
The Offbeat Bride: Brittany, General Manager of Medical Marijuana Dispensary
Date and location of wedding: Jorgensen Farms in Westerville, OH — August 7, 2014
Our offbeat wedding at a glance:
My nickname is “Damsel” and Louis is a true gentleman, so our hashtag on all social networks is #thegentlemanandthedamsel, which became a working title for our wedding day.
I made all of my own bouquets, boutonnieres, and centerpieces using silk flowers and homemade pinwheels. We thrifted vintage suitcases for extra decorations, and the venue provided fresh herbs for hanging in the barn as a final touch. We printed blank coloring pages from the Choonimals Clothing Company so our guests could have some coloring fun before the reception, and we opted for “Advice Mad Libs” in lieu of a traditional guestbook. My jewelry was handmade by a friend using cruelty-free taxidermy supplies and animal bones.
Instead of waiting until the ceremony to see Louis, we decided to do a “first look” photo op. We wrote each other love letters and stood back-to-back while we read them before the final reveal.
My bouquet included photos of my two grandfathers, my grandmother, and my aunt who had passed. It was a special way to honor and remember those who were watching our big day from heaven.
My husband is Puerto Rican, so it was very important to me that we include some of his Latino heritage in our wedding. I wrote the vows for both of us, but he said his in Spanish and I said mine in English.
Tell us about the ceremony:
I didn't want to do a traditional wedding program, so I made a special graphic representation of our love story and printed it on heavy stock paper. I then glued sticks onto those so our guests could fan themselves during the warm, summer ceremony.
Tell us about your reception:
Instead of a cake, we decided to go with a cheaper, more unique dessert option. We had delicious dessert waffles with different topping options including ice cream, fresh fruit, chocolate, whipped cream, caramel, and more. The waffles were provided from our friend's food truck, Hashtag Waffles.
It was really important to us that everyone who attended felt like they were an important part of our celebration. So, we wanted to share our first dance with everyone in the form of a wedding flash mob! We choreographed a short, very simple eight-step dance and taught it to our bridal party that morning. We advised them that during our first dance when the music changed they should join us on the dance floor with that routine as we tried to gather the rest of the guests in to join us.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Any other advice for Offbeat Bride readers?
When we started wedding planning, I couldn't believe how much the average wedding costs. We had a very limited budget and spending $2,000 on flowers was just not an option for us. I sat down and decided what three things were most important to me about the wedding day, and those three things I was allowed to splurge on a little bit. Everything else would have to be handmade, borrowed, or thrifted. For me, the venue, photographer, and videographer were the most important things. I wanted a venue that would fit our personal style and taste, as well as creative artists who could capture our unique day in a way that would showcase what we were all really gathering for: true love.
Vendors
- Groom's Wedding Ring: Rhodes Wedding Company
- Venue: Jorgensen Farms
- Photographer: Charles Hildreth, Hildreth Weddings
- Videographer: Marina Thompson
- Hair: Sabrina Kohrs
- Makeup: Rachel Grace Lawrence
- Custom Cake Topper: Lovebirds Goods
- Kissing Bell: Refunked Junkies
- Garter: Lola in Lace
- Coloring Pages: Choonimals Clothing Company
- Waffle Bar: Hashtag Waffles
- Dinner: City BBQ Catering
- Drinks and Bar Service: Sidecar Global Catering
- Groom's Wedding Band: Rhodes Wedding Company
hey damsel!
amazing wedding, amazing love, amazing amazing amazing !
i was wondering if you could / would point me in some sort of direction for more dready weddy hair dos. My locks are 6 & I absolutely LOVE what you have done to your do a year ago. (happy belated anniversary babe!) Ah, again super swoon at the love captured in these photos. You makin me jel so hard I can’t find a photographer with that certain style of casual class up here in the north. Also ! amazing dress change ! your such a stunner ! how in the world did you find 2 such perfectly perfect dresses!? ah!!
ho hum
happy love ! <3
I follow you on Instagram and *loved* your wedding posts, so I was super thrilled to see you here on Offbeat Bride! What a beautiful wedding! I love all the rustic details, and the soil + tree ceremony is such wonderful symbolism. I am getting married next year, and we too are prioritizing venue and photography (along with food.) Thank you for sharing your special day! I wish you and Louis all of the love and happiness in the world!
Why is this listed under couples of colour? You are both as pale as my ass.
White people with dreadlocks does not make you a person of colour
Thank you, for pointing this out! I second this.
Thanks pumpkin. 😉
This is listed under “couples of color” because my husband is 100% hispanic and half of our ceremony was in Spanish. It has nothing to do with my dreadlocks.
Please don’t shame my husband’s heritage because his skin isn’t the exact pigment you would like it to be…
BIG OL’ FIST BUMP TO BRITTANY.
Beloved readers, you gotta tread reeeeeal lightly when you get into policing other people’s identities and making assumptions based on appearances. I’ve written about this before: https://offbeatempire.com/cultural-appropriation-police
Many hispanic people are racially white
Hispanic isn’t a race
I don’t think she was policing the groom’s identity, she was probably just confused because they both look white. At least white passing people have most of the privileges of being white.
Being “just confused” is not the same as policing someone. The commenter was pretty rude, they didn’t politely voice confusion about the hashtag, they threw shade at this bride for having dreads while white (in spite of many, many, many cultures historically rocking dreads and them certainly not belonging to one specific culture). That is where the issue lies.
I really want to be friends with this couple!! 🙂
What a wonderful wedding! The memorial bouquet decoration and Story Fan are both ideas worth stealing!