Mom and Uncle Doug
Hi, Ariel. I just wanted to express thanks to you for saving me from my mother. She had been pestering me to carry flowers, which I had absolutely no interest in at all, whatsoever. After many impassioned pleas and fights, I decided to email her a link to Offbeat Bride — particularly the response you wrote to the girl who didn't want to carry anything on her trip down the aisle.

My mother called me and told me that she had never even considered that flowers were optional — it just seemed like something you had to do. Long story even longer, she spent an hour perusing Offbeat Bride and told me how much fun it all looked like, and how she just assumed since she had always seen things done a particular way, it had never occurred to her that it didn't have to be that way.

I don't know how you managed to get it across to her, but you've not only opened her eyes, you've helped me to be more understanding of where she's coming from. Thank you so much for making this ridiculous and incredibly arduous process a little bit more human, and a little bit less stressful. -Trish

P.S.: When I walk down the aisle with no flowers in hand, I will be secretly whispering “Thank you, Ariel!”

Aww, you're so welcome Trish … and Trish's mom! 🙂 I'm actually curious if there are any other mothers-of-the-offbeat-bride reading. Mamas, are you out there?

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Comments on Offbeat Bride is good for moms, too!

  1. I plan on giving your book to BOTH my future MIL and my mom when my long suffering boyfriend and I finally get engaged – right now I’m taking bets between which one will be more stuck on us doing things ‘the right way’…

  2. how about a M-o-t-FG – dsnt look like a good acronym. anyway, son-1 isnt engaged yet,hence the Future Groom, but he and his female counterpart are waiting until the education is finished (YES!) still, I am a planner and will be doing either the rehearsal dinner or, depending on her Asian-American family’s participation, maybe everything!

    this site has so many great ideas I am even re-considering my mate’s idea to renew our vows. although we had an off-beat wedding just about everything went wrong and, even though the groom did wear leather poants, the day was not fun – not even close. part of the problem was that people just did not understand that yes, we did want a medieval wedding, yes, we did want a pig roast, no we didnt want crepe paper bells, wedding favors, out of season flowers and – well, you know how it is. a big part of why I am interested is that I want to be able to help my children and their future brides have the celebration they want when the time comes.

    thanx everyone for sharing inspiration and ideas and thanx Ariel for creating a place to do that!!

  3. I’m a mom who follows this site! My daughter is getting married in June (next month, omg!) and I am always forwarding OBB articles to her. I have found tons of cool ideas and common sense answers here, and it truly is fun to see all the wonderfully different weddings!

  4. I’m a mom that introduced my daughter to this site. First, it was my turn to get blissfully married in my own off beat way. Now I’m reading it to try to find ideas for what to wear to my daughter’s wedding this fall. “Anything you want!” is the only guideline. Any ideas?
    Brides, what would you like to see your mother wear (or not wear) to your beautiful rustic mountain wedding?

  5. My mother was convinced that the bridesmaids had to match, otherwise it will look messy up front. I showed her a link that had a collection of mis-matched bridesmaids, and she realized they didn’t have to match. I gave our wedding party free reign of what to wear with a vague color scheme and formality, and they all ended up wearing the same color anyway! =]

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