source for a photo would not be a difficult policy to impose.

    i am very biased and judgemental, so that website bugs me a lot. the criticisms are so bland and pedestrian. look a weird cake! that lady had big hair! when wedding culture is so rife with effed up crap that really needs to be examined and/or publicly shamed, to settle in as arbiters of the obvious and mainstream is a real effing waste. it’s basically a snarky The Knot in it’s mainstremity. who needs that?

    • I agree. If you demand that pictures have to have sources, then your readers will do it.

  3. The irony is I’ve found some great wedding sites (Offbeat Bride among them) from following links on snarky sites (not this one though).

    I’ve gotten some brilliant ideas by Googling for ‘trashy wedding’ or even ‘bad wedding’ to find sites like the one mentioned above, picking out ideas I actually like and tracing them back to where they were originally posted, which is almost always on blogs like this encoraging the concept of doing something different.

  4. What bothers me about sites like Wedinator is that they’re essentially making fun of innocent, private citizens. I’m all for snark, and when someone is in the public eye (like a politician or an actor), it’s par for the course, but I’ve seen photos submitted to those sites by “friends” who attended the weddings!!

    • Yeah, I think that’s what gets me too — no one’s going to get their feelings hurt when a picture of their cat gets LOLed. But snarking about real people’s weddings just seems mean.

      Then again, “just seems mean” describes 90% of the internet … so it’s not a battle I’m going to take on!

  5. Oh man, I have never seen this site untill now! I have managed to find something I like out of everyone of those weddings. This is literally the worst site I have ever seen. I mean, Beautiful Katamari Wedding cake is a dream of mine 🙁

    • Yeah, even the snark isn’t all that good. I mean, if you’re going to make a name for yourself making fun of people in a public forum, at least be funny or clever.

    • The paragraph under the Katamari wedding cake complimented it – in fact, they said they “bow to its greatness.”

      Wedinator can be a bit harsh sometimes, but I read it a lot and most of the time they’re making fun of people’s terrible wardrobe malfunctions or unintended things happening in the background of the photos. It’s really not a judgement on your taste if they happen to poke fun at something you like.

      It’s the internet, and everything on the internet is clearly intended to offend someone. The important part is that offbeat bride is awesome.

  6. For people who want to at least ATTEMPT to source photos, there’s tineye.com It’s a reverse image search engine, up load in the link for picture, they show you where it came from. (HUGE help when you find something you must have and have no clue where it came from.)

    And as much as some people are embracing offbeatness, the mainstream opinion is often to still to be cruel and nasty to anything that is different. (The show 4 weddings is a good example of this)

    • Thanks for this tip. I work for a TV production studio and this would be super helpful!

  7. I had never seen Wedinator before, either, and…yawn. I mean, I had to cut myself off from Go Fug Yourself because it was snarky, but at least it was hilarious! Wediwhatevr is unfunny and lame. And then they made fun of Pushba the Adorable, so apparently they are enemies of all that is cute and interesting in this world. Yeesh. I may have to go look up pictures of that sweet family to get the Wedijunk taste out of my brain…

  8. Maybe we should water mark OBB on our photos???

    and screw all the level minded jerks out there who want to have their fake, normal, boring weddings that have no personality and just flaunt their money!!!

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