The offbeat bride: Claudia, Adoption blogger/Director of Social Media
Her offbeat parter: Michael D'Arcy, Mr. Neighborhood Watch and Daddy
Location & date of wedding: Ceremony: “Peace Park” / Reception: Local punk rocker, Snapper McGees in Uptown Kingston, NY — August 19, 2007
What made our wedding offbeat: Eight years, a house and two kids later… In 2007 our anniversary fell on a Sunday, we realized that if we didn't get married then, we would have to wait even longer. We would have eloped, but my husband was an only child and his mother INSISTED on being there, so a huge party was the answer.
So the local bar owner gave us free run of the pub, and he gave me the dress (he has a rockabilly store in CT). I think I spent more time futzing over the design of the invitations than anything else. Oddly enough, I designed the invitations after tattoos. Afterward we both ended up getting the tattoo from our invitations!
It was a potluck, everyone pull together, insane affair, with sugar skulls, Mexican day of the dead, punk rock, rockabilly, tattoos, pirates, whatever! No theme. After a godly cocktail hour, we went across the street where my husband's best friend's in-laws married us in the park, amongst whoops and hollers from the guests.
Our wedding march was Metallica playing the Imperial Death march from Star Wars with the San Francisco Symphony Orchestra. Then my sixteen year old son's hard core band played.
The best thing was that ALL my kids were there for the first time ever, even my oldest, who was given up for adoption at birth. He had never met his other three siblings before came. So it was the best day of my life.
My favorite moment: The fact that all my kids were in the same room for the first time in my life. My youngest three got to met their oldest brother, for the first time. I was surprised that Max (my oldest) was able to be there. I had hoped he could come, but didn't want to disappointed if he couldn't make it. However, my husband made sure that he showed up. So within three seconds of getting there, I was in tears!
My funniest moment: I think the wedding march to Metallica doing Star Wars was funniest for me. Or that we took over the whole town that day!
Our biggest challenge: It was actually a zero stress wedding. We had the cocktail hour first, so we almost forgot to do the wedding part! And the cake, people were demanding to eat cake, but I was busy dancing!
My advice for offbeat brides: Save your money for a house and just have fun that day. Really, it's a huge party! That's all… it's not going to be perfect and someone will cry. Just forget about the Barbie fantasy!
Have you been married before and if so, what did you do differently? Yes. The first time I only knew the groom for three months to the day we got married. So this time I waited eight years. I overcompensated a bit.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? It's not the dress, it's not the cake, it's not the money, it's the people surrounding you. I had everyone I loved there: my family, my friends, my neighbors and my kids. THAT was the most important part. We were ALL together.
Care to share any vendor/shopping links?
- I made everything but my dress
- The decor was from Oriental Trading Co.
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!