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The Offbeat Bride: Ang, Bingo Chat Mod, Event Planner wanna-be

Her offbeat partner: Matt, Automotive Technician, Musician

Location & date of wedding: Bethany Covenant Church, Bedford, NH — 11/14/2009

What made our wedding offbeat: The main theme of this wedding was low maintenance. I wanted to ENJOY the wedding process, not be miserable and stressed the whole time. It was hard, but it happened! After that was the budget of $5,000. I know that other brides have done it on smaller budgets, but I was ecstatic with what we were able to accomplish.

Hand in hand with the budget was copious amounts of DIY/small business. The only vendors we used were our wonderful photographer and the people we ordered chicken tenders from, oh and my AMAZING jewelry. And hot on the trail of the chicken tenders, was how we bucked tradition.

OBT would call it the “Not so average bride“. Yes, I wore a big poofy white dress, and we had cake, but there was no veil, no giving away of the bride, my bridesmaids didn't match in the slightest, the whole ceremony was about the joining of our families, a booze/dance free brunch reception in the church basement, no tossing of the bouquet/garter, and instead of a sweetheart table Matt and I were able to mingle with all our guests one on one.

Oh yeah, and our brunch consisted of French Toast, Bagels, Chicken Tenders, and Bagel Bites, all kept smoking hot by the awesome ladies of the church who volunteered their Saturday to help us out. Not to mention the whole thing was to be streamed live over the interwebs.

Our biggest challenge: Dealing with people. The wedding coordinator we had to use was very frustrating (this was only her second wedding). I had some relatives who sent emails that they wouldn't be coming to my weird wedding, and how shameful it was. The rain prevented us from using the classic convertible we bought as our escape vehicle.

Over it all I just repeated my mantra, “low maintenance.” Even if none of the other stuff I'd been obsessing about for the past year makes it to the wedding, even if no one else shows up, at the end of the day I'm marrying my best friend and that's all that matters.

My favorite moment: This is so lame, but after the wedding was over, after we were in our awesome hotel, the photographers had left, Matt and I looked at each other and he said “We really should have brought some food with us.” A few hours later, we went out for McDonalds, came back, and I curled up against him while we watched Mythbusters and fell asleep. At 7:30, when we woke up, Matt proclaimed us the worst newlyweds ever. But that cuddly moment was the most “husband and wife” I felt all day. All the dramas were gone, it was just us, and it was perfect.

Jazz hands!
Jazz hands!

My advice for other offbeat brides: EDIT EDIT EDIT!!!!! Ask the girls on OBT, I had SOOOOO many ideas of little details that I wanted to do. If I did end up doing them, they were in a severely different version that I planned at the beginning. Most of them I threw out completely. No favors, no welcome bags for the out of town guests, instead of a highly involved interactive artistic seating chart, we decided to just let people sit themselves. Those details that all the bridal blogs are constantly obsessing over are NOT worth your sanity. Seriously.

And on that note, for the love of God, please don't go overboard with the bridal blogs. This said from a girl who currently has over fifty on her RSS feed. While they're great for inspiration, they also have a tendency to make you doubt your own decisions, even to the point of hating your own wedding, because it will never be as awesome as the people in the blog. Screw them. Take what you need from them and move on. Seriously. That was THEIR day, focus on YOURS. [Editor's note: Ariel wrote a great post on this if you need more convincing: When to stop looking at wedding porn]

Stay tuned for this chalkboard DIY post!
Stay tuned for this chalkboard DIY post!

Also, if you fall head over heels in love with something out of your price range, nine times out of ten, there is a way you can get it — either by smart shopping, bartering or DIY. OBT is a great resource for this kind of thing. All of my decor was DIY.

Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?:

 

Comments on Ang & Matt’s low maintenance, low budget, DIY wedding

  1. I wanted to thank everyone for your sweet comments. There were so many things that I wanted to include but I didn't have room LOL.

    My relatives are the way they are, and they've been that way since I can remember. They're very WIC, and into tradition. *Shrug* I looked at it as, if they didn't want to be there I didn't want them there.

    As an afterthought, I wish I could have included the infamous "Keep Calm, carry on". There were so many things that went horribly horribly wrong and because of them they worked out for the better. For example, we didn't do a honeymoon so I wanted a really nice wedding night. I booked a hotel room 7 months in advance at a high end inn, their cheapest room, but still really nice. Well with 2 months to go I saw they were booked for the night and wanted to call and make sure our room was taken care of (color me paranoid). Well they canceled it. I was livid, I was hurt, I had a melt down. Well after a few constant polite calls, 2 days later they gave us a 3 bedroom amazing cottage for the same price as the original room we booked (1/6th of the price!). We had the use of that gorgeous space for our photography, something that wouldn't have happened if we had just had our little room.

    Also we bought a 76 MG as a wedding car. Of course it rained buckets and British electronics don't DO wet. So we used my Hubby's Saab. And it worked out because I had not realized how enormously poofy my dress was, and it is no lie it would not have fit in the MG.

  2. Yay for your wedding and your marriage! Your favorite moment was so genuine. I don't know how your wedding can be considered remotely weird or shameful. There is no shame in chicken tenders I say! Also, kudos to your keeping your budget under control. I'm not sure if all Christian churches charge so much but the Catholic church is really sticking it to me. Rock on with yo bad self.

  3. As somebody who has been married for almost eight years (without kids), I can tell you that your McDonald's/Mythbusters/cuddle moment is pretty indicative of how awesome marriage can be. The vacations together and fancy celebratory dinners and whatnot are great and all, but there's really nothing like running out for McDonald's because neither of you feels like cooking and snuggling on the sofa with a Mythbusters marathon on TV. It's so the opposite of lame.

    • Agreed!
      I had a raging migraine at the end of my reception. The second we got home, my husband helped me tear off my dress and started taking the bobby pins out of my hair as I threw up (while naked) in the toilet. Then I fell asleep while he went to Jack In The Box and got us milkshakes and fries. I woke up and we ate our food in bed, snuggling.
      It was a romantic ending to a wonderful day!

  4. Your telling of your sweet and intimate post Mcdonalds moment made me cry (in a good way)! My fiance and I have been together for 7 years, and somedays, I ask myself why we are going through with a quasi-traditional wedding at all. But I keep telling myself that maybe going through it together makes us feel different, subtly, somehow; and that those types of experiences are what bonded us this long in the first place. And even more than the wedding itself, I look forward to those “ordinanary” but amazing moments as Husband and Wife, like you described.

    Thank you for sharing. I needed your “don’t look at too many wedding blogs” comment.

    Your wedding sounded totally AWESOME (but not in a way that is making my doubt my own choices–I’m making many of the same that you did!)!

  5. Beautiful! But you left one vital piece of information out… where did you get your amazing shoes? *Love*!

    • Yay for Ebay! I was looking for blue shoes. I had bought a few pairs that looked promising and hated them as soon as I put them on. These, I saw and *gasp* then just "WOW, these are my soul mate shoes. I must own them" Fortunately they were my size and absolutely perfect. I didn't wear them for the reception or after wards because it was raining and I hadn't waterproofed them (Blue Suede). They up now in my house as an object of art, at least until our wedding prints come in.

  6. Good for you for doing what you want! My wedding is in March and I am wearing a black dress. My soon to be husband's family is not happy with it.

  7. Aww…… You two are just one the most adobable couples ever! Relatives actually called your wedding weird? Jerks! I love that your husband called you two the worst newlyweds ever, that part made me giggle! This is so cute, I love your dress, I love the mismatching of the bridesmaids, I love the chicken tenders idea! And the Mc D's! This goes to show how real and true your love is, that even though it would be awesome to have a gigantic, fancy wedding, its sooooo much more close to heart to have a tiny, unique one. I wish you well in your new marriage!

  8. Love it!! I'm taking the same approach with our wedding..its about love, family and fun not the little things that don't really matter except to those who say they do. The sweetest part was the story about you guys watching Mythbusters eating McDonalds. It sounds perfect!!

  9. Those shoes! Omg those shoes! What else can I say? Those shoes are my new obsession, you just made my day:)

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