Sari & Thomas' elegantly gothic Halloween wedding #Real Weddings: Northeast US#birdcage veil#candy buffet#converse#fall weddings#halloween#horror wedding#new jersey#secular#short hair October 30 2012 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Get your candy out because it's Halloween Week! We've got zombies, ghosts, and gore in our weddings. Today it's an elegant affair with touches of Tim Burton, antiques, and Edgar Allan Poe. Photos by Peter Podezswa, Light Impressions Photography The offbeat bride: Sari, Speech-Language Pathologist Her offbeat partner: Thomas, Middle/High School Art teacher Date and location of wedding: The Mansion at Bretton Woods, Morris Plains, NJ — October 31, 2010 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Tom and I love all things horror. We also love creating and antiques, so we combined all of these loves into a wedding that suited us. For a couple of years before the wedding, I combed through antique warehouses to find old birdcages, old-time wedding photos, candelabras, skulls, owls, and old books to decorate the historic mansion we had our wedding in. We decorated the four fireplaces with these artifacts as well as areas throughout the mansion to add to the feeling of the day. Our invitations were made by Royal Steamline. We chose a gothic-inspired design with matte black envelopes. I filled the envelopes with dark red, satin rose petals. With our florist, we drove to a local florist wholesale shop and bought 20 manzanita branches and mixed concrete to set it into black vases. Our florist then decorated the branches with black magic roses, hanging tealight candles, spider webs, thorns, berries, and more. Each table was named after a curiously-morbid line from poets like Edgar Allan Poe. Our guests retrieved their table cards from a wooden shadow-box platform we built. We covered it with grass, leaves, and branches, a skeleton couple, a book of Edgar Allan Poe poems, and the table cards. We told our DJ that we wanted a lot of '80s dance music and the classics. We also asked the guests to wear black. We tried to add in lots of fun details like masks and mustaches for the guests to wear. Our bridal party walked out to songs by Carcass and Megadeth, and as we were announced as husband and wife, we entered the room to Slayer's "Raining Blood." At the end of the night, our guests walked away with 4" black birdcages holding tealite candles, and many delicious sweets such as chocolate-covered marshmallows on a stick, chocolate-covered Rice Krispies, and chocolate-covered Oreos in the shapes of pumpkins, bats, and witches. Our biggest challenge: We loved the support we felt from our families throughout the entire planning process. Sure, a secular wedding with a skeleton and hanging bats as decor was hard to explain to our parents. However, seeing my mom get excited while shopping for decor with me at the after-Halloween sales is quite a special memory. My favorite moment: The ceremony was the most meaningful to me. We chose our own traditions. Jessie Blum was our officiant and she told our "love story." We planted a Japanese Maple tree and wrote our own vows. Tom and I have a long history together. We started dating November 25, 1997 when we were in the seventh grade. We would hold hands walking home from school. He would skateboard to my house to walk my dog with me. A year or so later, we went our separate ways. However, when we started high school my heart always fluttered when I heard someone mention him or I saw him in the hallway. We had different interests and friends and it wasn't until senior year that we began dating again. Our ceremony was carefully crafted to help those who didn't know us too well to truly understand the passion behind our love. My funniest moment: When our DJ played thriller and my six-year old niece started doing the dance and then the whole crowd joined in. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Don't assume a themed wedding will alienate your guests. It can give them the opportunity to get involved and join in on the fun. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Ceremonyand reception venue: The Mansion at Bretton Woods DJ: Chuck Russo Photographer: Peter Podezswa, Light Impressions Photography Officiant: Jessie Blum, clectic Unions Flowers, floral decor, centerpieces: Sara at The Flower Cart Invitations: Royal Steamline Dress: Bijou Bridal Birdcage veil: Etsy seller GlamItUpToppers Fascinator: Etsy seller Brendasbridalveils Custom guest book: Etsy seller Creativelykept Custom handfasting cord: Etsy seller ArtisanWitchcrafts Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Royal Steamline Jessie Blum, Eclectic Unions Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Curiouser and curiouser: it's an Alice in Wonderland wedding NEXT Bewitch your guests with these campy Halloween photo booth props Show/Hide comments [ 9 ] The flower ghouls were so cute, and this was a wedding that was just as amazing and fun in person, too. 5 agree Reply Super awesome wedding! That's actually the venue my fiance and I will be getting hitched at next year! It looks so awesome all decked out Halloween style. 2 agree Reply I love everything! It looks amazing! Where did you get those awesome flutes? 🙂 2 agree Reply The flutes are from the Oriental Trading catalogue! 1 agrees Reply I forgot to mention one more thing about music.. Which of course is super important. While the guests sat outside for the ceremony to start, our DJ played the soundtrack theme "witches" from the movies Suspiria.. Also, when we cut the cake we had him play Alice Cooper's "Feed My Frankenstein". Music details are also key 😉 1 agrees Reply Sari, I love your dress! It has all the aspects in a dress that I've been looking for. But I can't find it at bijoubridal.com. Do you know where I can find it?? 1 agrees Reply I do believe there's one location for Bijou Bridal and it's in Paramus, NJ. They have a designer named Stefan Jolie who works only for them and creates stunning dresses for non-absurd prices. I think you'd have to go there to find anything of his!! I'm so sorry I can't be better help with that one.. 1 agrees Reply love the little witches and the thriller dance story. We had lots of people up doing the timewarp with us and hubby headbanging with the bridesmaids. Also SIL's partner breakdancing! 2 agree Reply What fun! I love the bouquet and your veil. Beautiful details. I think a themed wedding really can get everyone to open up a bit. 2 agree Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.