I am an Auckland, New Zealand Offbeat Bride and am thinking of asking my three brideswomen to just pick a dress they like (maybe within a colour scheme…?) I don't think they have to be matching because they are all uniquely beautiful and hopefully will feel more comfortable in something that they have picked out themselves. Have you got any pics of non-matching brideswomens' dresses?


This is actually a very popular choice among Offbeat Brides — encouraging bridesmaids to wear something that generally coordinates, but isn't matchy-matchy. I've heard stories of some bridesmaids being uncomfortable with the idea (I guess freedom can be overwhelming?), but giving your brides dress liberation can be a great way to make sure that your ladies enjoy maximum awesomeness on your wedding day.

As for pictures — damn right I've got some!

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Photo by Gwyneth Colleen Photography holder wedding.


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  1. YESSSSS! I have been thinking of doing different dresses for my bridesmaids but could barely find any other examples… I LOVE these. Perfect timing! Thank you!

  2. I wanted my bridesmaids (my sister and my best friend) to have non-matchy dresses…left it completely up to them. They picked the exact same dress in the same color : ) I mean, it is a beautiful dress, but I thought it was kind of funny that they ended up matchy after all.

    • I tried with my maids also… they somehow picked the exact same David’s Bridal dress…


  3. Everyone always seems to floored when I tell them that my bridesmaids just picked some blue dresses out of their closest and are gonna wear those.

  4. This is what I wanted! But my BM’s wanted to match. O-kay!!!! At least we found something they both loved. All these girls look so lovely!

  5. Great idea. One of my favorite brides just told her 3 best friends “Pick out a slammin’ dress and I’ll pick up the tab.” The bridesmaids were so happy and they made extra sure to help with every last detail thanks to the bride’s thoughfulness.

  6. I did this for my girls. I just told them a general idea of what I wanted (black lace dresses, somewhere around knee to mid calf length) and let them pick whatever they wanted. They all looked amazing!! I did buy them all their jewelry, little gloves and made them hair doodads.. so they did have matching elements, but I certainly didn’t want to tell them to wear the same thing. Plus I had two pregnant bridesmaids.. so I just wanted them to have some freedom! Also the other perk is that they can control what they spend. I know that at least two of my girls spent less than 30 bucks, so that made me happy! 🙂

    Here’s a (horrible)pic: http://www.auroraskye.com/photos/meandgirls.jpg

  7. My girls are all wearing black dresses in whatever style they want! I told them that my only two rules were that it be tea length and that it is something they will wear again. That way they can get something within their own budget and be comfortable since they are all different body types.

  8. when i thought i was having 2 BM, i told them to wear black because they both look good in it and would be able to wear it again, but now i’m down to 1 BM. i told her to wear whatever she wanted but she said that she liked my reasons for a black dress and is sticking with it.

  9. i love this look, but i feel like it would be really hard to pull off. do the bm’s have to coordinate to make sure they aren’t totally clashing? or do you just tell them all to “buy a mostly green dress”?

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