Murphy & Deagle's monochromatic video games wedding #Real Weddings: Southern US#black dress#brides in glasses#couples of color#fall weddings#kentucky#long-haired groom#plus size#spring#tim burton#top hat#video games Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Jul 16 2014) Offbeat Editors Photos by: Dawn Suter Photos by Dawn Suter The Offbeat Bride: Murphy, Content Editor Her offbeat partner: Deagle, Quality Assurance Technican Date and location of wedding: Conrad Cauldwell House Museum, Louisville, KY — October 25, 2013 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our wedding was a decorated with a sort of Tim Burton monochromatic theme — very little décor. We used black and white striped fabric for the arch, tall black candelabras, black and white sand for the sand ceremony, and the venue itself was black and white. We had no flowers because we just considered them too expensive and unnecessary for us. The wedding itself cost less than $8,000, thanks to having no flowers, a small ceremony venue, few decorations, and a cheap non-traditional dress! There were times I wished we'd done a tiny bit more for the décor, but I'm over it now. Deagle wore a suit with a crimson vest, and I wore a black pin-up dress with opera-length gloves, a black top-hat, and black pumps. My mom fashioned a long, black, sheer fabric as a last minute train, which looked even better than she originally described. The reception was video game-themed, covered in pictures from our favorite games: lots of Zelda, Half-Life 2, Team Fortress 2, and Mario references. Tell us about the ceremony: The ceremony featured ambient music from a bunch of video games as well. Our moms went down the aisle to a gorgeous cover of the Game of Thrones opening theme, and I danced down the aisle with my dad to Ella Fitzgerald's version of "Puttin' on the Ritz." We also had video game-themed vows! The vows included how we would always be each other's player one and two, with many references to zones, pipes, Goombas, and Deathclaws. Our biggest challenge: Deciding on who to invite was a big one, as was trying to convince immediate family (namely mom and dad) that there was NO WAY we were going to do the traditional white wedding shindig. I had to explain a number of times that Deagle and I are very non-traditional, and didn't want elements that didn't represent us. As for inviting folks, my biggest regret was that I did not, in the end, invite several of my oldest friends to the wedding. There had been some drama that we hadn't gotten passed. Every day I tell myself that I should have invited them, and the anxiety aftershock still hits me extremely hard to this day. My favorite moment: My mom, dad, and sister all made speeches that emphasized the love Deagle and I share. It was nice to see my dad get in front of the crowd and tell the public, in his own no-nonsense way, how important it is to find someone worth your time. My favorite moment of all was the moment the planner (my stepmom's best friend/traditionalist) found out that we decided on using rings after all (we were originally against the expense). When my husband showed her the rings, namely a titanium men's ring and a black Batman one, she frowned and asked which one was mine. When my husband said the Batman one was mine, she huffed in the most dramatic way and marched off. As Deagle puts it, "little does she know that my brothers and I have had years of practice irritating tiny, blonde women." Related Post I DON'T WANT YOUR STUPID MONEY, MOM: How to turn down financial help My parents offered to pay for most of our wedding next summer, which seemed great at first. But within four days of being engaged, my... Read more What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Plenty of things. When free alcohol is provided, stop for a minute, and enjoy a glass of wine (or two). It's okay to buck tradition, because tradition is not for everyone. When your parents are paying for a good chunk of the wedding, it is important to give them a least a little say, as long as it respectfully coincides with the overall theme. What I mean by that is that if your dad would go to his grave miserable without walking you down the aisle, you might want to give in and let him do it. And most importantly: when you make your guest list, go over it with a fine-toothed comb. And then go over it three more times. If you have people that you know would put aside differences to attend your special event, you should definitely invite them, or you risk crying half-way into the honeymoon about your stupid mistakes. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Dawn Suter Venue: Conrad Cauldwell House Museum Reception: The Old 502 Winery Dress: Pin-up Girl Clothing Cake: Sweet Surrender Food: Ladyfingers Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS SF's Wild About You Photography: Impressive cinematic wedding photography with a cosplay discount NEXT Live-streaming your wedding: Which service is best? (Updated for 2020) Show/Hide comments [ 2 ] Wow, very cool. I was going to say the batring was by far my favorite part of this whole thing, but that cake and centerpiece action looks pretty awesome. Thanks for sharing your wedding, guys! Reply Thanks! Unfortunately, the ring fell off my hand that very night, so I had to replace it with something else at a later date. Which was fine, since I'm not much of a ring person. Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. 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