The beauty of simplicity: When a family member gets a terminal diagnosis, your wedding priorities shift

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This weekend I attended the wedding of my brother-in-law Chris in Missoula. He and his fiance, Sacha, had intended to get married in September … but when they got the word a couple weeks ago that Chris's mother's cancer was back with a vengeance and her time is limited, they moved the wedding up by four months. The whole event was planned in about 10 weeks.

Aisle, Montana-style

Vows in hand

The wedding was positively beautiful, and lead to me to think about how in many ways wedding planning will expand to fill as much time and/or money as you want to throw at it. If you have two weeks to prepare, you strip it down to the most important things and the result is deeply meaningful. In the case of this wedding, the top priority was that the mother of the groom be present. And she was.

Jerry & Sallie look on

The bride and her cheekbones

I acted as stand-in wedding photographer:

Big Sky wedding

More of my pictures of this backyard Montana wedding are over here.

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Comments on The beauty of simplicity: When a family member gets a terminal diagnosis, your wedding priorities shift

  1. Wow. You my dear are pretty f’in talented with the camera. You took all those great pics? Ever think about doing some engagement photos? I’ll hire you 😉

  2. We are trying to keep our wedding as simple as possible and it has made the whole process so stress free. Our parents keep calling and offering to help and there just isn’t anything that they need to do- it’s awesome.

  3. Congratulations to them… now I am going to go hide in the bathroom and have a good cry.

  4. Congratulations to them both. We are having to push forward our wedding date due to family members with cancer too. It may not be the wedding I dreamed of, but its more than worth it.

  5. Where did she find the beautiful dress? It is simple and perfect, just like the rest of the day, by the look of it.

  6. What a beautiful wedding. Really hits home that weddings aren’t so much about the party details, but celebrating with those you love.

  7. Hi Ariel – Beautiful job on this post! Your sister-in-law’s dress is amazing… I’m in Montana as well and have had the toughest time finding an casual/elegant tea length dress. Any idea where she got it? Thank you!!

  8. I am the lucky sister-in-law who had the good fortune of having Ariel snap all of her amazing pictures. I found my dress in Portland, OR. It was made by a local designer, Lena Medoyeff. Her dresses are handmade, fair trade and amazingly affordable.

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