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The Offbeat Bride: Katie, Photographer & Teacher (aka. KatieMalone on the Offbeat Bride Tribe.)

Her Offbeat Partner: Clinton, Glass Blower

Location & date of wedding: A farm in Berkshire County, MA. — August 23, 2008

What made our wedding offbeat: Our wedding was perfectly us in every detail. We knew we wanted a fun country wedding that reflected us as much as it could, as well as entertain the various age groups and personalities of our guests.

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Kids & adults playing with bubbles.

As a teacher, children are very important to our lives, so we couldn't exclude them from the fun! We made sure we had plenty of toys for outside, including badminton, hula hoops, bubbles & frisbees. We had an arts & crafts table with paperdolls we made featuring us, watercolor paint sets, stickers & markers.

Eliza & Barbara

As a photographer, I HAD to have the photo booth. It was a splurge, but well worth it. We used it for the guest book as well — guests decorated pages with supplies from the arts & crafts table along with strips from the photo booth. And as huge jazz fans, we had a fantastic jazz band play for everyone to boogie down to. It was great to see the guests moving around the farm with so much to do, no one sat down!

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We wanted to make the favors uniquely us. Clinton is a glass blower & made 150 blue glass roses that we placed at each place setting. I wanted a photo favor of us from me, so we got stickers printed up featuring us, because everyone wants stickers of us!

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I wore my mother's wedding gown from 1976, although we did alter it some. I wore yellow flats for shoes. Clinton wore a Zoot Suit & sneakers (fancy sneakers). After dinner, we changed into more casual wear for dancing all night. My casual wedding dress was from KT Jean Design.

Our good friends did our flowers, with daisies as the main theme. And another friend married us. He is a Buddhist Priest & performed a beautiful ceremony that was perfect for us. I had both of my parents walk me up the hill to my future husband.

Rubber Chicken Toss/Bouquet Toss Fake Out

Instead of throwing my bouquet, I threw a rubber chicken & one of my bridesmaids caught it. She got a coupon for 20 free hot wings. It was just funny to see people's reaction.

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Afterwards, we had a dozen or so rubber chickens to throw around the farm, but alot of them ended up on the dance floor and in the photo booth.

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Polaroid table numbers!!!
Photos were very important to have at our wedding too. We had disposable cameras on the tables & I had guests & a bridesmaid who are all professional photographers. We made flickr upload cards & got over 500 guest photos within a week from guests. Up at our “alter” I took a quick shot of everyone watching us getting married. I ended up shooting a lot of shots myself too, because I wanted to. I wanted to take photos through my eyes & my style. Our hired photographer was excellent & we took photos down the road at a beautiful park before the wedding even started. It was great to do that before the wedding to get them out the the way & spend some quieter time with each other.

My mother made all of the tablecloth over lays & my mother in law set up a lounge area up in the loft with pillows and slipcovers & photos of us growing up & together. They were nice handmade touches that they worked so hard on & they looked great!

Our biggest challenge: Oh man! Our wedding was a near disaster, believe it or not.

The people who ran the farm were horrendous! From screaming at us for setting up the wedding (we set up everything, because the crew wasn't there until an hour before the wedding), to screaming in the barn at each other during our vows to making obscene gestures in our photo booth. The food was all wrong, cold & missing & they ran out. Our cupcakes were flowerless, the list goes on & on….

What we did to deal with this: Nothing! Our wedding was so beautiful & magical, and there was sooooo much positive love and energy brought in from our guests & family, it wiped all of the negativity out & we were able to ignore them & the problems & have the best day of our lives. I remember blocking out all of the bullshit & thinking, “Damn it, this is our day. Nothing is going to put me down”.

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Love will Conquer All.

My favorite moment: As traditional as this may seem, it was our first dance. We danced to “Sweet Thing” by Van Morrison. A quarter through of the way through the song, my Dad cut in! This wasn't planned as the next song I was so pose to dance with him, not this one!

UntitledSo he cut in & Clinton danced with his mom & sister & my mom & brother danced together. Then, partners were switched again & I had no one to dance with! I stood there in the middle of the dance floor for 15 seconds or so with no one. Then one of my bridesmaids jumped in & I danced with her. The next song was planned to be the family song, but since we just did that, it was just me & Clinton this time dancing to “The Wind” by Cat Stevens. It was beautiful & dreamlike.

My advice for other offbeat brides: I thought our wedding would be perfect! We were soooo organized & well planned. Everything was in order & should have been perfect. But it was faaaar from perfect, yet it was the best day of our lives.

You cannot plan the day, as much & as carefully as you plan. Unexpected things may happen. Bad things may happen. Good things that were not planned will happen. As long as you have love & support from your family & guests, it will be “perfect.”

Comments on Katie & Clinton’s Photo-tastic Family Fun Farm Wedding

  1. Hi Katie!

    Thank goodness your family and friends are a) awesome, and b) the people that will be around in your life (aka not those jerkboats). And great job on finding your peace and enjoying your wedding!

    the spirit of everyone who loves you is palpable in the photos. gorgeous!

    i tried to read the beagle article, but it got taken down. Do you mind telling me the name of the place? I live in WMass, and i would be sick if i knew someone who ended up giving those dickwads any business…..

  2. katie is awesome!!! the holgas are gorgeous…some of my favorites!!

    what a fun wedding…it was so great to read all the details! way to stay positive and loving throughout, no matter what happens.

    wishing katie & clinton a wonderful & magical life together!
    xox

  3. Thanks so much, everyone for the comments, everyone! It was the love of our family & friends that made our wedding special.

    Jillian,
    I can’t tell you the name of the farm, but it’s not hard to figure out with minimal research.

  4. ZOMG that last shot is AMAZING – I want to crawl inside it and live there forever!

    And your wedding looked like so much FUN!

  5. The last pic, such a magic place!.I even figured out myself in that place with my partner, romantic, magical, enjoying him alone with him. It must have been a perfect day for them, nice marry party.

  6. I wish I could say that I am at peace with the evil things that happened. I’m not over it & sometimes have a hard time separating “our day” from “their day”. I may have seemed over the drama when I wrote this way back when, but everyday is different. Looking back on our wedding, 8 months ago now, still gives me mixed feelings. I advise you all to RESEARCH RESEARCH & ASK FOR REFERENCES. I wish we did. It’s a good rule of thumb in anything really-choosing a pet sitter, an accountant, mechanic…etc.
    That said, we are glad we had such wonderful family & friends to help us on our day. We had early arriving guests who helped us set up our table settings, decorations, etc (due to the circumstances). You know you are loved when that happens. Plus the love & warmth throughout the day was everywhere from our friends & family. When all is said & done, The most important thing is that our wedding wasn’t as important as our marriage is.

  7. Oh my God, this is in my area! I was looking at this place!

    I hope that your complaints to the BBB went over well. I don’t know what the BBB does to remedy situations, but I do hope some reparations were made for you. I wish I had money to buy a place like that out and do it PROPERLY. I’ve considered going into the wedding planning business before… hearing about people who are so inordinately unprofessional just makes me want to do it more. So that it’s done RIGHT.

    I will be sure to thoroughly research a place and read reviews before I choose to use it.

    I am so glad that your family was there for you, and I truly hope that karma will kick in for those rude people.

  8. OMG, shocking stuff! So much kudos to you guys for being strong enough to rise above it, though. There’s no way those people should be running a wedding venue – I really hope you manage to get some redress and closure after such appalling behaviour on their part. I reckon definitely contact the press – this is a real story, it’d probably be cathartic for you guys to get it out there, and the publicity would probably save a few people from booking at the venue in question!

    And that photo on the steps is amazing, one of the most gorgeous wedding shots I’ve ever seen!

  9. I want to thank you for sharing your really positive attitude about not letting things going wrong bother you DURING your wedding (retrospect is fine…but not ruining your day is key!). I needed to read this and then see your pictures of how truly happy you were on your wedding day! My wedding is in 28 days and I’m going to try and emulate your good attitude if things don’t go exactly as I have them in my head! The day is about US…and sharing out love with our family and friends. Thanks for the reminder!

    Even if your venue let you down…it was a beautiful setting! I’m in the Berkshires, too (though my wedding is in the Hudson Vally of NY)…dying to figure out where this was!

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