This Oregon micro-wedding with a $31 dress casts a spell #Real Weddings: Western US#blended family#coronavirus wedding#dry wedding#flower crown#guerilla wedding#micro-wedding#oregon#pagan Updated Sep 14 2021 (Posted Sep 13 2021) Offbeat Editors Photos by: Rachael Renee Photography Photo by rachaelrenee.photos Offbeat Partners: Rachael & David Date of wedding: September 2021, Mount Tabor, Oregon Tell us a bit about your wedding: We basically canceled our wedding plans back in July when we started hearing about the delta variant. We canceled our families flying to attend. We canceled the reception: a public, live music show I was going to play with my favorite music friends. We canceled even though people said, “It’s probably fine." At the micro-wedding we ended up having instead, there were no bridesmaids, no flower girl, no Maid of Honor, no Best Man. There was no after-party, no toasts, no speeches. And you know what? It was fucking great. Turns out neither of us wanted to plan a wedding. We just wanted to be married. Having never been one to dream about or desire marriage, this felt like the pragmatic choice of two responsible, wise adult co-parents living through end-stage capitalism during a global pandemic. It was also a spell:: ::A spell about how to live and love in the age of limits and consequences. About what it means to offer yourself as a home to someone when the world unravels around you. The average cost of a wedding is $20,000. There is absolutely no reason to hemorrhage that kind of coin on a wedding when so many people are being evicted, becoming houseless, relapsing, suffering from lack of collective care. We spent less than $1000 on our nuptials including my $31 dress from eBay. Less than 15 people attended the ceremony at the extinct volcano known as Mount Tabor, where we purchased no permit for our “special picnic.” About our micro-wedding ceremony Because we're a blended family, and the kids' other house is more traditional, we wanted a ceremony that was both earth-based and also sensitive to everyone's sensibilities. We made a list of what was most important to us about the ceremony: relaxed, ancestral, joyful, simple, musical, natural, affordable, beautiful. In the end we decided on this: together with our few guests, we created a circle out of dried magnolia leaves, and botanicals…. …Everyone added something to the circle. ….Then there were gifts of few words, a few poems, and no vows. We had the rings, and the I dos. It all took about an hour. Then we went home and ate cake with our kids. No one got drunk and requested Hotel California from the band. No one was exhausted from the stress or the expense or the pressure. And no one got Covid. And if the day had a soundtrack, it would be this song by The Kinks: So we will share this road we walk And mind our mouths and beware our talk 'Til peace we find, tell you what I'll do All the things I own I will share with you And if I feel tomorrow like I feel today We'll take what we want and give the rest away Strangers on this road we are on We are not two, we are one Oregon micro-wedding vendors Photos:@rachaelreneephotos Officiant: Cybelle Clements, an ordained minister who specializes in magical and non-traditional ceremonies Oregon micro-wedding gallery PREVIOUS Proposing to my introvert boyfriend: the most empowering moment of my life NEXT These brides traded their big plans for a barefoot beach micro-wedding Show/Hide comments [ 2 ] This just looks (and sounds) so beautiful and sacred, which is absolutely what weddings should be. Congratulations! ?? Reply It looks like this couple was able to put together exactly what they wanted, which is especially difficult for me. :/ Good for them!! Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.