Adele & John’s anachronistic Victorian World's Fair wedding #Real Weddings: Midwest US#catholic#comic books#doctor who#food truck#geeky#michigan#orange shoes#photo booth#tacos#victorian dress#video games September 15 2011 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride You guys went a little nuts over Adele's gown in a recent Monday Montage and wondered where the hell were more photos of this dress, damn it!? Ask and ye shall receive. Photos by Leah Renee Photography The offbeat groom: John, Software Engineer His offbeat partner: Adele, Software Engineer (and Tribe member) Date and location of wedding: St. Francis Xavier Church in Petoskey, MI and the Bay Harbor Golf Club in Bay Harbor, MI — May 21, 2011 What made our wedding offbeat: We like a lot of things. We're also terrible at making decisions. For those reasons, our wedding turned out to be a showcase of nearly all (or at least the most photogenic subset) of our interests, obsessions, and pretensions. We tied it all together in an anachronistic Victorian/Edwardian wrapper, resulting in a mini-Adele and John World's Fair. Adele's mom designed the invitations to look like an old world vacation package, including a ticket and a photograph/postcard of Petoskey from the early 20th century, packaged lovingly with (edible!) dried lavender. We started the weekend off with a Thor cake at our rehearsal dinner. For the day of the wedding, Adele designed her Victorian-ish dress and had it made entirely online, via two Etsy sellers, La Belle Fairy and Shawaza. She got the material from eBay, with a choker made by her mom. The two bridesmaids wore fantastic black tutus. It's fair to say that corsets were a mini-theme on the bride's side. For centerpieces, we had stacks of toys, books, and other miscellany on each table. The trinkets and baubles consisted of everything from pirate hats to dinosaurs to this sweet Iron Man statue that we picked up from our local comic shop, and the books ranging from Wuthering Heights to Conan. We decided early on to only get items that we would be okay displaying in our home, and books that would help class up both our tables and, eventually, our study. So, we spent a lot more than we were anticipating on centerpieces, but ended up with a bunch of really cool statues, toys, and books. Oh darn. We featured some of our favorite foods during the reception (a mix of family favorites, Mediterranean, and tacos), and tried to make sure that our herbivorous friends and family were able to eat off of the same buffet as everyone else. Also, mini grilled cheese sandwiches served with tiny cups of tomato soup? Runaway hit. Our first dance was really a first Rock Band rendition of a song by our favorite band, Coheed and Cambria. Our families came together to give a (spirited, yet hilarious) performance of "The Power of Love," and then we relocated the game to a different room, and let our guests play for the rest of the night. Meanwhile, the dance floor moved to a mix of swing, wedding pop, and more modern music. Tell us about the ceremony: Our ceremony was pretty much a straightforward Catholic ceremony, with a few tweaks. Adele's college roommate was our cantor, and she included some of Adele's favorite "liturgically appropriate" songs (sadly, that qualifier excluded an organ rendition of Dragonforce that Adele had painstakingly arranged). We processed in to "Finlandia," Adele's mom's favorite song. We linked arms with both of our parents, rather than the traditional father-daughter, mother-son pairings. Though it was a Catholic ceremony, with Catholic readings, we tried to keep it as accessible to everyone as possible, from the readings to the songs. After the surprisingly short ceremony, our "wedding cabal" and parents trolled around Petoskey in a trolley, taking pictures, before heading on to the reception. Our biggest challenge: Doubt. This gets mentioned a lot, but worrying about whether some feature of your wedding will be well received was a pretty big factor in all of our decisions. How would certain relatives react to having the Master Chief pointing guns at them during dinner? They were totally cool with it, turns out. Would people actually RSVP online? Also yes. Ultimately, we decided not to over think it. These were pretty inoffensive things that, ultimately, would make our wedding a livelier, more enjoyable experience. We also doubted whether or not we'd actually be able to pull off some of our ideas well. We discovered, though, that there's a hidden blessing in throwing a relatively offbeat wedding: nobody knows if you've messed up. It soon became evident as guests began to mess around with Rock Band that hardly anyone there even knew how to play the game. They had no idea how well we were performing, which was kind of a blessing. They only knew we were having fun. So, really, the problem was entirely in our heads. That didn't make it any less nerve-wracking, though. My favorite moment: John: Seeing a friend who had recently had a C-section be able to enjoy herself at Rock Band, despite not being able to dance. Adele: On our programs we'd included a short paragraph about gay marriage: Finally, on our wedding day, our hearts go out to those who are denied the right of marriage, those whose love so many refuse to recognize. May the day soon come that they may celebrate their love as we do today. There were some protests that this was a political statement at our Catholic ceremony, but at the reception, one of my new in-laws thanked us for including it. Her daughter is gay, and it meant a lot to her that someone acknowledged the unfairness of our system. My funniest moment: So, we totally thought that we'd introduce some diversity into our playlist during the band's breaks, and include some more non-traditional music. Our guests were young and hip, and would totally enjoy the mix up, yeah? Not so! The first time we got to a rock song, the dance floor cleared out. You could hear crickets over the guitar solo. Adele and I trucked on and danced anyway. It's not like I can dance, anyway, so why not share my shame as the entire wedding looked on? It's not like the song was seven minutes or anything. Luckily, next up was Shakira, and we were saved by the honesty of her hips. Robot cufflinks! Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? Our photo booth. We knew early on that we wanted a photo booth, and that we didn't want to rent one. We also knew that we wanted people to have an array of moustaches to pose with. Procrastination got the better of us, though, and two days before our wedding, the sole checked item on our photo booth list was, in fact, the moustaches. We spent those two days driving up and down the west coast of Michigan, trying to resolve a problem that arose while procuring our wedding license (also a total disaster, by the way). In the hours before the ceremony, my brother and I were at the Golf Club setting up my laptop and printer, crossing our fingers that everything would work out. It totally did, though, and there was actually an unexpectedly long line to use the booth. The vast majority of our considerably large guest list got in there at some point, and we ended up with an absurd amount of pictures. They got some really fun photos as a favor, and we got a Facebook gallery's worth of career liabilities and serious moustache action. Win win! My advice for offbeat brides: People really love photo booths. There are a few articles on Offbeat Bride that show how to put together a totally workable photo booth on the cheap. Seriously, though, people go crazy for that shit. For grooms: you're going to get a lot of incredulity from people if you're actually somewhat involved in your own wedding. It's totally a worthwhile experience, though, and it's kind of really cool seeing both parties of your relationship on display! Also, your fiancée is probably under tons of stress, because that's a wedding thing. Sometimes interjecting will add to that stress, but a lot of the time, getting involved with the actual planning (not just working on whatever tasks you've been assigned) can make a big difference. So, yeah, definitely get involved! Shot lists for your photographer are important things. It seems super minor, but when you're going through your post-wedding existential crisis a week later and realize, "holy god, we forgot the rain boots!" you'll wish you had that list. Adele's Advice: If you're craving an offbeat wedding after reading the Offbeat Bride blog every day since you've been engaged, and you're feeling inadequate in the face of all these astoundingly fabulous ladies and their partners that are featured here, don't doubt yourself. Offbeat is in the eye of the beholder, and you'll be surprised at what your guests think is strange (like simply not having a train or a veil or a tux). Try to see the beauty and fun of your wedding, not in comparison with the others posted here (because seriously, each day I see weddings that are even more awesome than the day before's, and how could mine ever even start to hold up against them?!), but in the context of who you are as a couple and what you want to share with your loved ones. Because then you will see how awesome it really is. And omgosh, hire a day-of coordinator. We lost at least 150 cupcakes because no one was in charge of looking after them. Do it for the cupcakes. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? My initial reaction is to say "loose lips sink ships," but that's not really true. There's this painful balance between wanting to ask family and friends for help, and having to deal with their concerns about how far off the beaten path you're going. Honestly, as unfortunate as the comparison may be, pulling a wedding together can be a lot like running a terrorist cell. You make sure people know their parts, and nothing more. Make sure that no one has all the pieces to the puzzle. Be careful about what you talk about, because the more people know, the more opportunity for friction and fighting there is. Besides, the fresher the wedding day is to them, the more enjoyable it'll be. Surprises are fun! On the other hand, you're probably going to need to bring people in. If Adele's mom hadn't put our assembled junk together for us, we wouldn't have had centerpieces. Period. We didn't even get a chance to preview them before the wedding, due to wedding license issues, but they turned out great. We were still up super late the night before getting table numbers, guest lists, and menus designed and printed, but at least we were able to get some sleep. Without any help, we definitely wouldn't have gotten even that. Delegate wisely, but delegate nonetheless. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Dress: La Belle Fairy and Shawaza on Etsy Suit: Brooks Brothers Cufflinks: Etsy seller Cosmic Firefly Cupcake Toppers: Etsy seller Picobaby Mustaches: Etsy seller thecamerasmybff Rings: StoneBrook Jewely and June Designs on Etsy Comic book/super hero centerpieces and comics: BuyMeToys.com (love these people!) Trolley: Mackinac Old Time Trolley Photobooth software: Sparkbooth Church: St. Francis Xavier Parish Reception Venue: Bay Harbor Golf Club Photographer: Leah Renee Photography Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Whatever you do — DON'T SMILE NEXT Emergency kits for your BBQ wedding reception Show/Hide comments [ 20 ] I love EVERYTHING about this! OMG, the dress. The shoes! The bridesmaids (esp. the black tutu dress)! What a gorgeous wedding…nice photography and you look so very happy. Congrats! 1 agrees Reply This was one of my favorite profiles in a while! I love all your advice and the way you write about your experience. 2 agree Reply Oh my god! I love la belle fairy! Her corsets are amazing!(I own one) and she is from the town just over from my hometown! I'm sorry I just had to make this comment. Reply Absolutely adore your dress! I love the trolley. And it looks like you are having so much fun in all of your pictures."Offbeat is in the eye of the beholder". Could not agree more! 1 agrees Reply Beautiful wedding, awesome concepts, lovely couple, and great advice = spectacular post!! thank you for sharing! wishing you great happiness in your marriage! Reply Agreed! What a great post! Now, for my own selfish reasons, I need to know where you got your shoes. They're perfect, and I've had a devil of a time finding orange shoes… 1 agrees Reply Actually, they were from Amazon, and super cheap! Sadly, they only had two sizes at the time (I had to go small, which was not as comfy as I was hoping for), and they are currently out of stock with no plans to restock, it looks like. Sadness…. http://www.amazon.com/CutesyGirl-CGgirl15-Pumps-Orange/dp/B003K7GPDQ/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top Reply These shoes are a very similar style, but not available in orange: Reply I am sooo excited to see all of these beautiful pictures plus the fact that the bride and groom rocked their first dance to Coheed and Cambria just makes it that much awesomer! I sometimes feel like I'm the only one who knows who they are and how badass their music is! ROCK ON! 3 agree Reply I live in the UP and we're trying to find a good place, so it's nice to see a northern Michigan wedding profiled! Everything looks very beautiful 🙂 Reply This is just waaaaay awesome. Thank you for this! Reply I love that you went with the misc. centre pieces. I have been wanting to do something similiar, but was too concerned with what people will think. Now I am keen to whip up a couple and try it out Reply I fricking LOVE Finlandia. Was it played on CD or by live musicians? Reply Actually, we only had an organist (big traditional church and no money for outside musicians), so she played a wonderful organ rendition of it. Made it super majestic and powerful – I was in awe when she tried it out the first time. Reply Love love LOVE the shoes! And the action figures! And the Rock Band! <3 <3 <3 Reply I want those shoes! I love the dress! Reply Great wedding and great post! Reply I love the dress! I absolutely want to steal the paragraph about gay marriage. I've been wanting to include something like that in my wedding, and I haven't been able to come up with wording even close to that elegant. Can I steal it pretty please with the White City on top? Reply Uh… of course? I'm glad you like it so much! Good luck with your wedding! Reply Thanks so much! This has been on my mind a lot because I have friends who are committed to their partners and cannot have the same legal rights as other couples simply because they are the same gender. It's not right, and I wanted to recognize that without calling out anyone in particular. I know it's going to upset certain members of my family, and I don't care. The way you put it is concise and elegant all at the same time without being overly political or condemning. Reply Leave a Reply to Adele Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.