Let me start off by saying I love Offbeat Bride (or as I like to call it “the Offbeast”). Since we started planning our wedding, Offbeat Bride was the only wedding website I chose to follow. But even the Offbeast only posts a handful of updates everyday, and as as our wedding date fast approaches, I need all the wedding porn/advice/ideas I can get!
So my mind and fingers wander…
Unfortunately, there is no other website like the this one. No one provides the no-bullshit point of view that you get here. When someone on other wedding blogs says “Your wedding is wrong!” they aren't saying it in a “but that's totally okay, and who cares” sort of way, like you get here. They are saying it in a “your wedding is wrong and you should feel bad” sort of way. It's awful.
Certain wedding blogs focus on a lot of celebrities and their weddings, which I find really weird, and privacy-invading. And I mean, who doesn't want to compare their wedding to someone who can afford things unheard of to the average person?
Or they have articles like “21 Reasons Why You are a Trashy Skank Because You Allowed Your Bridesmaids To Show Their Butts,” which chastises brides for the trend of exposed bridesmaids' bottoms in wedding pictures. And while I may have taken some liberties with the actual title of the article, here are some direct quotes from it:
“13. Do you really want your husband to know what your friends' butts look like?”
My husband is marrying me, isn't he? So why should I hold on to an insecurity like that?
“19. Another reason to add squats to your pre-wedding workout… and no one likes squats. No one.”
Or I could just accept my body the way it is. It may not be in perfect condition, but it is mine, and my partner loves it (as do I), so why should I worry about looking more perfect in my wedding pictures?
I'm really glad that my urge to consume “everything wedding” dies down when my depression gets to me. If I happened upon one of the other wedding websites during one of those periods, I'm not sure I'd be able to handle it.
All the negative talk about everything is just maddening. “Lose weight, wear white, buy this $5,000 dress, no this $10,000 one, have we mentioned that a real wedding must have really expensive size 0 dresses? Otherwise you don't love your blonde-haired, blue-eyed, muscle-bound, white husband enough.”(Seriously, these sites are always all about white couples — perfect magazine beautiful white couples. It is weird. Don't other people get married?) I do not care for it!
The negative talk is bad. Your wedding is about what you want. It's about you and your partner. Wear a purple fursuit for all I care. It's your wedding — do it your way! Please: just have fun and go out and do your wedding your way. Do not let awful websites keep you down.
And thanks Offbeast — err Offbeat Bride, for being an awesome website for every kind of wedding out there.