Bride & Groom in front of 'venue'

The Offbeat Bride: Rachel

Her offbeat partner: Jake, Lead Pharmacy Technician

Date and location of wedding: Arizona State Fair, Phoenix, AZ — October 31, 2013

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our wedding theme was based on my favorite book, Water for Elephants, and had a 1930s circus feel. I purchased a custom paper bouquet and boutonniere made out of a Water for Elephants book and circus-y cardstock! It was so neat reading the excerpts of the book in the flowers.

View from The Ferris Wheel

Bride before ceremony

Elephant shrubbery

Bride's bouquet

Wedding posse

Groomsmen playing games

You could say our wedding was similar to an elopement. We had been planning a wedding at a venue, but the whole thing started to lose its allure as the stress and anxiety began to grow. We wanted something fun, so we scrapped the venue wedding and took a major risk. We remembered the Arizona State Fair is always in town in October. So on opening day, October 11th (20 days before our desired date), we ran down to the State Fair to talk to the carousel supervisor. He directed us to the fair supervisor and we asked if it was possible to have a short ceremony on the carousel. They said they would be glad to accommodate us and even contacted the local news about it!

Wedding party "walking down the aisle"

Bouquets

The guests sat on carousel horses, we walked down the aisle of the carousel to “Circus Fantasy” from the Water for Elephants film soundtrack, the flower girl tossed popcorn, and the bridesmaids carried cotton candy bouquets. The cotton candy proved too hard to resist and were later replaced with candy apples. We rode rides, the groomsmen played games, and we even used a deep-fried Twinkie as our wedding cake. It was like something out of my wildest dreams!

Bride & Father "walking down the aisle"

Waiting for our ceremony to begin

Groom reading his vows

Tell us about the ceremony:
We wanted to be married by someone who would play the part of ringmaster. My dad asked his friend with the biggest personality to fill the position. He wrote our ceremony which was carnival-themed as well:

Dearly beloved, children of all ages, and carnies, too: we are gathered here today, on probably the safest ride at the Arizona State Fair, to award Rachel and Jake lifetime passes on possibly the scariest ride of all, the bonds of holy matrimony, a roller coaster ride with many highs and lows, twists, and turns. It's not recommended for the faint of heart, or those under 42″ tall, but still a ride worth trying. If there is anyone here with just reason why these two should not be joined together, might I direct you to the concession stands. At this time, Rachel and Jake wish to exchange vows that they prepared while searching for a decent parking spot. [At the end:] I now pronounce you husband and wife, you may claim your prize!

Groom's vows

First kiss WITHOUT THE RING

Bride & Groom

Looking at our view

Our biggest challenge:
Our biggest challenge was definitely having our pictures taken. Jake and I had maybe a total of five from our whole relationship. We would run and hide whenever a camera came out. So naturally, we were worried about all the picture taking and the news crews. I was so self-conscious that I didn't even want to look at our wedding photos or watch the news after.

I say “was” because the closer we got to the wedding, the more I realized Jake loves me for all that I am. That it was silly to cry over thinking about what others will think of me on my wedding day. The only opinions that mattered were ours. So when that camera came out, we didn't even notice it.

Carousel ride after the ceremony

My favorite moment:
The most meaningful moments of our wedding were the many times I was reminded why I married the man beside me. For some reason we assumed we could just show up, without rehearsing, and everything would be perfect. HA! So many things went wrong, and being the over-thinker I am, I started to dwell on it. But every time I would start to lose myself in my thoughts, Jake would hold my hand and tell me that everything was fine and that he wouldn't change a thing about our wedding because he was finally my husband. I am so thankful to have such an amazing man forever by my side on this merry-go-round of life.

Best Man telling us we forgot to put our rings on!

My funniest moment:
I have to say the funniest moment was directly after our vows, as we were pronounced husband and wife without our wedding rings. Being in our own world, of course, we kissed! There was a bit of a lull and we didn't understand why. We looked over at the best man, who was holding out the pumpkin with our rings still on it with an expression like, “Uh, guys?” We started to laugh and Jake ran over and retrieved the rings. We were so shaky and nervous, we fumbled to put them on. I was handing Jake my rings and I dropped my wedding band into a hole directly under our carousel horse! Luckily, our officiant had a Leatherman knife, otherwise I don't know how we would have gotten it out!

Groom putting Bride's rings on

Bride drops Groom's ring, Officiant saves the day!

Fried Twinkie in place of wedding cake

Fried Twinkie 'cake cutting'

What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding?
The most important lesson I learned was to not get so wrapped up in the thoughts of everyone else. I spent many days and nights panicking over how the decor should look, how I would look in my wedding dress, what others would think of our wedding, how my double chin would “ruin” our wedding photos, etc. It was really exhausting and unnecessary. The day of the wedding, all of those silly thoughts left my head and it was just us.

To all partners-to-be with low self-esteem and anxiety, I urge you to look around at what matters most to you: your future partner and your life together. I know the details of your day are very important to you, but try to pull yourself out of hardcore wedding planning mode and enjoy the experience.

Just Married

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Comments on Rachel & Jake’s “Water for Elephants” state fair wedding

  1. This wedding is so beautiful that it makes me want to cry! The dresses, the people, the place! This may be one of my favorites I’ve seen on OBB.

  2. Wow oh wow oh wow! you look fabulous and I LOVE the candy floss bouquets for the bridesmaids and your husband looks splendid in his braces and the flowers made from a special book are so fun and how great that you could read the text on them! Such a superb idea having your wedding at the carnival and at a *carousel*!

    It looks like the most marvellous dream, what a wonderful day for you both 🙂

  3. first of all you look exquisite!! I LOVE your hair your makeup is amazing! that DRESS -holy shit- you guys look like you fell right out of the movie. That “just married” photo looks like it fell out of a promo. It’s too perfect, this whole wedding is too perfect I can barely stand it this early in the morning!

    • thank you!! my hairdresser/mua is amazing. & aaaah! that is such a compliment! i’ll admit, we chose our outfits based on what jacob & marlena from water for elephants wore. so to hear you say we look like we fell right out of the movie, i am dead!

    • Wow! One of my favorite weddings ever! Love your hair and the bridesmaid dresses, and, well, the whole thing. You are a gorgeous bride. Major Congrats to you, Rachel, and Jake! <3 p.s. the bouquet is sensational.

  4. Girl, I have no idea how you are self conscious about how you look. You are DROP.DEAD.GORGEOUS! And I LOVED your dress! Everything about your day seemed like a dream come true! How awesome!

    • aaawww, thank you so much! :’) it was definitely a long struggle with my self esteem, but kind words from people like you helped me see myself as something other than my weight. thank you, again!

  5. Everything is absolutely gorgeous, but your makeup, dress — omg, your hair! Stunning, beautiful, I love it. 🙂

  6. This is amazing. Being a plus size person and neurotic/anxiety ridden about every damn thing, I know where you are coming from. I’m getting married in October and I’ve already had several “oh god, nothing is going to look good” moments. I’m trying to not be a hot mess about it. Anyway, what I originally wanted to say is that you are gorgeous. I love your hair and makeup. You and your husband are seriously babe-ly.

    • thank you so much for the sweet compliments! i hope those moments are in the past. i am sure you are going to look absolutely beautiful on your day. want to know why? the day of the wedding, everything else fades away & it’s just you two! i was the kind of person who was so concerned about what everyone thought, so much so that i wouldn’t even look up from the ground while out in public. but on the day of the wedding, i was full of so much love, it gave me the self confidence i so desperately needed. i walked around with my head up (first time in a long time) & strutted my stuff & just looked at my husband the whole time! i didn’t even notice a “spectator”. i wish i would have realized that’s the gift our day would give us. i wish i would have realized sooo much earlier that the only opinion of MY looks that mattered was my own, & my husband’s. who genuinely loves me for me, & thinks i’m beautiful. i hope you realize it too. we need to stop fighting ourselves & look in the mirror & say we’re gorgeous! be gone bad thoughts!

    • thank you! i am so obsessed with my bouquet. it is so beautiful & fun! the best part, it will be beautiful forever, & just get better with age! i cannot wait for the book pages to yellow, & smell like old books! lol. & thank you! i loved our ceremony so much. i didn’t even get a chance to sob because our officiant kept us laughing.

  7. LOVE LOVE LOVE everything about this beautiful expression of unconditional love. The bride looked DROP DEAD GORGEOUS…that magnificent dress, the stunning hair, the tattoos… absolutely insanely gorgeous. My favourite part was the reading at the service. So epic, what a magical couple!

    • oh my goodness, thank you so much. your words make my heart swell! it really means a lot that you can see our unconditional love just from seeing our pictures & reading a little of our story. :’)

  8. I’m so excited about this post. I’ve been following the OBB website for years and it’s safe to say this is my favorite post ever! What a fantastic wedding. Everything about this is awesome: the bride is breathtakingly beautiful to begin with, her hair is PERFECT, the dress is just to die for, her litarery bouquet made me squeee …ULTIMATE WIN! If I could convince my partner to have a wedding theme like this, I would be ecstatic. It looks like it was so much fun, even with the things that “went wrong”. Those moments are part of what makes the day memorable, and I’m glad this bride was brave enough despite her self-consciousness to share her day with local news and OBB. I can’t stop looking at the pictures!

    • i can’t even handle the fact that you think this is your favorite on OBB! thank you sooo much! thank you for your sweet compliments about my appearance & my bouquet as well! the bouquet is such an amazing treasure from our day that i get to keep forever. the crafter is so great, she actually read the book before making the bouquet so she knew which pages to use for the flowers! it was so great being able to read some of my favorite sappy parts in the flowers! & you’re right, those moments definitely made the day more memorable. thank you for calling me brave & enjoying our pictures! :’)

  9. Rachel I love your wedding!! You are so beautiful, your hair and make up are just so classic, I love it! And your dress! OMG it is off the charts awesome, beautiful, gorgeous! I am plus sized as well and share all of your concerns, I am getting married in September and I decided that I am throwing all those concerns out the window! Thank you for sharing your day!

    • thank you, this makes me happy in so many ways! to hear that you’re throwing those concerns out of the window warms my heart. you have so much to be obnoxiously happy for, why let your thoughts get you down! i love that you are realizing it now, with so much time before your wedding. now you can focus on what is most important, you & your love for your partner! i wish you the best, stay positive!

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