How this bride entered wedding stealth mode on Pinterest

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We all have at least one friend we follow on Pinterest who is guilty of obsessively over-pinning wedding stuff. The non-stop hoarding of the typical wedding/spam pins have made me realize a couple of things:

  1. Unfollow that shiznit, pronto, before you burst into an epic feminist-esque rage.
  2. Excessive pinning to a non-secret board can be annoying.

Enlightenment #2 made a light bulb go off in my head. Secret boards are great for this situation. But they're also kind of lonely.

My solution…

I created a whole separate account, solely dedicated to wedding planning. None of our friends have to know about it OR be forced to follow the boards, unless they are the ones who have been helping us with planning.

A second benefit: I promised myself to only follow wedding-related boards on the account I'm pinning wedding-related stuff to. That way, I can easily switch from “Everyday Me” to “Wedding Me.” There's going to be a day when I'm going to need to keep myself away from all things wedding — be it prevent “bridal-blog-overload,” or because I'm starting to compare our decisions to what others are doing. In short, it's my sanity safe lock.

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I guess one more positive is that the details of our wedding will not be spoiled before the event — or for that matter, judged before final decisions are even made. Already, I've avoided talking about our wedding on Facebook, and never-ever tweet about it. All my urges to share details and vent are channeled through here, where the content is relative and appropriate — and my identity is sort of anonymous.

Can people find “Wedding Me” on Pinterest? Yeah, but only if they actively seek me out or stumble upon my stuff — and I'm cool with that. Just as long as I'm not throwing out all these details into a space where it can be considered overshare, I can feel at peace.

Comments on How this bride entered wedding stealth mode on Pinterest

  1. Thank you so this totally awesome and simple idea – I kick myself for not thinking of this sooner. I have been meticulous in not pinning anything wedding-related – instead going “low-tech” haha with bookmarks and screenshots. My engagement is not something that has been announced on social media so if I started pinning I would be bombarded with comments and questions and congrats from people we have not told = awkward and annoying. When and if I decide to share any details on social media it will likely be minimal and close to the actual wedding date, so this is such a great way to keep the planning private or within the small circle of people we have told. Off to create my secret account!

  2. I’m so happy to read I’m not the only one who did this! I had a secret board going for a long time on my “regular” account that it had over 500 pins and I was overwhelmed. That was when I decided to do the extra “wedding” account and get organized (which I set up before I was engaged). After I was engaged, I made the secret board public and just repinned to the wedding account (if I still liked the pin). I also created another board if I see something I like on my regular account that I want to pin onto my wedding account so I don’t have to dig around.

    Some of my bridesmaids follow my wedding account and I created a “share you ideas” board for friends who love weddings (and they only follow that board so they don’t get a whole bunch of additional wedding pins). I use my secret boards on the wedding account for “finalizing ideas” and “gifts for the wedding party” in case anyone does really look at the account or if anyone stumbles on it who will be invited to the wedding.

    • All that repinning to your new “wedding account” had to take a lot of time…but I’m sure it really cut down on the clutter. PINTEREST PURGE!!!!

      • It did take awhile, but it really did help cut down on the clutter!!! Plus there are at least 3 or 4 different themes on my “normal” account, so I think that will help throw any guests who follow me off!

  3. I find the part about your friends being annoyed by overpinning wedding stuff confusing. It’s so easy to unfollow boards that don’t interest you! Love your advice on organizing though.

  4. Whoa that’s crazily organised! I WISH I’d thought of having a secondary account! Not many of my friends have Pinterest accounts (I know, WTF!) and unfortunately the only people who seem to follow our wedding board are people who don’t like us and used it to try and form some kind of competition. Stupid thing is we were unaware of what they were doing ’til a mutual friend brought it up! I’ve had nothing but grief from this person the entire time I’ve been with my partner, and their insistence on trying to ruin what is the happiest moment of our relationship so far, was crossing the line. So I created a secret board, which had all the stuff that is less traditional, or personal to us (which would cause nasty comments and jibes) the advantage to this is some elements of our day will be a surprise to those who have seen our ‘public’ board, and only us and our wedding photographer have access to the board! I LOVE secret pinterest boards, they have saved us SO much hassle! The only criticism I have is that I wish you could have more than 3 😛

  5. I fully agree! I have a general “Wedding Time” board and then and private “Our Wedding” board that I add people in the wedding to, mother of the groom and bridesmaids so they can see all my personal wedding choice.
    I hadn’t even thought of how annoying it must be to people that follow me to have sooooo much wedding crap pinned…although one of my fiances brothers girlfriends did comment to his brother that she knew we were getting engaged because I was pinning so much wedding stuff! I also just don’t want the general population to have access to all of our personal wedding, pre-wedding options and choices.
    Great advice!!!

    • The secret boards are handy, but I don’t find excessive pinning annoying. Given the flexible options to follow or unfollow individual boards there’s no reason to be annoyed. I follow just one or two of several strangers’ boards, and follow my real life friends but unfollow the individual boards that I find uninteresting.

      • Yeah…I used to have a habit of hitting that “Follow All” button on my friends’ profiles and profiles of blogs I like. Unfortunately that meant having to unfollow multiple pretend-wedding boards one-by-one later on. Annoying to do over time, but totally my fault from not nixing it from the beginning.

  6. Hi girls! Not sure if you all know, but as of very recently (Valentine’s Day 2014, I think), you can have AS MANY SECRET BOARDS AS YOU WANT! So go ahead and knock yourselves out without bombarding your followers with 25 different wedding uses for Mason jars in one afternoon! Thank you, Pinterest!

  7. THANK YOU!! I never would have thought of just making a new pinterest i’m going to go do that now! Pinterest and Facebook got my feelings all hurt so quickly after the engagement. One post that said “we’re thinking about a barn wedding anyone know of any good rustic barns” apparently a barn wedding is both trashy and hilarious at the same time to members of my family. I made one more post about the wedding and I never will again, in fact one of the only things i’m requesting of the wedding party is no FB posts about the wedding, it is officially a secret. Then I start pinning, not a crazy amount (at first) but I forgot it was linked to my FB and the ruby slippers (that I will be wearing as I walk down the yellow brick road) got some real attention that I was not ok with. I managed to make it so FB no longer posts what I pin but most of my friends still follow my pinterest. I get a little annoyed when my friends repin my wedding stuff (I don’t know why I just don’t like it). Now that our trip over the rainbow is a secret it bothers me even more. Thank you so freaking much for this!

    • We almost did a barn wedding! There are two places in our area that actually market their space for weddings – and TRUST ME from pictures we’ve seen, 100% were definitely not what anyone would consider trashy (or, at least anyone I know).

      OH…and that over the rainbow idea is awesome!

  8. Just a small update – Pinterest now allows unlimited secret boards. So now you can make everything secret! Secret wedding! Secret baby! Secret house! Secret spaghetti monster shrine! Or, you know, not secret. Whichever.

    • Yup – this was originally written before the unlimited awesomeness. Thank the lords that changed. However, creating a wedding free zone is still awesome. My mind recently burned out after being forced to think about wedding things that are non-essential and that I really don’t care about (ribbon widths, bridal party shoes, flowers, baskets god knows what). It felt good to log onto my “everyday” account and shift my mind off of wedding-related stuff and onto finding new recipes and organizing garden ideas.

      Side note: I really hope no one makes their spaghetti monster shrines secret. I need ideas too, ya’ll.

  9. Haha, glad I’m not alone! I had a “someday-wedding” board for about a year before we were actually engaged, pinned with everything that may have possibly seemed cool. Once the “fiance” title was official, I made a new account, with an alter ego name and a separate email address, “friended” my reg account, and repinned only the legitimately useful ideas onto the new account, into their own respective boards (eg. “Floral”, “bridesmaids”, “photography”, rather than just “omgeverythingwedding”

    Also, I suddenly realized that rather than cute wedding pictures, I was now pinning actual potential wedding ideas , which I didn’t want all my friends to see!

    Time consuming, yes. SO much easier to navigate when searching for a certain pin? BIG yes!

    • The organizing feels SO GOOD too! There is an option where you can search just your own pins, but I tend to remember the visual and not the written description…so the boards do help.

  10. I realize this is an older post, but when I made a wedding board, I shared it with my mom-in-law and bffs/bridesmaids so only they could see what I was scheming.

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