Rainbows & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are changing wedding ring rules

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Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
A rainbow of ring options from Joseph Jewelry

When it comes to buying rings for weddings, whether it be engagement rings, wedding bands, or other kinds of jewelry, LGBTQ couples (and throuples and more!) are throwing out the traditions that bind them to forge their own paths in ringdom. Whether you propose to each other, have matching bands, eschew rings altogether in favor of another kind of jewelry, the options for rings that represent your identity are quite literally endless.

I spoke with one of our favorite custom ring creators, Joseph Jewelry, to see what trends and ideas they've been seeing in wedding jewelry that allow for more expression of who and how you love, what your gender is, and how you want to communicate that to world. They've spent years custom-crafting the most unique and creative rings for Offbeat Bride readers so we knew they'd have real insight…

Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
Complementary rose gold and carbon fiber rings

Have you received a lot of requests for rings that represent the LGBTQ community?

We are constantly getting requests from LGBTQ couples who are looking for rings to fit their style or ideas. We find that everyone chooses to go their own route with design: some want matching rings but different metals, others have matching sets (engagement ring with a band) but with a small addition or change to make them personal and unique, and some create sets with the same gemstone but completely different designs. There's no wrong way to do it!

Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
This opal, though!

What kind of attributes could a couple choose to include their identity in a ring design?

There are so many ways to represent your identity in your rings. You could investigate gemstone types and shapes, like an equilateral triangle, or incorporate a color pattern on the band with gemstones (see item this ring or this ring), or laser engrave a phrase or symbol inside your ring. You can have elements that covertly match you and your partner's rings, such as matching sapphires on the inside of the bands, but may have completely different designs on the outside.

If you like diamonds, get diamonds. If you want a simple gold band, get that band. If you want a multi-colored unicorn ring, we can help you create that. We have a massive collection of unique rings online that can help get you started on your own custom idea. We have designers who can help you come up with ways to incorporate the elements that are important to you.

Custom Solitaire Purple Sapphire Engagement Ring

Could you create a ring that represented multiple identities and interests? For instance, a ring that has dragon imagery AND identifies someone as part of the LGBTQ community?

Definitely! For that specific concept, you could start by customizing one of our dragon rings and could replace the sapphire stripes with a special color combination. Our designers can create a photo example of what that would look like. As another example, we frequently create rings with floral elements and we could create one specifically with violets. The options are endless!

Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
This custom band is RIPE for rainbow gemstones!

Do you find that couples are breaking out of the restrictions of "men's" and "women's" rings more and customizing rings that match their style?

Over the years we have seen more and more couples opt to switch things up. When it comes down to it, there are no rules. A ring is something that represents you and your relationship and the meaning of your ring is for only you to define. Everything depends on what you want and what best represents your relationship. As a custom design jeweler, we love making creative and unique jewelry, but the most important thing to us is that our clients are 100% satisfied with their pieces and the process. They can create something they'd never be able to find just walking into a store.

Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
Diamond gorgeousness
Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
White Opal And Diamond Pendant

Could you make ring alternatives like unity necklaces, collars, or other pieces if a ring exchange just doesn't feel right to a couple?

If a ring doesn't feel right, you can absolutely create a different type of jewelry. We have created pendants for clients who did not feel comfortable wearing a ring but still wanted to a have piece that represented their relationship. A necklace or bracelet would be great ways to do this, and we also have clients who wear their rings on a chain as a necklace as an alternative.

Lavender Amethyst Fashion Ring
Lavender Amethyst Ring

What is your philosophy towards working with the LGBTQ community?

At Joseph Jewelry, our number one priority is to treat everyone with respect. We're here for those who want something a little different, for those who haven't found any ring styles they like out there, and for those who want to play a personal role in creating such a significant piece of jewelry. We'll make sure you're 100% happy with every detail. When you come to Joseph Jewelry you get exactly what you want with the highest level of customer service.

Our designers guide you through every step. When you design your own ring, it's only finished when you're happy with every detail. We will make sure you are comfortable and confident that you are making informed choices without pressure or risk.

Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
Mix and match diamond sets
Joseph Jewelry is also featured in our Offbeat Vendors guide!
Thanks to Joseph Jewelry for sharing all of this insight with us. We only partner with companies who fully embrace diversity in all forms and are SO glad that we get to see their custom creations come to life for readers.

Head over to see some of their creative custom rings and feel free to stalk their custom process to see how it would work. Our suggestion? Find colors, symbols, and elements that make you and your relationship tick. Grab some imagery and get it in the hands of an artisan at Joseph Jewelry and watch magic happen that you can wear forever.

Rainbows, matching, & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are customizing their wedding rings
Custom Cluster Amethyst, Sapphire, And Diamond Engagement Ring

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