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The Offbeat Bride: Ang, Bingo Chat Mod, Event Planner wanna-be

Her offbeat partner: Matt, Automotive Technician, Musician

Location & date of wedding: Bethany Covenant Church, Bedford, NH — 11/14/2009

What made our wedding offbeat: The main theme of this wedding was low maintenance. I wanted to ENJOY the wedding process, not be miserable and stressed the whole time. It was hard, but it happened! After that was the budget of $5,000. I know that other brides have done it on smaller budgets, but I was ecstatic with what we were able to accomplish.

Hand in hand with the budget was copious amounts of DIY/small business. The only vendors we used were our wonderful photographer and the people we ordered chicken tenders from, oh and my AMAZING jewelry. And hot on the trail of the chicken tenders, was how we bucked tradition.

OBT would call it the “Not so average bride“. Yes, I wore a big poofy white dress, and we had cake, but there was no veil, no giving away of the bride, my bridesmaids didn't match in the slightest, the whole ceremony was about the joining of our families, a booze/dance free brunch reception in the church basement, no tossing of the bouquet/garter, and instead of a sweetheart table Matt and I were able to mingle with all our guests one on one.

Oh yeah, and our brunch consisted of French Toast, Bagels, Chicken Tenders, and Bagel Bites, all kept smoking hot by the awesome ladies of the church who volunteered their Saturday to help us out. Not to mention the whole thing was to be streamed live over the interwebs.

Our biggest challenge: Dealing with people. The wedding coordinator we had to use was very frustrating (this was only her second wedding). I had some relatives who sent emails that they wouldn't be coming to my weird wedding, and how shameful it was. The rain prevented us from using the classic convertible we bought as our escape vehicle.

Over it all I just repeated my mantra, “low maintenance.” Even if none of the other stuff I'd been obsessing about for the past year makes it to the wedding, even if no one else shows up, at the end of the day I'm marrying my best friend and that's all that matters.

My favorite moment: This is so lame, but after the wedding was over, after we were in our awesome hotel, the photographers had left, Matt and I looked at each other and he said “We really should have brought some food with us.” A few hours later, we went out for McDonalds, came back, and I curled up against him while we watched Mythbusters and fell asleep. At 7:30, when we woke up, Matt proclaimed us the worst newlyweds ever. But that cuddly moment was the most “husband and wife” I felt all day. All the dramas were gone, it was just us, and it was perfect.

Jazz hands!
Jazz hands!

My advice for other offbeat brides: EDIT EDIT EDIT!!!!! Ask the girls on OBT, I had SOOOOO many ideas of little details that I wanted to do. If I did end up doing them, they were in a severely different version that I planned at the beginning. Most of them I threw out completely. No favors, no welcome bags for the out of town guests, instead of a highly involved interactive artistic seating chart, we decided to just let people sit themselves. Those details that all the bridal blogs are constantly obsessing over are NOT worth your sanity. Seriously.

And on that note, for the love of God, please don't go overboard with the bridal blogs. This said from a girl who currently has over fifty on her RSS feed. While they're great for inspiration, they also have a tendency to make you doubt your own decisions, even to the point of hating your own wedding, because it will never be as awesome as the people in the blog. Screw them. Take what you need from them and move on. Seriously. That was THEIR day, focus on YOURS. [Editor's note: Ariel wrote a great post on this if you need more convincing: When to stop looking at wedding porn]

Stay tuned for this chalkboard DIY post!
Stay tuned for this chalkboard DIY post!

Also, if you fall head over heels in love with something out of your price range, nine times out of ten, there is a way you can get it — either by smart shopping, bartering or DIY. OBT is a great resource for this kind of thing. All of my decor was DIY.

Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?:

 

Comments on Ang & Matt’s low maintenance, low budget, DIY wedding

  1. Your relatives called and told you they wouldn't come to your weird, shameful wedding? That's horrible! However, in an odd way, that comforts me that you went through that and still had a blast. I have a similarly outspoken family and I am just dreading the call I get from my grandma when she gets the invite and finds out 1) I have no registry, 2) in place of registry we've asked for donations to be made to a gay rights advocacy group, 3) that I sent gay "propaganda" to her relatives! 4) that I didn't send gay propaganda to all of her relatives she felt should be invited and 5) that I mentioned anything about gifts at all in the invite. I know, TACKY! She's so predictable I'm trying to preemptively plan my response.

    • Haha, your list made me laugh. I'd expect something similar from my grandmother if I were inviting her… XD Aw hell, I'll probably get it anyway. (WHY DIDN'T YOU SEND ME YOUR GAY PROPAGANDA?!)

      Also, thanks for supporting us queers. 🙂

  2. I love the rich textures of your bouquets. What did you use in them? Fresh or silk? I love 'em!

    • They were all fresh, we picked them up the night before. They were antique green hydrangeas, and assorted football mums. My bouquet also had mini burgundy calla lillies. We used a local florist who was brilliant with ideas of how to keep the flowers fresh (After you cut them, dip the ends in Allum, the pickling spice), and for centerpieces, which were great, but were unfortunately part of the editing process LOL

  3. Weird and Shameful? How about Lovely and Heartfelt? Love your gentle woodland theme, those amazing Louboutins (Damn!), your bad newlyweds moment, and mostly your attitude! So happy you had a wonderful day despite it all!

  4. Back in the day (the 70's) my parents had a wedding just like this – In my mom's church. There was no dancing, no big party, just punch and cake. And that's how they all were in small towns! This wedding is so pretty, I don't see how its so shameful at all.

  5. I've been reading this website for a year now off and on even though I dont' have any upcoming plans to get married – although I do someday want to! This is the first time I've posted because I absolutely ADORE those photos, they had me all teary-eyed and were just so beautiful and simple without a lot of editing or fancy backgrounds or arranged portraits. Wonderful!

  6. I've been reading this website for a year now off and on even though I dont' have any upcoming plans to get married – although I do someday want to! This is the first time I've posted because I absolutely ADORE those photos, they had me all teary-eyed and were just so beautiful and simple without a lot of editing or fancy backgrounds or arranged portraits. Wonderful!

  7. Weird and shameful? Weird and shameful? Huh. Well, freedom of expression goes two ways: you can have your wedding how you want and they are free to not like the approach and free to say so. At least they were honest and didn't show up snippy and passive aggressive.

    On the other hand I have absolutely no idea what they're talking about.

  8. What was so weird and shameful?….the chicken tenders? That is awesome! Too bad some of your family had to be that way and miss out on what looked like a wonderful day. And I could see my fiance and I doing the same thing the night of our wedding…….Mcdonalds or Taco Bell here we come.

  9. I don't get what was weird and shameful! From everything I see it was beautiful and wonderful!! I'm in awe that someone would say that, and family members no less! The pictures were wonderful, you should be very proud of what you accomplished! I just love DIY weddings!

  10. I don't look at this and see "weird wedding," or even "cheap wedding," I just see awesomeness and simplicity! Congrats to you Ang & Matt!

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