Squeeze a little afternoon delight into your wedding day #Advice#sex#steal-this-idea November 21 2013 | Guest post by Cassie "Here for the Sex" cupcake toppers When my husband and I got married, we had an afternoon wedding followed by pictures. Then we rounded up our guests and took them to dinner. My husband and I deliberately planned about three hours between the wedding and dinner so that we could have our pictures taken without feeling rushed. After the pictures were done, we still had about forty-five minutes before dinner. So we went back to our hotel room to relax and ended up having some pretty great post-wedding sex. I looked a little mussed at the reception, but the formal pictures were already done. Most people were too busy eating to notice anyway. After the reception, like most couples, we were too tired to do anything more than brush our teeth together. So if wedding-day sex is important to you, you can make it happen by getting creative with your location and time. It doesn't have to be limited to your hotel room at the end of the night. Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Cassie I'm an indie editor living in Tampa with six and a half cats. I spend my free time baking and trying to convince my husband to let me get a goat. PREVIOUS Ferne & Ben's geeky science fiction wedding NEXT How do you secretly find out your partner's ring size? Show/Hide comments [ 15 ] Me and my fiance are planning a small destination wedding (20 guests) at 11am in the Bahamas. We're having a reception on the beach after the wedding and then hanging out with our guest on the resort's private island beach for the rest of the day. We are totally planning on consummating our marriage pretty early in the afternoon! I've heard and read about so many couples that don't even end up enjoying each other on their wedding day or night because they're too tired, or drunk or whatever… That won't be us! We planned an 11am wedding so we could get on with the wedding and enjoy each other for the entire day. I understand everyone loves a good party, don't get me wrong but you have to prioritize the day appropriately 🙂 3 agree Reply I love this idea! FH and I are doing a first look, and we've joked that after that we will consummate pre-ceremony (probably won't actually happen, but let's keep our options open!). Side note: I LOVE Susabellas. Reply Haha- we said our "I do"s, do let's do it! 1 agrees Reply If you're going to do something like that, make sure you have ways of keeping your guests entertained. Three hours sounds like a pretty long wait (at least it is here in Norway, traditions might be different in the US). I've been to a few weddings/parties where there was nothing to do except to hang out at some tiny, unexciting venue far away from everything else. BOOORING. While it's YOUR wedding day, I think you also have some responsibility to take care of your guests and keep them happy (to a certain extent). I don't see any reasons why it shouldn't be possible to pull off both things, though. 🙂 15 agree Reply We had a destination wedding and we made sure that everyone was well aware of the schedule when we got there, because you're right. Three hours of sitting around is BORING. I think most of our guests went shopping after the wedding. We're a group of introverts, so I think they appreciated the unscheduled time as well. 1 agrees Reply 3 hours is kind of long, even in the US. That being said, you could always having a quickie with some *ahem* battery-powered assistance. 1 agrees Reply Yeah, this very much depends on the location of the wedding — three hours when your wedding is a destination beach wedding or hosted at a lakeside summer camp? AWESOME. Three hours when your guests are standing around outside a suburban strip mall reception hall? Perhaps less awesome for them. 6 agree Reply I'm getting married on the beach in paradise island July 2014 and we have 4 hours in between ceremony and reception. They have as Cocktail hour that I can pay per person for ordurves in between. (Place is already all inclusive) But I am also having a reception back home in Chicago a month later. Not sure if it's worth it. Reply three hours is way too long to leave your guests hanging. You need to host them properly from the start of the ceremony to the end of the reception. 2 agree Reply Jewish weddings traditionally have something called a "yichud," in which the couple has quiet time alone immediately after the ceremony. We had a very very brief quickie, some food that the caterer dropped off, and a few minutes to just sit and be happy before we went out and joined the party. 14 agree Reply We're borrowing the idea of a yichud for our wedding! I've spoken with friends who've had traditional Jewish weddings and they've said that those few minutes can be a wonderful respite from the day, and also very memorable. Who knows..maybe we'll sneak some hanky panky in there as well. 🙂 4 agree Reply Our wedding was at 10am, bbq afterward, then a looong break until dinner that night. 😉 We did our post-wedding lovin' in between the bbq and dinner. 2 agree Reply This reminds me of Dan Savage's excellent Valentine's Day advice to "fuck first": http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/02/13/sl-letter-of-the-day-a-gentle-reminder 3 agree Reply That advice totally works for weddings, if that's your jam! Reply I'm only getting married once so hell yes to breakfast sex (and eggs benedict) in the morning before the wedding! We are getting ready together anyways. 🙂 Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. 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