4 reasons we had no wedding party: Why we skipped the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and everyone else #Friends & Family Advice#bridesmaids#destination wedding#simple wedding#small wedding Posted Apr 12 2021 Guest post by Shanice Davis I see so much talk online about "Do I need a wedding party?" Or "Are bridesmaids necessary?" And then there's "What if my wedding party is uneven?" I'm here to say you can skip ALL THESE QUESTIONS, by having no attendants at all. Here are four reasons why we decided to have no wedding party. 1. We didn't want to ask people for more Since we had a destination wedding, we were already asking people to make complicated plans and travel a long damn way for us. It felt like it would be a dick move to make further demands on anyone. No wedding party meant no additional details or demands for our guest. We wanted our guests to come to our wedding with no expectations other than having a damn fine time. Related Post Bridesmaids: honored friends or henchwomen? "If they aren't even going to be able to help me, should I just avoid having them at all?" Read More 2. We didn't want to get hierarchical Since we had a destination wedding, it was already a very small wedding. We invited all the people we are the very closest to — out of this group of really important people, we didn't want to them say that certain people were EVEN MORE important. There's so much drama around who gets picked for wedding parties, hurt feelings around who's the maid of honor or best man. We didn't want to rank our people. We just wanted to celebrate with them. Related Post Choose your wedding party carefully, and 6 more pieces of wedding advice I needed I read every advice blog there was. I knew what should be in my emergency kit, and I was completely on top of all to-do lists. I had thought about… Read More 3. We agreed: nothing that isn't fun! Our mantra for planning the wedding was "Nothing that isn't fun." You know what's not fun? Buying an outfit you'll never wear again, and taking orders from somebody. For similar reasons, we have no dress code! …apart from "don't wear something that'd cause anyone to call the cops." 4. We were going for less hoopla We didn't want a lot of the hoopla like showers, or big groups for dress shopping, or bachelor/ette parties, etc. Since we were skipping a lot of the pre-wedding events, we didn't really need designated hoopla handlers. Related Post I want NO BRIDAL SHOWER, but my future mother in law won't let it go My future mother-in-law has decided that she is throwing me a bridal shower. My wording there is intentional -- she did not ask if I wanted one, she did not… Read More Related Post How to make a one-sided wedding party work (you have a crew and your partner doesn't!) When my fiancé and I got engaged, there was no question for me that I would ask my three best friends to be my bridesmaids. That said, my fiancé doesn't… Read More Shanice Davis PREVIOUS Are virtual weddings legal? Plus a virtual wedding ceremony outline! NEXT Can you serve burgers at your wedding? This couple shows you how! Show/Hide comments [ 1 ] It makes it so much easier for me as a photographer when there's not an enormous wedding party! Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.