Sarah & Jeff's steam-punk, victorian military wedding extravaganza #Real Weddings: Northeast US#baltimore#birdcage veil#geeky weddings#harry potter#hat#ipod#lanterns#maryland#military#steampunk#sword#top hat#victorian#wings Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Sep 10 2010) Offbeat Editors Who doesn't love a man in uniform or a bride who wears wings to her reception? Not me. If you were intrigued by that dignified portrait of Sarah & Jeff I shared with you a few weeks ago, then you'll enjoy reading the rest of their wedding details! -Coco The offbeat bride: Sarah – graphic designer and artist (and OBT Member) Her offbeat partner: Jeff – Ensign in the Navy Location & date of the wedding: US Naval Academy, Annapolis and Belvedere Hotel, Baltimore MD — June 5, 2010 What made our wedding offbeat: First off, our wedding bands don't match: mine is a family heirloom. It is a wedding/engagement set from my Great-Grandmother, and Jeff's is a black banded Titanium ring I bought for him the first year we were together. I also insisted on wearing all the rings I normally wear (much to the chagrin of my family), because they all have meaning for me. We had a military wedding (complete with a sword arch) and a victorian steampunk fairyland reception, where my husband wore a top hat and I wore wings hand made by a friend. Most of our guests dressed for our theme. I let the bridesmaids wear whatever they liked, as long as they wore a black dress for the formal military ceremony (half the wedding party changed for the reception). The bouquets, reception centerpieces, and my veil were made by me and were decorated with clockwork charms made by my husband. The centerpieces were made of birdcages, painted sticks with hanging lanterns, and framed photographs of Jeff and me. Our playlist was specially crafted on my iPod and played on my friend's PA system: we were announced to the Doctor Who Theme, cut the cake with a Navy sword to the Star Wars Theme Song, and played all types of swing and ragtime (including music from Moulin Rouge and Harry Potter). The boys even got together to sing me "You've Lost That Loving Feeling." It was fantastic! Our biggest challenge: Standing my ground on my vision for the wedding. My parents were helping pay for the wedding and wanted to have input, but my Mom and I have never been on the same page about anything. She didn't understand my vision and thought I wasn't focused enough. She felt that I was focused on the wrong things and didn't understand the importance of expressing ourselves for our wedding. It only worked out the day of the wedding when she was finally able to SEE my vision. All I wanted to do was show everyone how much I loved my man in my own way. Walking under the sword arch. My favorite moment: Our first dance. Jeff thinks he can't dance and is very self conscious about it. He would always joke around whenever we took lessons. But this time he took it seriously and we had an amazing dance! His dancing skills were actually very impressive, and it meant a lot to me he tried to put his own feelings aside to make it special for me. My funniest moment: It was either when I walked into the first sword in the sword arch… or when all the guys got together and sang "You've Lost That Lovin' Feelin,'" to me at the top of their lungs. Mini lanterns on their centerpieces! My advice for offbeat brides: Stay calm and focused as best you can. Focus on what really matters to you for your wedding, and let everything else go. No matter what happens around you, your wedding day will still be amazing. You'll be with your partner (who thinks you look gorgeous, btw), you'll publicly express your love for each other, and you'll celebrate with your friends. And on that day, you won't care that the cake topper, or what not, didn't work out. Try to keep everyone else who's involved in your wedding focused on YOUR goal as well – I had to tell my mother a hundred times that I didn't care what the cake looked like, I just wanted to marry the man I loved. Some things just don't matter in the end. Focus on the things that do. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Dress: David's Bridal Photographer: Jeannine & Brian Frest Reception Venue: Belvedere Hotel Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS Feathered wedding shoes NEXT Till Death Do Us Part: the gothic wedding planner Show/Hide comments [ 19 ] I love how you managed to blend together a traditional (for the most part) military wedding with your reception. I think it's very creative and it turned out amazing! Reply Whoa! Where did you get the mini-lanterns? Reply The mini lanterns are these from Target that (after pulling them off the string lights) I modified with battery operated tea lights from the dollar store. Reply Yes please tell us where you got the mini lanterns, they are exactly what I've been looking for! Reply Like I said on the comment above, The mini lanterns are these from Target that (after pulling them off the string lights) I modified with battery operated tea lights from the dollar store. Reply I wanna know more about her shrug! Loves it! Reply just in case she doesn't answer- I thought I'd let you know it reminded me of one I was lusting over on etsy made by Victorian Scarlett Designs http://www.etsy.com/listing/52371959/red-blue-purple-silk-couture-shoulder (obviously she can make it in any colour you want) Reply I bought the shrug here. She can make it any color you like! Reply sensational! Reply so elegant and gorgeous! Reply I love how this wedding is soooo beautiful and still formal while still managing to be so creative! This would be a great example to show a reluctant mom if she just doesn't understand offbeat. Congrats Sarah & Jeff! Reply Where is that mill from the steampunk photo shoot? Reply It's in Savage Mill, Maryland. Sadly part of it collapsed last year with the heavy snow storm, but it's still beautiful. The building directly behind it hosts weddings, and you can look down into from the balcony. It's really a neat place. Reply This is beautiful. I'm having my own steampunk/autumn/navy wedding this month! Reply Don't forget to post the pictures on the OffBeatBride Flickr page! I'd love to see them! Reply Awesome! Love seeing all the corsets, goggles, and tophats that the steampunk theme inspired! Beautiful. Brava! Reply My FOH and I are HUGE Doctor Who fans and it never occurred to us to come into the reception with the theme song!! Love that idea! Reply this is the most perfect thing ive ever seen. im absolutely floored. Reply I love how they did their wedding! It was so beautiful they definitely capture themselves in it. Quite lovely. Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.