I belong to a community of brides on another site. One of the brides prides herself on her uniqueness and originality. No one has a problem with that. But she really puts down a lot of the other brides who are more traditional. She calls their weddings “cookie cutter” — which really hurts some people's feelings!
I'm sure there was a time when the Offbeat Brides of the world took a lot of slack for doing things the way that made them happy, but now this lady has started bride-reverse-discrimination.
My point, how do I tell someone to chill with their “offbeat-er than thou” talk?
I've got an easy answer for you here: send her a link to my Your wedding is not a contest post.
Or maybe suggest she read All weddings are awesome — not just mine.
Or hell, just have her spend some time in our Special Snowflake archive. It's a great reminder that we're not so different really, those of us planning more traditional weddings and those of us planning weirder weddings. We're all struggling with pressures and stresses, and we should all be a bit more patient with each other's decisions.