Kevin and Mark Wedding

The Offbeat Groom: Kevin, owner at

His offbeat partner: Mark, Director of Exhibitions at Museum of Sex

Date and location of wedding: Calico, a friend's home in Cottekill, NY and Moresca Clothing Factory, Ulster Park, NY — August 31, 2013

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: What started as a DIY affair snowballed into a full-production, three-day event. We have lots of friends and a huge family, so people came from all over the world for the ceremony. It seemed right to create a weekend of festivities in two of the most magical places we've known: Calico, the home of Katwise and Moresca, a Renaissance fair clothing factory surrounded by lush wild gardens that includes a medieval banquet hall.

Kevin and Mark Wedding


In the weeks before the wedding, we sculpted Kat's land to create a beach around the pond, a parking meadow, a backwoods party clearing, an outdoor bathroom with hot and cold running water, a swan boat, and even a waterfall covered in My Little Ponies. It was a ridiculous amount of work by a dedicated crew of amazing friends.



Friday night arrivals were welcomed at Calico with a “Backwoods Bridesmaid Discoteque” with bonfire, lasers, and mandatory bridesmaid dresses for everyone.


The Saturday festivities at Moresca included a stilt-walking parking director, six flower girls, a turtle ring bearer, and a post-ceremony talent show that knocked everyone's socks off! On Sunday morning, Calico hosted a lovely farewell brunch before everyone packed into Kat's schoolbus and headed to the swimmin' hole.

Kevin and Mark Wedding


Tell us about the ceremony:
The ceremony was officiated by our dear friend Fennel Skellyman who charged the air with pure magic and made sure there wasn't a dry eye in the house. The flower girl dresses were custom-made by the amazing Machine Dazzle, who Skyped with each of our nieces to help them create their “dream dresses.” He also dressed Fennel and himself before escorting Princess Bucket (our pet turtle and ring bearer) down the aisle.




We walked down the aisle to Spiritualized's “Ladies and Gentlemen we are Floating in Space.” Fennel opened the ceremony by asking everyone to be present, and to avoid looking through devices or camera lenses. Everyone joined hands, took three deep breaths, called out the names of the ancestors we wished could be present, and the magic started.

Our three best friends gave readings and told stories including “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer, a reading by Adrienne Rich.


Our favorite band played a heartbreakingly beautiful song, Daniel Johnston's “True Love Will Find You in the End.”


The rings were a team effort: a neuroscientist friend measured our brainwaves with a portable EEG machine while we listened to each others heartbeats. The brainwaves were then etched onto a palladium band by our friends at Silver Bonsai Gallery.




My favorite moment:
The wedding brought together all our different worlds. Everyone helped and actively participated by serving food, building stages, making bouquets, performing, decorating, and cleaning up. We loved that everyone was an integral part of pulling off the most ridiculously colorful lovefest spectacle we could have planned.


We also loved our friends in Not Waving but Drowning singing during the ceremony, and then backing up Kevin during his first (and only) time singing in front of an audience!


My funniest moment:
During Mark's vows a very long, very loud freight train passed by. The crowd exploded into hoots and hollers for several minutes… then Mark calmly finished his vows.


Watching every silly costume we've ever made get worn by our friends and family in the photo booth.




What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding?
The word “impossible” should be removed from the dictionary.


Kevin and Mark Wedding

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Comments on Kevin & Mark’s rainbow psychedelic three-day wedding

  1. I just…I don’t know where to start. Is it the way every space seems to be welcoming and party worthy? Or the fact that those rings are FREAKIN AH-mazing?! Or the carnival atmosphere or the inclusion of the kids to the extent that the flower girls designed their dream dresses?! This whole event is so beyond fabulous, I love it! Congratulations on creating a beautiful three day love fest that obviously represents what must be a very colourful life together 🙂 x

  2. This is SO COOL!!!! it looked like it was a blast — I love all of the colors and your nieces’ dresses are awesome

  3. Yes to ALL of this! Holy fucking Hera, you guys win. You just do.

    I’m in love with your rings, BTW. I mean, I’m kind of in love with everything, but the rings are the cake-taker in my book.

  4. The accordion player in the Ms Richfield 1979 glasses made me goofy smile.

    Personality oozes from this wedding and it looks like everyone there really got caught up in the delightful goofiness. Wonderful!

  5. Everything about this is just magical. I got chills reading the description of the wedding bands. What a lovely weekend you had!

  6. This wedding…WOW! There is just so much joy and love in all these photos. From the grooms to the guests. It just screams happiness and life!

  7. I saw pictures of this wedding on Katwise’s facebook and LOVED it! I’m so happy to see it in more detail here. STUNNING

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