I appreciated this perspective I found on a forum called Etiquette Hell:
People planning alternative weddings sometimes think that by having an alternative wedding they're automatically avoiding the scariness that comes with the Great White.
But the same sort of problems apply: you can be fixated on the party and not the marriage; you can turn into a frightening Bridezilla still; you can over-spend; you can over-tax everyone else; you can still show unrestrained greed.
I think it's all too easy for Offbeat Brides to feel like planning a more nontraditional wedding gets them off the hook when it comes to accountability and righteousness. Don't be that guy.