Screw “timeless” weddings, I WANT my wedding to look dated

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By: Sarah StewartCC BY 2.0

I am sick of the words “timeless” and “classic.”

I am and never have been either of those things. However, when it comes to weddings, those words seem to be everywhere! When gown hunting, when looking at themes, discussing hair and makeup looks…

I'm pretty sure it's going to be obvious I got married in 2013, and I'm fine with that, because… I will have gotten married in 2013!

Even wearing my hair in a classic style with timeless makeup, there are going to be other clues.

And when I look at photos of my parents' wedding, or grandparents' or anyone's, I love that you can say “oh, how 1940s!” or giggle at dad's ridiculous facial hair.

Part of the appeal of these photos is that they are a snapshot of time, a moment of history caught.

Why would I even try and attempt to circumvent that?

So I am going to be wearing my hair this colour — I know it's not my natural colour, but it is my colour at this time.

And I will wear my hair and makeup in a look that I love right now that will, yes, look dated in several years.

And if I love something and it's “trendy,” I am still damn well going to have it!

And hopefully, my grandchildren will look at the pictures and giggle at how dated and early twenty-first century it all looks.

It will be fine, because it's not timeless. It's a moment of time.

Comments on Screw “timeless” weddings, I WANT my wedding to look dated

  1. Totally. Also, I’ve noticed that the words “classic” and “timeless” often mean “expensive”. People sure do love to abuse the English language, especially when they’re trying to use it to sell me stuff. 🙂

    • That’s a really interesting point I don’t know we’ve heard (or thought about). We use “timeless” in our branding because we try to dodge photo editing trends that are often times a really painful flash-in-the-pan kinda thing (hello, selective coloring). Would you say that “timeless” can translate to “expensive” across the industry, or in specific parts/vendors of it?

  2. I picked a more “timeless” wedding gown because I thought some of the trendy ones looked stupid, and I refused to buy one just because it was the current trend. In the end, I think mine will be unique because it isn’t the same dress everyone else bought this year.

  3. What I love is being able to see the person my parents and grandparents were when they got married in their wedding photos. I only ever knew my grandmother as an old women, I love seeing the photos of her as a smiling young bride in 1954 and seeing glimpses of the young woman she was by the style of dress she wore, the flowers she held, the lucky horsehoe she made.

  4. I absolutely love this and I think that laughing at old photos is a great point. When I’ve looked through old wedding photos in the past, by far the most interesting thing about them was capturing the time.

  5. My wedding was just a mess of everything we like right now, so assuming we like all of this stuff in 40 years, I suppose it will be “timeless”. But it definitely wasn’t that by design.
    Of course, the funny thing is that when people call a look timeless, how do you even know? A look considered timeless in the 70s probably just looks ridiculous to us now. In a few decades, who knows what will be the standard of beauty or fashion? I don’t know, but I can bet that it won’t be what it is right now.

  6. This. x1000. Afterall, what would be the point of lusting after a time machine if all the times were timeless?

  7. What I always love is when, say, wedding gowns that are in absolute lockstep with current trends are touted as “timeless”. There are gowns out there (Kate Middleton’s comes to mind) that would be at home in practically any era, but if they’re not your style, they’re not your style.

  8. I love looking at my parents’ wedding photos. It was 1974, and my mother was in a full length, long sleeved, bohemian style lace gown complete with a big floppy lace hat and veil and my dad was in a tus with a big bowtie with a powder blue ruffled shirt. Those two were definitely of that era, and it is beautiful. I don’t care how much stuff “comes back” in style. I don’t think a wedding that looks like that will exists ever again.

    • My parents had a 1973 hippieish wedding. My dad, the groomsman, the priest, and the minister all wore linen tunics embroidered with giant bright flowers. My mom wore an off-the-rack peasant dress. There were afros. The wedding band was a guitar, a banjo, and a tambourine. I LOVE IT. Always have. I think it’s a representation not only of the ’70s, but of my parents at a younger age, when they were different people.

      I realize this even when I think about the friends who were at the wedding two years ago and all of the new great friends who have come into our lives since then. Things change quickly. The wedding, while symbolizing a long-term commitment, is just a snapshot of our lives in April 2010. The pictures will reflect that not only in the styles, but in the people. And that’s 100% okay.

  9. LOL, love this! I love looking at my parents’ dorky wedding photos. Wouldn’t want to deny my future children the same pleasure.

  10. Eh, ‘timeless’ doesn’t have to mean boring. My guess is that the majority of stuff we’ll be doing could be considered timeless. Ok, come to think of it, maybe timeless does mean boring! (I’m not terribly exciting in general)

    I’ve had the same haircut since I was 3, my choice of clothes are jeans and a t-shirt, and my favorite color combo has and always been and will always be blue and gray. I’m just naturally a ‘not trendy’ person and often struggle finding what I consider standards for clothing.

    But I can almost guarantee you that anything we do will still look dated – if only from the style of other guest’s outfits or the style of photography. And that’s not a horrible thing.

    • Exactly. Even if you choose a “timeless” wedding outfit, hairstyle, etc. your guests won’t. Can’t control that!

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