Adair & Christiaan's Japanese-Inspired, Summer in January Wedding #Real Weddings: Southern US#ceremony#multi-colored dress#no dancing#oklahoma#origami#photo booth#prom dress#purple dress#winter Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted May 12 2009) Offbeat Editors The Offbeat Bride: Adair, Grad Student My Offbeat Partner: Christiaan, Grad Student Location & date of wedding: Bartlesville Community Center in Bartlesville, Oklahoma — 01/03/2009 What made our wedding offbeat: We both had very different conceptions of what our wedding should be. The groom was very keen on much of the symbolic tradition of weddings, while I was much more into the aesthetic expression of our personalities. The bride's awesome shoes. The mix we ended up with was a fun, colorful, highly personalized wedding that maintained the basic framework of a traditional wedding. For example, we had processional to the traditional "Here Comes the Bride," but chose to have both sides come down the aisle simultaneously and with both sets of parents — we were "given away" to each other. Additionally, we had a clergical officiant but used secular readings and vows (T.S. Eliot and self-authored vows). We even chose the signing of the marriage license, the secular act which technically joined us in marriage, as our "unity ceremony." Aesthetically, we managed a similar blend of tradition, fun and personalization. The groom/groomsmen wore dark grey tuxedos, while the bride and bridesmaids opted for bright, colorful dresses. Subtle Asian themes ran throughout reflecting my upbringing in Japan. Boutonnières, corsages and headpieces were silk kanzashi (Japanese hair ornaments). Centerpieces were origami squirrels (his nickname) and cranes. The invitations were Japanese inspired 11" by 5" scrolls. Colorful garden lanterns and Christmas lights hung overhead, creating a garden-party sort of atmosphere reminiscent of Oklahoma summers. Sweet photo of the groom being walked down the isle by his parents. On the whole, our basic idea was to strip down the traditional wedding, keeping to the parts that seemed most crucial. We kept the ceremony short (under five minutes) and did away with most of the traditional post-vow tossing of accouterments and awkward dance exhibitions. We also made it a point to budget for a healthily stocked bar, a dance floor and a DYI photobooth for our guests. Bottom line: we wanted this to be a CELEBRATION of our JOINING and so tried to weigh the two parts equally. I love their bridal party group shots! Our biggest challenge: Negotiating the different views of what the wedding should look like and/or include. After all, the list of people who have to be appeased does not just include the bride and groom. And it did not help that the bride was living in New York, the groom in Oklahoma and the bride's parents internationally. In the end, we learned perhaps the most important lessons of married life: negotiation and communication. Guests DIY'd the centerpieces used at the reception. My favorite moment: When my grandmother came to see me 15 minutes before the wedding and I was chomping down on an onion-filled sandwich. "Adair! You're not eating ONIONS are you?!?" She handed me a whole roll of Certs. My advice for other offbeat brides: Being creative doesn't necessarily mean wholesale rejecting tradition. Also, on the wedding day, just relax — things will happen that you can't control. No need to get upset. Have fun. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?: Graphic Designer for Invitations: Steve Loftis Photographers: Sarah Adams of Yellow Chair Photography and Chelsea Beck Photography Kanzashi: Mizusugi Wedding Dress: Alyce Design (Prom 6866) Enough talk — show us the wedding porn! Click on the photo below to see more photos from this wedding: PREVIOUS Severina & Seraphim Seattle handfasting NEXT Rara & Jumana get married at Harbin Hotsprings Show/Hide comments [ 12 ] FYI, the flickr link only has one photo in it– the invitation. Reply I absolutely love the dress; it actually reminds me of carnival cotton candy. Well done! Reply I think the photos in the set aren't all set to "public". I only saw the invite too until I signed in to Flickr. (It also gave me some notice about SafeSearch which I've never seen before.) Flickr technical problems aside, I LOVE the dresses. Colorful and festive while still being beautiful and elegant. And yay for mutual giving aways. Reply Beautiful! I especially love the dresses – bride's and bridesmaids'. I'm also having a Japanese theme for my wedding, since my fiance and I met in Japan and are still living there now. It's great to have such lovely wedding porn for inspiration! Reply Beautiful dress! And I love the idea of a DIY photobooth. I've seen that on other OBB weddings and I would love to hear any tips you have on making them fun and successful. Thanks! Reply Adair is my middle name! Glad to see someone else rocking it! Reply The dress was a 2008 prom dress from Alyce Designs, right? Yay for you for picking a prom dress – they're a great price point and sooo pretty! Congrats! Reply that is a really unique dress – i love it. i also love the way you photos show how much fun you are/had 🙂 congrats! Reply Being a former Okie, I really enjoyed seeing your pics. Your dress was so pretty. I have cousins that live in Bartlesville. Have a great life. K. packard Reply Wow, an Offbeat wedding in the Sooner State! (I'm a native Tulsan.) This made me smile. I love the colorful dresses. Looks like you both reached a great compromise between tradition and personal. Reply Aah. I live in Bartlesville too. This is an amazing venue! Reply Gotta love them grandmas. 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