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The offbeat bride: Katie, high school English teacher (and Tribe member)

Her offbeat partner: Kellan, university student

Date and location of wedding: The Poughkeepsie Grand Hotel, Poughkeepsie, NY — May 1, 2011

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: The thing that brought us together originally was Dragon*Con, a weekend long geek and pop culture convention in Atlanta, GA, and specifically our love for the show Firefly. We decided to theme our wedding around the show, with lots of other nods to our favorite sci-fi shows and movies.

The guys

The girls

Our rings

Everything started with the idea that our groomsmen should wear Jayne hats and the bridesmaids should carry Kaylee parasols. It just snowballed from there. Our colors were purple and green (the colors of many DC comic book villains) because we’re big comic book readers.

We also had paper lanterns and 1000 purple and green origami cranes Kellan and I folded over many evenings watching horror movies. We named the tables after planets in the Firefly universe. Our table numbers, which were watercolor paintings by my mother, were held in place by toy dinosaurs (a nod to Wash, the pilot on the show).

Cake toppers

Our cake was covered in purple cherry blossoms, and my father made the cake toppers: wooden Princess Leia and Han Solo dolls. I also put together our program, “The Hitchhiker’s Guide to Katie and Kellan’s Wedding,” explaining a lot of our details to our families, who are a bit less geeky than we are.

Programs

Favors

Our favors were chinese takeout boxes filled with gummy bears and Raisinets, mine and Kellan’s favorite candies.

Ring Security

Bubble Princesses

Tell us about the ceremony: Our ceremony was non-religious, since neither of us are practicing anything (except maybe Jedi?). We wrote our own vows, which we tried to make both funny and meaningful. I promised to help support him through his World of Warcraft dungeons, and he promised to love me through all the evil uprisings that happens in sci-fi.

Reading my vows

Music by Michelle and Brendan

One of my bridesmaids plays cello in a string ensemble and played the music at our ceremony. I walked down the aisle to “Fools Rush In” by Elvis and we walked back out to “Beauty and the Beast,” in honor of my becoming “Mrs. Potts.”

The cake

Our biggest challenge: Working with our venue-mandated wedding coordinator was probably our biggest challenge. We got married and had our reception at a hotel, and she was used to dealing with really traditional weddings. She fought us every step of the way when we wanted to do things differently from how she expected them to be. Example: We wanted a sweetheart table and when she showed us the layout of the ballroom, there was a half round table in front of the sweetheart table that was intended to be the cake table. I’m short. I don’t want my three layer cake in front of my table. No one will be able to see me and vice versa! It was a real struggle to get the table moved because “that’s just how they do it,” but we did in the end.

First dance

My favorite moment: Our first dance was great. We took dance lessons and chose to dance to “Ohne Dich” by Rammstein. We were both nervous, but when the music started, there was really no one else in that ballroom but us and we just Foxtrotted our way around the floor like we’d been doing it for years.

Having Kellan’s family fly up from Tennessee to be there was also great. Kellan was convinced none of his family except his mom and brother would come up for the wedding. His family isn’t terribly close. We invited everyone anyway and several came, much to his shock. It’s helped to mend some bad feelings, and we’re more in touch with all of them now.

Brothers

While it was sweet at the time, Kellan’s brother’s best man speech has become much more meaningful to us since he passed away a month after our wedding. The photos and memories we have of him from the wedding (which was the last time we saw him) are much more dear to us now that he is gone, and we’re glad the last time we saw him was such a happy occasion.

Guest book

Reception shoes

My funniest moment: The best man leaping into the groom’s arms (trying to do the lift move from Dirty Dancing) and ripping his pants was hilarious. Thank goodness Kellan had another pair of trousers in Matt’s size!

Walking down the street

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Comments on Katie & Kellan’s Firefly and sci-fi geek chic wedding

    • Those hats were one of my DIY projects for the wedding. It was so nice to zen-out from the wedding stress while knitting the hats.

  1. I love so many things about this wedding! Jayne hats! Parasols! The string ensemble and the chinese take-out boxes!

  2. I know it’s been said but… JAYNE HATS!!! Firefly is such a great show… I love so many of your ideas! May have to steal some! >.>

    • Steal away! If you want to know how to make anything, just ask! We did a ton of DIY for the wedding.

  3. OMG! I’m thinking about using “Beauty and the Beast” for my wedding too! It was one of my favorite Disney movies when I was little. (Not to mention my man is so big and muscular like the Beast. LOL 🙂 ) We’re going to do a slideshow right before the ceremony and the song will be playing in the background. The only thing is that we have in mind the Celine Dion version that plays during the movie’s credits as opposed to the Angela Landsbury one.

    Anywhoo, congrats on becoming “Mrs. Potts”!

    • If my husband had been as obsessed with Disney before the wedding as he is now (we went to Disney for our honeymoon), I would have pushed for a Beauty and the Beast wedding. I even considered the Belle dress from Alfred Angelo.

  4. Holy beautiful Batman! This is what I call geek chic–love everything from the hats to the cake to those kickass colours!

  5. Oh my goodness the Jayne hats and Kaylee parasols just make me squee!! (Also the Grape Soda Pin!!) Everything looks beautiful. Thanks for sharing. :3

  6. so so cute! love geek/nerd weddings! all the details are so much fun! it must be in the water style me pretty california has one too! congrats to the beautiful couple!

  7. Jayne hats FTW!! I’m doing sci fi hodge podge (heavy on Dr. Who) and I’m a tad worried. You did it beautifully and it gives me hope! I keep getting slack for all my non-traditions…but I’m sticking to my guns!!!
    Thank you!

    • We both said we wanted a wedding that was “us” and geek is us. 🙂 We also really wanted an elegant wedding. As we were planning, we started calling our style elegant geek. If it’s other people who are giving you slack (not your fiance), then do your best to ignore them. If you love what you did for the wedding, then it will be one that everyone remembers fondly.

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