The Offbeat Bride: Astrid, Biology Student and Retail Princess (and OBT member “Astrid“)

Her Offbeat Partner: Kyle, Network Analyst and Professional Napper

Location & date of wedding: The Virginia V, Seattle, WA — July 24, 2008

What made our wedding offbeat: Our wedding wasn't super offbeat, but it was authentically us. We left out all the traditions that didn't hold any meaning to us or rubbed us the wrong way. We mutually decided to get married, without a proposal or engagement ring. We had a secular ceremony and we walked down the aisle (“the stairs”) together.

There was no veil, no garter, no first dance, no cake cutting, no bouquet toss. What we did keep we did ourselves. Handmade invitations, centerpieces of potted plants; we glazed the pots ourselves! We made our a photo guest book out of our baby photos. We wrote our ceremony to fit us as a couple. It was an awesome party.

Our biggest challenge: We were really lucky to have supportive family members. My mother, who sometimes took a while to get on board with my “offbeat” ideas, was totally into making them work.

However, I got a lot of grief from my more casual acquaintances about my lack of proposal and engagement ring. They even questioned the seriousness of our intentions to get married because my finger was bare.

People also had a really hard time with us getting married on a Thursday. There were very few actual scheduling conflicts, as the wedding was at 6:30 and only lasted 3 1/2 hours, but it not being held on a Saturday night seemed to rub a lot of people the wrong way.


My favorite moment: There are so many, but two stick out in my mind.

The first, during the ceremony, looking out at all our friends and family and picking out the faces of my loved ones was really emotional and wonderful.

Later, my husband and I were dancing to Frankie Valli & the Four Seasons “Can't Take My Eyes Off Of You,” and at the chorus everyone on the dance floor spontaneously burst out into song. It completely made my night.

My advice to other offbeat brides: Schedule your day wisely. We started getting ready at 11am for our 6:30 wedding, and I couldn't have been happier about it. We finished up all of our formal portraits ahead of schedule, and had about an hour to just hang out at home and eat bagels before we had to get down to the boat. It was super relaxing to have that chill time with my husband and our party before the big show.

Also, get a great photographer. I fell in love with Alex Rubin‘s photography online (I was pretty obsessed, actually), and I'm so glad we decided to go with him, even though it was over our original photo budget. Pictures are one of the few things that last more than one day, so they shouldn't be something you skimp on.

Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!:


Comments on Astrid & Kyle’s Seattle Boat Wedding

  1. OMG it's ME! And just in time for our first anniversary on Friday. (!!!)

    I completely forgot what I had written for this so it was exciting to read it this morning.

    Ms. Avery, I got my hair inspiration from Ariel's short wedding hairstyles post.

  2. OMG, that dress is to die for, and the hair adds to the look. Can I ask who makes it? What a beautiful couple.

  3. Astrid, who was your photographer? You mention him as "Alex" but I couldn't find a link or anything — We're getting married next year on Camano, and I'm already shopping Seattle-area photogs 🙂

  4. Oh, Astrid – I feel as if I'm reading about my own wedding review before it even happened! It's lovely to hear that someone else had a not-super-offbeat-but-genuine wedding that was an event to remember – I'll think of it when I start stressing about my own planning.

    And thanks for the tip about getting a good photographer – I think you've finally sold me!

    (PS – that dress is KILLER)

  5. Nadia, the dress is a Maggie Sottero Destinations dress, but you won't even recognize it on her website; it looks just AWFUL on the model.

    amasea, My photographer was Alex Rubin, and you can get to his website from any of my pro pictures on my Flickr. I highly recommend him.

    • Thanks Astrid and honestly you're right about teh model that dress looks so much better on you. You looked gorgeous congrats.

  6. Ahhhh! This is such a blast from the past! This is one of the very first weddings I totally swooned over when I first joined OBT last summer. (Astrid's hair has been hanging out in my inspiration folder ever since.) I still love every detail just as much as I did back then. :o)

  7. It was great working with both you and Kyle. You are my favorite type of client, fun, quirky and INTO photography. I hope you have a very happy anniversary.

    Best regards,

    Alex Rubin

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