Amanda & Meghan's glittery queer wedding #Real Weddings: Southern US#black dress#fall weddings#gold dress#lesbian weddings#LGBTQ#louisiana#new orleans#red hair#short dress#tattooed bride#two brides two dresses Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Dec 31 2014) Offbeat Editors Photos by: Leia Jospe Photos by Leia Jospe The Offbeat Bride: Amanda, Grad Student Her offbeat partner: Meghan, salesperson Date and location of wedding: Felicity Church, New Orleans, LA — November 1, 2014 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Meg and I discussed from the very beginning what traditions we wanted to keep and which ones were meaningful to us. Changing around certain things to suit us, such as having a handfasting ceremony, writing our own vows, and having both of our respective parents walk us down the aisle were really important. We found other traditions, such as the bouquet/garter toss, just plain unnecessary. Things we did keep: dad/daughter dances for both of us and cake cutting (because mmm cake). Our venue was very bare bones but very uniquely New Orleans and beautiful, meaning we essentially built our wedding from the ground up, with LOTS of help from Meg's mom and our wonderful friends. This allowed us to save a bunch and have a wonderfully personalized wedding day. Tell us about the ceremony: Related Post Wedding Ceremony 101: How to write a wedding ceremony from scratch This is basically the best post ever written about how to build a wedding ceremony from the ground up. While there's a bit of ritual... Read more Thanks to the wisdom of Offbeat Bride and our amazing Unitarian Universalist officiant, we mashed up our ceremony so it was just perfect. We included readings of "The Invitation" by Oriah Mountain Dreamer and "Having a Coke With You" by Frank O'Hara (which our officiant jokingly referred to as an "advanced" level reading). We also included a blurb about LGBTQ marriage equality and rights, since a LOT of people were asking us about the legality of our ceremony. Our biggest challenge: Personally, my biggest challenge was letting go of control and trusting that others wouldn't disappoint me. In addition to planning this wedding, I work part-time, go to grad school full-time, and I'm at an internship two to three days a week. Balance was difficult, and I had a lot of wedding-related anxiety. And, honestly? My therapist helped me so much. She helped me unpack my feelings about this whole wedding vs. marriage thing, about difficulties with family members, and about dealing with stress. I highly recommend getting thyself to a qualified therapist to help you deal with your feelings, if you're like me and your feelings are constantly all over the place. My favorite moment: I held it together for most of our ceremony… until Meg started saying her vows. I just started crying and couldn't stop! Saying our vows to each other was one of the most intense and emotional experiences of my life. I was shaking like a leaf. I will remember that moment for the rest of my life. My funniest moment: When my brother-in-law dropped it a little bit too low and split his brand new pants right on his butt! Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Leia Jospe Officiant: Rev. Melanie Venue: Felicity Church Caterers: Food Art Inc. Table and linens: Your Event Delivered Our cake: Nola Voodoo Cakes My dress: ModCloth Meg's dress: Pin-Up Girl Clothing Flowers and decorations: Meg's mom, Kim Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS 5 tips to get the most from your wedding photography NEXT Get past grin and bear it: 8 wedding photographer secrets for less sucky family portraits Show/Hide comments [ 9 ] Two pretty brides! I love the wedding and the photography! Everyone looked they had fun. The bride in white reminds me looks wise of Sarah Silverman. Reply OMG SHOES. Purple shoes! Silver shoes! I LOVE THEM. Where can I get me some?? Reply My shoes were Mod Cloth (as was the dress), my wife's shoes were from Etsy. I'm gonna get the wife to chime in with the exact seller, because I'm not sure. Reply You both have truly excellent taste in footwear. Reply Ah yes, Ye Olde Dance Instead of Walking heel! http://www.modcloth.com/shop/shoes-heels/dance-instead-of-walking-heel-in-purple I've featured it many times in my shoe posts… such a great style!! Reply Yes! Pretty comfy, and I will definitely wear them again (purple is my favorite color). the bride in black here! my shoes were custom made by GoldenPonies for under 50$! they're gorgeous and I will be rewearing them 🙂 Reply Love your dresses – you both look beyond stunning! And what a dramatic looking church!!! Reply This popped up in my facebook memories. You two are still so ridiculously cute it makes me smile. I hope that your marriage is thriving and that the joy in each other you show here is still fresh and bright every day. 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