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A friend offered to throw us an engagement party. Yay! Now we have to get serious about the guest list. Boo.
The problem we're having right now… Because of the venue and the hosts, there are definitely people who would be weird to not invite to the engagement party — We like them! They're pillars of this friend group! We love partying with them!
But it would be weird to invite them to the wedding — We've never spent any time alone together! It's a destination wedding, so it's a big financial ask!
If you search the internet for “can you invite someone to an engagement party and not the wedding” you'll get two answers:
- HELL FUCKING NO. Don't be a daft asshole.
- Sure. Times they are a changing, and some people have super-small weddings, or wedding very far away, and can't invite as many people as they'd like.
Overwhelmingly, though, the internet leans towards #1: Daft asshole-ness. Shit.
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So we're sitting on the guest list for now. I feel like mayyyybe these would-be engagement party guests would understand. Hell, I think that I would understand! Much like being a B guest list-er, I'm just happy to get to party with friends whenever possible. But if there's a chance anyone gets confused and sad come wedding time, I don't want that.
I think we'll just limit the guest list to only those that are invited to the wedding. But I ask you…
Are you inviting people to pre-wedding parties that you aren't inviting to the wedding? And would you mind it if that were done to you?
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