Package deals, tax write-offs, and pants: Save money on your wedding without the DIY headaches #Budgeting Advice#Wedding 101#budgeting#diy burnout#industry insiders Updated Jun 5 2017 (Posted Sep 10 2014) Guest post by Melissa Miksch Wedding photographer Melissa Miksch has seen a LOT of weddings, now she's giving away her insider info on how to save money at YOUR wedding. Photo by Melissa Miksch As you know, the budget-friendly DIY craze has swept the wedding industry. But what if you're the kind of person who doesn't want a DIY wedding? What if the idea of making your own decorations makes you break out in a nervous sweat just thinking about it? OR, what if you've already got the DIY thing maxed out, but you still need ideas to get the budget beast under control? Fear not! You can still save some serious cash with my budget-friendly tips below… Saving on the package deal Most wedding vendors offer packages. Look closely, and you'll likely notice that the package includes a discount — sometimes big ones. If an offered package doesn't exactly fit your needs, you're better off asking to customize the package as opposed to building your own from scratch, since that discount will likely still be there. Saving on wedding dresses Related Post Prom dresses make daring wedding gowns I'm all for white dresses, red dresses, blue dresses, purple dresses, but ZOMG I actually gasped out loud when I saw this picture of Kelly... Read more Trunk shows can offer special discounts on designer gowns. Many wedding shows have sample sales at steep discounts. Check local second-hand or consignment shops. Online retailers like IGIGI, Dolly Couture, Sydney's Closet, ModCloth, Lord and Taylor, Free People, and BHLDN all offer great lower-cost options! David's Bridal — it isn't for everyone, but sometimes you just can't beat the deals. Many bridesmaid and prom dresses are just as pretty as wedding gowns, and cost less for similar styles. Have a dress made just for you. This can actually be cheaper than buying off the rack. Find a dress that fits well already to keep alterations at a minimum. If you go "train-free," you don't have to worry about a bustle. Check local stores during sundress season to see if something pretty pops up. Go short. Less material = less cost. Saving on the wedding pants Related Post Reinventing the tuxedo with offbeat grooms It's time for a little inappropriate staring and offbeat groom ogling. This one is dedicated to grooms who are reinventing the tuxedo — top hats,... Read more When renting tuxes, often one tux is free if you rent a certain number for the day. Check with the rental company. Also, most people won't notice if you rent the fancy tux, so stick with the cheaper options. For something you'll own and get more use out of, go for a suit. Look for good sales, or consider places like K&G or Burlington Coat Factory. Skip the jacket, and simply wear black slacks, a dress shirt, and a black tie for a casual/cool almost formal look. Khakis and a nice shirt are a great way to dial back the formality, especially for beachy or nautical-themed weddings. Jeans and cowboy boots are a cool option for all those trendy rustic chic weddings, too! Saving on the catering bill Related Post The Cheap Bastardette's guide to self-catering your wedding Our plan: rather than pay $15 per head for upwards of 160 guests (is it just me, or is the guest count never where I... Read more Does one of your favorite restaurants offer catering? These will often be lower-cost options than caterers that specialize in fancy wedding meals. Think alternative. We had a couple recently that catered with gourmet pizza. It. Was. Awesome. Food trucks are in the same category — unusual food, great creative presentation, and so much fun in addition to saving money. Who doesn't love that? Did you know that most caterers charge a cake cutting fee? With cupcakes, there's usually no fee. And cupcakes can even cost less than a "serving" of wedding cake, too. Have your friends and family toast with whatever is in their glasses instead of champagne, and you'll also skip out on pour fees, the cost of the booze, and potential corking fees as well! Saving on the venue Some venues include items you would otherwise need to rent (from tables and chairs, to linens, decor, and even china). So it is always a good idea to do a full cost comparison to see what you're getting. Some local parks allow you to rent out certain areas for weddings. Local community centers are often less expensive than "wedding venues," and often still include the tables and chairs. Consider a weekday wedding, or a wedding during the late fall or early spring. You'll probably get a better rate than you will on weekends or during the summer or holidays. Sometimes you can rent out restaurants (or their banquet rooms) for nothing more than a food/drink minimum. Getting married at your church? You can look into whether they have a reception space you'd be interested in using. Saving on decor Related Post How to make yarn poofball wedding decor in three easy steps There are other yarn flower tutorials out there, but my method requires the LEAST amount of materials, and once you're done there are SO many... Read more Recycle. One of the easiest ways to save money is to re-use your ceremony decor during the reception. Bouquets and aisle and altar flowers can easily be re-purposed if you're careful with design. You can also buy decor that you can use in your home after the wedding. If you can donate your decor to a non-profit after your big day, it's a tax write off. No immediate savings here, but you will see some come tax time. Think outside the box. If you're using a regular florist, incorporate lots of greenery and in-season flowers to cut the bill down. Also, if you're thoughtful with your venue choice, you may not need a lot of decor at all. Consider your guest list Consider cutting down your guest list. Each person you don't invite is one fewer person you pay the caterer for, one less place setting to rent, one less chair to rent. Consider spending money to save money Hire a planner: Good planners have lots of contacts in the industry that often times will offer them referral discounts, meaning savings are directly passed on to you! Hire a great photographer: This may not save you money, but an experienced wedding photographer can take beautiful photos of even the most frugal events and make it look like a million bucks. This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Melissa Miksch Photography What are YOUR favorite budget-saving wedding ideas? Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Guest post written by Melissa Miksch I'm a wedding photographer from the Seattle area that loves helping brides and grooms make the most of their big day! I have a wonderful husband, precocious toddler, 4 cats, and an obsession with chocolate and all things sparkly. http://melissamiksch.com PREVIOUS Stephanie & James' Snow White meets Americana retro wedding NEXT Marilee & Lizz aka "Sasquatch and gnome" get hitched in a nature park Show/Hide comments [ 20 ] all good advice, and I especially like the last tip: •Hire a great photographer: This may not save you money, but an experienced wedding photographer can take beautiful photos of even the most frugal events and make it look like a million bucks. I have seen some very unadorned weddings on OBB that look amazing because of a talented photographer. Reply I would also add -resell decorations and/or buy decorations on Craigslist or similar. I got all my pillar vases on CL, and will be able to resell at cost. Reply One thing to note about Free People. Their dresses go out of stock fast. Also, they change up their stock each season. So if you see something, grab it quick! Reply Here's a fun one: skip paying for a limo or other fancy ride and hit up someone (who is coming from nearby) for a lift. Anyone would be excited to have one (or both) of the happy couple along for the ride. My parents were SO excited to drive me to my wedding, they are much more reliable than paid drivers, and I saved a lot of $$. Or how about: The wedding I was in this summer, the bridal party took public transit to the wedding. The photos were amazing and, again, saved a tonne of money. Reply Public Transit sounds like SO MUCH FUN! I would love to have a chance to photograph that wedding. Reply We've featured a TON of really cool public transportation options (including a couple who rode Seattle's SLUT!). See 'em here: http://offbeatbride.com/tag/transportation 🙂 Reply I love that we have public transportation called the SLUT. 🙂 You know they had so many other options of how to name it, but somebody high up said "fuck it, it's hilarious." Reply Ask your caterer about any additional service fees or mandatory gratuities not included in your per head fee for servers. We just got nailed with an unexpected $900 service fee because no one mentioned it to us through the entire process. Yes it makes sense to pay for servers (and yes they deserve tips) but it wasn't something we had budgeted for because we didnt know it wasnt already included and now we're scrambling to pay it. Know EXACTLY ALL fees up front. Reply Ouch! I loved my caterer (the food was amazing), but they decided to help out the bartenders we had putting our champagne together for the toast. On the day of I was all "Oh, that was super nice!". Then they charged us for the pour fee…. that they weren't contracted for. *smh* Reply also, a great source for simple suits at a very reasonable price – http://www.combatgent.com. their selection is somewhat limited, but you get a very decent quality suit with a ton of versatility for pretty cheap. plus they have a wedding deal for the groom's suit free if you've got at least 6 suit-wearers. FH bought one for his residency interviews and will probably get another for the wedding. Reply We passed on the champagne toast as well…not so much to save money on the actual booze, but because it would have cost money and been too much of a hassle to rent 130 champagne glasses! Reply It's sad when it costs more to rent the glasses and have someone fill them than the actual booze itself… Reply Depending on the baker cupcakes may not be cheaper than a full cake. There is just as much labor (and sometimes more) involved in making cupcakes as there is a basic wedding cake. On that note, please remember that while saving money is great, if you are getting custom services expect to pay a custom price. A hand made gown is not going to be as cheap as a knock off from China because you are (or at least you should be) paying your seamstress a fair wage. I guess I'm just saying to be aware of the human cost of "low cost" and to remember that your vendors are humans beings who have to make rent too. Artists and craftspeople are happy to work with your budget; but you should be aware of theirs as well. Reply Totally agree, though it seems to me that handmade dresses are often priced in the £100s, not the £1000s, making them cheaper than a lot of dresses in dedicated bridal stores. They are, of course, generally more expensive than off-the-rack dresses from a regular clothes shop, and I wouldn't expect them not to be. Reply You make an excellent point about the fair wage side of things. As an artist myself, I totally agree with you. It really boils down to how intricate your "custom" item is, and what you're trying to cut costs on. You're also right about the cupcakes – it really depends on what you're shopping for. It is just my general experience that a bunch of cupcakes with basic buttercream and minimal decorations is a much cheaper option that a fondant and sugar covered cake. And they usually taste better, too. lol But yeah, always a good idea to do the cost comparisons for sure! Reply Sunday wedding. Buy a used dress online. Reply When renting tuxes, often one tux is free if you rent a certain number for the day. Check with the rental company. Also, most people won't notice if you rent the fancy tux, so stick with the cheaper options. — a hundred times this. My other is in a wedding next month and he's paying neatly $250 after taxes to rent a tux. Because the tag in the jacket is a wedding designer. I looked at it… And really, it's just a tux jacket, nothing special. Reply Save money on your wedding is very useful! Reply I have one- wedding pie! We're getting a dozen pies instead of a cake, and it costs about $400 total including delivery for all of them from a nice local bakery. Saved several hundred at least (I think the median in my area was $700 for a traditional wedding cake, but I think it depends on how big- I'm in an expensive DC suburb). And yes, custom can totally cost less than off-the-rack, or the same for higher quality. For example, my dress is going to add up to $1,400 because I splurged, but it's a bespoke, custom-fit (in person, not just measurements) steel-boned silk corset and 100% silk skirt to match. That's for the price of the top-end of David's Bridal (polyester, and not including fitting costs which add up there) or a very simple dress at a fancy wedding salon. Reply Skip the favors! Seriously, no one will notice. And most people don't want to have to carry favors to their hotels or in their luggage home. Many guests miss them on the way out anyways, and you're left with a table of candles/olive oil/champagne glasses/frames. I can't remember one wedding favor that I kept or use today. The one-off mugs or custom items with your names are cute on the day, but I will be donating to Goodwill when I clean out the cabinet next year. Save your money! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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all good advice, and I especially like the last tip: •Hire a great photographer: This may not save you money, but an experienced wedding photographer can take beautiful photos of even the most frugal events and make it look like a million bucks. I have seen some very unadorned weddings on OBB that look amazing because of a talented photographer. Reply
I would also add -resell decorations and/or buy decorations on Craigslist or similar. I got all my pillar vases on CL, and will be able to resell at cost. Reply
One thing to note about Free People. Their dresses go out of stock fast. Also, they change up their stock each season. So if you see something, grab it quick! Reply
Here's a fun one: skip paying for a limo or other fancy ride and hit up someone (who is coming from nearby) for a lift. Anyone would be excited to have one (or both) of the happy couple along for the ride. My parents were SO excited to drive me to my wedding, they are much more reliable than paid drivers, and I saved a lot of $$. Or how about: The wedding I was in this summer, the bridal party took public transit to the wedding. The photos were amazing and, again, saved a tonne of money. Reply
Public Transit sounds like SO MUCH FUN! I would love to have a chance to photograph that wedding. Reply
We've featured a TON of really cool public transportation options (including a couple who rode Seattle's SLUT!). See 'em here: http://offbeatbride.com/tag/transportation 🙂 Reply
I love that we have public transportation called the SLUT. 🙂 You know they had so many other options of how to name it, but somebody high up said "fuck it, it's hilarious." Reply
Ask your caterer about any additional service fees or mandatory gratuities not included in your per head fee for servers. We just got nailed with an unexpected $900 service fee because no one mentioned it to us through the entire process. Yes it makes sense to pay for servers (and yes they deserve tips) but it wasn't something we had budgeted for because we didnt know it wasnt already included and now we're scrambling to pay it. Know EXACTLY ALL fees up front. Reply
Ouch! I loved my caterer (the food was amazing), but they decided to help out the bartenders we had putting our champagne together for the toast. On the day of I was all "Oh, that was super nice!". Then they charged us for the pour fee…. that they weren't contracted for. *smh* Reply
also, a great source for simple suits at a very reasonable price – http://www.combatgent.com. their selection is somewhat limited, but you get a very decent quality suit with a ton of versatility for pretty cheap. plus they have a wedding deal for the groom's suit free if you've got at least 6 suit-wearers. FH bought one for his residency interviews and will probably get another for the wedding. Reply
We passed on the champagne toast as well…not so much to save money on the actual booze, but because it would have cost money and been too much of a hassle to rent 130 champagne glasses! Reply
It's sad when it costs more to rent the glasses and have someone fill them than the actual booze itself… Reply
Depending on the baker cupcakes may not be cheaper than a full cake. There is just as much labor (and sometimes more) involved in making cupcakes as there is a basic wedding cake. On that note, please remember that while saving money is great, if you are getting custom services expect to pay a custom price. A hand made gown is not going to be as cheap as a knock off from China because you are (or at least you should be) paying your seamstress a fair wage. I guess I'm just saying to be aware of the human cost of "low cost" and to remember that your vendors are humans beings who have to make rent too. Artists and craftspeople are happy to work with your budget; but you should be aware of theirs as well. Reply
Totally agree, though it seems to me that handmade dresses are often priced in the £100s, not the £1000s, making them cheaper than a lot of dresses in dedicated bridal stores. They are, of course, generally more expensive than off-the-rack dresses from a regular clothes shop, and I wouldn't expect them not to be. Reply
You make an excellent point about the fair wage side of things. As an artist myself, I totally agree with you. It really boils down to how intricate your "custom" item is, and what you're trying to cut costs on. You're also right about the cupcakes – it really depends on what you're shopping for. It is just my general experience that a bunch of cupcakes with basic buttercream and minimal decorations is a much cheaper option that a fondant and sugar covered cake. And they usually taste better, too. lol But yeah, always a good idea to do the cost comparisons for sure! Reply
When renting tuxes, often one tux is free if you rent a certain number for the day. Check with the rental company. Also, most people won't notice if you rent the fancy tux, so stick with the cheaper options. — a hundred times this. My other is in a wedding next month and he's paying neatly $250 after taxes to rent a tux. Because the tag in the jacket is a wedding designer. I looked at it… And really, it's just a tux jacket, nothing special. Reply
I have one- wedding pie! We're getting a dozen pies instead of a cake, and it costs about $400 total including delivery for all of them from a nice local bakery. Saved several hundred at least (I think the median in my area was $700 for a traditional wedding cake, but I think it depends on how big- I'm in an expensive DC suburb). And yes, custom can totally cost less than off-the-rack, or the same for higher quality. For example, my dress is going to add up to $1,400 because I splurged, but it's a bespoke, custom-fit (in person, not just measurements) steel-boned silk corset and 100% silk skirt to match. That's for the price of the top-end of David's Bridal (polyester, and not including fitting costs which add up there) or a very simple dress at a fancy wedding salon. Reply
Skip the favors! Seriously, no one will notice. And most people don't want to have to carry favors to their hotels or in their luggage home. Many guests miss them on the way out anyways, and you're left with a table of candles/olive oil/champagne glasses/frames. I can't remember one wedding favor that I kept or use today. The one-off mugs or custom items with your names are cute on the day, but I will be donating to Goodwill when I clean out the cabinet next year. Save your money! Reply