I’m going to have my period at the wedding… what the hell do I do?!

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How to handle your period at the wedding as seen on @offbeatbride
This uterus plushie looks so sweet and innocent… we know better.
OK, so here's the deal: I have the heaviest, most uncomfortable and sadly unpredictable period EVER and here we are five days before the walk down the aisle and it's about to start. I can't find any ideas or help on the net except for people planning ahead with contraception. And contraception makes me sick and doesn't stop my period. WHAT IN GOD GREEN EARTH SHOULD I DO!? Any tips for keeping the dress white?

Oh man, is this ever #relatable. As someone who has shared your period woes, this is so so familiar and scary. Pristine dress, whacked out insides… when all you want to do is focus on having fun.

Let's talk about some tips to help when you have your period at the wedding, and hormone therapy isn't an option…

Image from My Mad Fat Diary, a UK show you should totally watch
Image from My Mad Fat Diary, a UK show you should totally watch

Tips when you have your period at the wedding…

Buy some period panties ahead of time

Period panties, like Thinx, are intended to be used alone. But if you're anticipating a really heavy flow, maybe pair period panties with another backup… or two. Thinx + tampons, Thinx + pads… you get it.

Pack some pre-moistened wipes

Stock up on some pre-moistened wipes in your Oh Shit Kit to keep things fresh. Boy, was there ever a good use of the term “oh shit.”

How to handle your period at the wedding as seen on @offbeatbride

Load up on supplies and have a friend carry extra for you

Make sure you have lots of supplies like tampons, menstrual cups, pads, etc. so you can swap out as needed. Change it a little more often than you normally would just so it's not occupying your mind. Give a few extra to a trusted friend so they can remind you whenever there's a lull in activity.

Fellow bleeders: do you have any tips to make having your period at the wedding a little easier? Help us out!

Comments on I’m going to have my period at the wedding… what the hell do I do?!

  1. This happened to me. I just packed extra supplies and hoped for the best! It worked out in the end. I also highly recommend the trash bag trick for keeping your dress clean in the bathroom while you take care of business!

  2. tampon, plus pad….

    If your dress is flowy, consider doing this with your pads. Take one extra long one (always makes one variety….it an overnight pad, and in the PURPLE wrapper and is very thick) and put it on regular. Then take another pad–up to you if you want the same thick one– and place it perpendicular to the other one in the place were you are prone to leaks.

    • Yes! Before I switched to a menstrual cup, I would have profound leaking problems at night. It made me feel like I was wearing a diaper to bed, but the “perpendicular pad” trick has saved me from a lot of blood-stained bedsheets.

  3. Equip your emergency kit with some tampons, extra pads, clean panties, chocolate and – if needed, I always do – some pain medication.
    I guess the wedding night is off, but don’t worry, my body played along and I did not feel like having sex in my wedding night anyways, I just wanted to sleep, sleep and sleep after partying all night 🙂

    And take time for yourself if needed, ask your bridesmaides to accompany you for holding dresses on the toilet and keeping your emergency pack close, they are women, they will understand.

    All the best for your wedding! Always remember, it happens and it will not be the end of the world. You will have a great day!

  4. Undershorts over underpants or Thinx over pad over tampon … basically, put as many layers as possible between the dress and the crime scene. Change them out as often as necessary. If you have someone you don’t mind seeing you in flagrante, have them hold your dress up for you during the switch-outs. Bring a detergent/bleach pen, and remember: cold water for blood. Good luck, and try not to stress about it too much!

  5. As an endometriosis and adenomyosis sufferer I used to have periods from hell, appallingly painful and heavy and by the end of it often these uncontrollable flooding moments. I ended up having a hysterectomy about six months before I got married and so the thing I had been dreading all my life never happened.

    I once had a period that lasted for two months which finally came to an end when a doctor prescribed me a drug that stopped it, which is also sometimes given to delay a period. This drug contains progesterone which is often called the pregnancy hormone. I have a history of strong emotional reaction to hormonal changes (raging PMT, contraceptive pill depresses me etc) and this drug made me very anxious and nervous, I actually came off it before the end of the planned course, with the approval of my doctor it was so unplesant. I mention this just to say be very wary of hormone experimentation (which is what any period delaying medication is) at such a significant time! If I had ended up living my nightmare and having my period when I got married this is what I would have done.

    Plan pain meds and appoint someone pain med monitor – my periods were survivable only with scrupulous adherence to a pain med regimen and by pre-treating pain with NSAIDS to stop build up prostaglandins (more here: http://endometriosis.org/treatments/painkillers/). If need to avoid/reduce alcohol due to pain meds, (when you otherwise drink alcohol) appoint a booze monitor who can also run interference with those trying to press booze on you. Basically have a plan.

    I would definitely have gone with a pad and an internal absorption method and double knickers/panties (or those amazing looking period knickers/panties that I had somehow been ignorant of my whole life until now). I would have had a hamper usable only by me, (no way I would risk someone using up my vital supplies) of wet wipes, hand sanitiser, nail brush (especially if using internal absorption methods) and possibly some clothing stain removal wipes. If wearing a big dress this could be helpful too: http://offbeatbride.com/how-to-pee/

    In the end I actually had my other worst nightmare happen on my wedding day, neither me or my wife slept AT ALL the night before. At 7am on my wedding morning I honestly didn’t know if either of us could get through the day we were so exhausted and frazzled with failing to sleep, and I was so devastated I burst into tears. But when my family arrived a little later and we started getting ready it just evaporated and I realised that I had a choice about how I dealt with what had been handed to me. We had the most amazing day and we were honestly just on a cloud of emotion and seemingly boundless energy the whole time. Sure we crashed hard the next day when the wedding day superhero powers had faded but looking back I still wouldn’t change a thing. There is something amazing that just kicks in on the day, or there was for me…. So in short, plan for what you can (at least you know now, not on the morning of the wedding day that this is happening) and try like hell to accept what you can’t plan for, because don’t forget the category of things-you-can’t-plan-for can also contain good things!

  6. I got my period the morning of NY wedding (ironically, today is our one year anniversary!), so I understand your emotions!! I put my MOH on dress-duty, making sure of no leaks, helping to the bathroom, etc. I HIGHLY recommend a menstrual cup. I use the divacup, and will never go back. It really makes my heavy flow more manageable. I used it with a liner, very comfortable and easy to forget! Your wedding will be amazing no matter what! Congratulations!!!!

    • I 100% second the use of a divacup. It holds way more than a pad or a tampon, so it doesn’t need to be changed nearly as often. I love it as a teacher, because it means that I don’t have any changing to do during the middle of the school day. My flow is pretty average, so your mileage may vary, but it can definitely mean less trips to the bathroom for you! Double that up with a pad for backup, and you should hopefully be set. If you’re taking pain meds like Aleve, make sure you eat!!

      • Thirding the use of menstrual cups! It was literally the only thing that could cope with my endometriosis flooding and the huge clots and I used them for about 6 years before I finally had my hysterectomy.

        Learning to use it it is a process though and one that is so so so worth doing (I really can’t say enough how life changing it can be) BUT I really wouldn’t want to do it for the first time on a wedding day in a white dress.

  7. Although I know you can’t do this too much as it can mess with Ph, for a special occasion day, rinse your vagina out with water spray – massager with a focused spray works well. You know the one! Squat down so you’re open and give yourself a good rinse. I find it helps get a lot of the heaviness out and is light for the next several hours. So starting out ‘fresh’ like this and then using the other recommended tips will hopefully help you through your special day!

    I’d also second the diva cup – though make sure you’ve practiced with it to get it in correctly because I had major leaks the first time i used it. Once you get the seal right, its very reliable, comfortable, and at least my moderately heavy period, only fills the (size small) cup 1/3 the way twice a day.

    • I was going to suggest the less thorough version of this, which is a good shower where you try to let the “chunks” out (sorry for gross description) with your fingers. I do this before I plan to go swimming so I can just wear the cup without a liner and not worry about residue the cup can’t catch.

  8. Also, if your dress if flowy, buzzfeed did a trial on different ways to pee in your wedding dress, this video may be especially helpful, because it has some good tips and ideas on how to keep the dress away from that area.

  9. I second and third all the others above about the doubling up method. Also schedule bathroom breaks every couple hours (I’d say every hour if you’re very worried about it) to either change gear or to at least check on the situation. I was recently at a destination wedding (it was camping, outhouses and periods are a horrible combination) and got one of the heaviest periods of my life. Doubling up really helped ease the mind, also because if you go through one layer, but are in the middle of something (you know, like your vows) you have some time. Also purchase a pair of period panties, I hear they are AMAZING! Just that extra layer of protection and ease of mind. Good luck! Please respond and let us all know how it goes 🙂

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