Anli & Laura's Lesbian Gamer Geek Wedding

Updated Jun 23 2021
Photos by: Julie Clyde Photography
Photos by Photo by Julie Clyde Photography

The offbeat bride: Anli, data analyst

Her offbeat partner: Laura, public servant

Location & date of wedding: The Old Stone House, NSW Australia — 5 September 2009



What made our wedding offbeat: We wanted a ceremony that reflected our geeky, romantic, pink aesthetic, while at the same time being profound and meaningful.

Our ceremony was themed around the video game Portal and the anime series Revolutionary Girl Utena.

We incorporated lots of geeky details, from the table names (Revolution, Sierra, Katara and GLaDOS) to the choice of music.

We also kept several traditional elements such as bouquets, dresses and bridesmaids. However, we both walked down the aisle unaccompanied and skipped the garter/bouquet toss.

I DIY'ed many details, including bouquets, centrepieces, bonbons, stationery and my hand-embellished corset, skirts, petticoat and detachable train.


Because our wedding was so small, we skipped having a dance floor and invited guests to games of Lupus In Tabula after dinner. Our cake and bonbon were companion-cube shaped. We played Rock Band instead of having a Hens Night. And we walked down the aisle to an obscure piece of music from Utena.

Companion Cube cake. Photo by Julie Clyde Photography.

Because we can't legally be wed in Australia, we had a good friend officiate and he did a great job. [EDITOR'S NOTE: Years later, once the laws changed, these two DID get legally married!]



We kept our vows secret from one another until the night before, but somehow both of us managed to discuss Laura's fear of spiders in each of our vows.

Many of our friends very kindly offered their support and help, from playing violin at the ceremony, setting up decorations, making sure we were fed, proof-reading our vows, driving us around before the day and looking after our cats.

We also both wore dresses, although we didn't keep our dresses secret; we had photo shoots together before the ceremony and even got dressed in the same room!

Laura kept her pink hair, I kept my glasses on through all the photos and we posed with Nintendo DS consoles.



Our biggest challenge: We were engaged for almost two years and picked our venue a year and a half in advance. Closer to the date, we were unsure whether the site vendors understood our vision for the day as we had originally discussed. We were very concerned about having adequate heating as many guests would be traveling in from a warmer state. We also had problems with not being able to order the correct furniture that we originally wanted.

Photo by Julie Clyde Photography.

With some good communication, we were able to sort out our issues. And the venue was set up mostly as we had originally envisaged. It helped that our vendors were very patient and understanding people. We needed to get confirmation on details early on as it really made the process less stressful.

We also made contingency plans (for example, seeking alternative sources for furniture and decorations) which we, fortunately, did not have to use.

My favorite moment: Laura's favourite moment was watching me walk down the aisle towards her while our lovely friend Katherine played Hikari Sasu Niwa on violin. We had decided she would go first as during the rehearsal I felt really nervous being the first in line. However, during the ceremony I read my vows first.

My favourite moment was the sunset photoshoot after the ceremony. I felt much more relaxed after everything had worked out really well and we had a lovely romantic walk together at the bottom of the garden and had some time alone with one another and our discreet photographer, Julie Clyde.

My offbeat advice: Our advice is to really spend some serious time with one another discussing your direction for your ceremony and the kind of vows that you want to make. We spent a lot of time developing our vows and had great input from some of our friends, which we highly recommend seeking if you can.

Also, if you're going the DIY route, try to have everything done at least a month in advance. I was still altering dresses (which was unplanned for) on the week of the wedding which wasn't fun at all given that we had international and interstate guests to entertain and an international honeymoon to prepare for.

Care to share a few vendor links?

  • Anli's cream knitted bolero – Trendy Knitting
  • Anli's dress – hand made, fabric sources included Silk Baron, House Fabric, and Exclusive Silks
  • Laura's pink & cream dress – Raylia Designs
  • Bridesmaids' dresses – Style Shake
  • Venue – The Old Stone House (NSW, Australia)
  • Catering – Le Tres Bon (French)
  • Cake – Amelia's Cakes, Page ACT Australia
  • Photography – Capturing Essence


  1. Hi Laura i was just wondering what colour your hair is?? I'm totally in love with it and i'm desperate to be a pink haired bride!! 😀

    • Hi I use 'pink moon' fudge paintbox for the pink 🙂

      The main thing for getting the colour right is to have a really thorough bleach. When I first started, my hair needed to be bleached three times to get the colour light enough, and I didn't have dark hair to start with. Another nice colour in the same range is 'pink flamingo', however it's slightly darker. Good luck with your wedding!

    • Her natural colour is a red, which I _think_ makes it easier 🙂 I think for a while she was washing purple dye in but then taking it out REALLY early to get the perfect shade of pink… she's dedicated! 😀 (from a friend who is still squeeing over their wedding to this day! :D)

    • thank you both so much i have blonde hair so it shouldn't be too bad but i will be bleaching too!! that is dedication good on you!!! its such a perfect pink!! and your whole wedding is just beautiful thank you for sharing!! i think i was most excited that it was in Australia!!

  2. Wow! I'm also a lesbian gamer marrying a lesbian gamer (in 8 days, no less!) so it's lovely to see your pictures and hear about your ceremony!

    "Lonely Rolling Star" from Katamari Damacy is going to be my processional song. (:

  3. As I told the Spouse, "This goes from Awesome to Creepy (I mean, come on – those are two unsettling storylines!) to Sweet," and then I saw the cake toppers and that just pinned the needle at Sweet. OMG SO ADORABLE. (And the rest of the photos just kept it there.)

    Also : Big ol' congratulations!

  4. Aww! This is so incredibly nerdy and incredibly romantic. Especially love the Utena piece for walking down the aisle. Please tell me you danced to Sometimes Love from the movie (Mirrored rose surface optional, of course).

    I guess the cake wasn't a lie, after all. 😉

  5. This is phenomenal! You both look ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! I am so in love with the gamer theme and OMG I WANT THAT CAKE…I hope it was real…cause it was a wedding…a cake cannot be a lie at a wedding lol!

  6. ну че по русски нельзя писать?

  7. Those are wonderful photos ladies, you raise the bar for weddings everywhere. I laughed a lot about companion cube, it seems that, after all the doubts, hype, and misgivings, that the cake was not a lie.

  8. this is the cutest thing ever. I love all the detail – the gel pens and anime pen cup for the guest book. way cute. I'll remember to keep an eye on detail.

  9. That looks like a really pretty ceremony, I'm so happy for you both!! So nice to see such lovely people so in love, you can see it in every photo. Congratulations!

  10. The pictures of your wedding have brought tears to my eyes – while making me laugh and grin like a loon. Absolutely beautiful in every sense of the word. I wish you both happiness and strength. You two have made my day.

  11. This has to be the sweetest most beautiful pink ceremony I have ever seen!
    I congratulate you two and hope you have a wonderful happy life together.

  12. Stunning, absolutely beautiful! From the outfits to the cake to the … everything! As lesbians, gamers and Utena fans, my girlfriend and I can only dream of managing to make our wedding this gorgeous <3

  13. I love it!!!! All of it! 😀 Did you have the Portal end song playing as you left the venue? A portal cake seems so appropriate somehow. You're both lovely and the wedding is amazing and gorgeous!

  14. It's things like this that make me sad. Sad that until our government realizes what "equal rights" mean, ridiculously awesome ceremonies such as this cannot be official 🙁

    I heard on triple j this afternoon that that may be changing sometime soon though. Great pics and may you two be happy forever after 🙂

  15. You girls are too cute! And I love your dresses! Congrats, you two! 😀

    I AM IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANION CUBE CAKE! This looks like something my fiance and I would do. We're big gamers/geeks ourselves! He wants a Tetris screen as his groom cake.

  16. ZOMG! I'd drooled over your wedding last year when I first saw it last year (although I'm rubbish at commenting) but it was only last weekend that my friend D (who was the one who first got me hooked on OB by featuring briefly with her owl) mentioned that Laura was the same Laura who was friends with my little brother in school.

    I'm so glad to see you well and happy and by goodness did you have an epically gorgeous lesbian gamer geek wedding. Here's to hoping that Australia drags itself into the 21st Century and legalises gay marriage soon!

  17. Well congratulations girls, i know it must have been hard for you, i should know, me and my fiances wedding, we were both nervous, but the kiss was my favourite part, it went on for like a minute, i wish you girls luck, by the way my wife is a famous model in nuts, Lucy Pinder.

  18. Wow! I've been engaged for about 6 months, and this is probably the most beautiful wedding I've seen (and I've seen A LOT of weddings).
    I actually saw your cake on a different site, was looking through geeky wedding cakes. It's beautiful, and it was so you!
    I really admire your wedding 😀

  19. What an insanely beautiful wedding! I love the pink and the GORGEOUS gowns. I know I'm a few years late, but congratulations!

  20. Does anyone else see Tosh from Torchwood in Anli? What a beautiful wedding, congratulations to you both!

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