Look, some of us want no dancing at our wedding. Maybe we’re introverts. Maybe we’re living with a disability or a chronic condition — or just feel like we’ve got two left feet. Maybe our venue isn’t well set-up for dancing, maybe we don’t want to deal with setting up a sound system. Maybe due to covid, you’re having a micro-wedding and it just feels weird to try to make 10 people dance. Maybe we find wedding DJs awkward. All reasons are valid — some of us just want no dancing at our weddings, and that’s freaking awesome.
That said — if there’s no dancing at your wedding, what are you gonna do instead? Well, we are here for you, with 15 introvert-friendly dance-free reception activities from real live Offbeat Bride readers.
This is such a popular option with Offbeat Bride readers that we have a whole archive dedicated to board games at weddings! One of my very faves is this brunch boardgame wedding. Davora and Roxy had a board game-themed brunch reception with board game tables, board game centerpieces, and even board game dessert trays. They included Candy Land, Balderdash, Sorry!, and Cranium, among other nostalgia. There was a designated games table so that guests could sit down and play board games if they felt so inclined. The dessert treats were nostalgic childhood favorites, perfect for their “big kid” wedding.
Bonfire with s’mores
A bonfire with s’mores is a great way to enjoy a close intimate moment with your guests… without the awkwardness of dancing. Alison and Albert had a rustic campfire wedding with a lot of s’mores around an amazing bonfire gathering with log seating. It’s a nice place to have some quiet sugar in the dark together, in the flickering light of the fire. Check our archive of bonfires at weddings here.
Outdoor wedding lawn games are great for keeping kids and kids-at-heart busy at your reception — especially a no dancing reception. Take advantage of a good season and some outdoor space for badminton, ring toss, corn hole, and giant versions of your favorite nostalgic games like Jenga and 4-to-Score. Folks will be too busy playing to stare at you. Plus, it’ll get your indoor gaming friends out into familiar territory! Check our archive of wedding lawn games here.
When Jecka decided to have LEGO centerpieces for guests to build, she had some concerns: “I was really excited about our centerpieces being vases full of LEGO bricks so guests could interact with them and build things, but I was also scared that the guests wouldn’t really get it. I can’t describe how happy I was when, during the cocktail hour, my mom came outside and told me that guests, young and old, had already started dumping out the centerpieces and getting to work. Apparently, things got vicious and people were stealing bricks from other tables!”
Check our archive of LEGO weddings here!
Ronnie & Cynthia went all out with the video games at their wedding reception: “We had gaming hubs for our guests to play our favorite games and gaming chairs were our thrones!” And then there’s these folks who played Rock Band instead of having a first dance.
Pool party with swimming
Why deal with awkward dancing when your guests can just be in the pool? Kat & Rob did this for their flamingo-themed wedding, and Kat told us: “The hotel where we got married had a pool, with DJ played old school hip hop as we broke out the margaritas, inflatable cheeseburger, flamingo floaties, and wedding beach balls. We didn’t request to keep the pool private, so when we made our grand entrance to the pool and made our way to the end for our plunge in the deep end together, we got a huge cheer from all of the partiers. Check out our archive dedicated to pool parties at weddings.
Unique interactive food like a dessert bar
A dessert bar can be a fun way to keep your guests busy during a dance-free reception. Sure, you could do an ice cream bar or an indoor s’mores bar, but we like Michelle and Phil’s geektastic Star Wars meets Star Trek sci-fi dessert bar. It’s the final frontier in satisfying your sweet tooth at the reception. We’re talking Wookiee cookies, Death Star cake balls, Star Trek iced cookies, pretzel lightsabers, and R2-D2 oreos.
Sure, this one is very much dependent on the venue you choose, but we’ve featured so many Offbeat Brides who incorporate bowling into their receptions that we have a whole bowling weddings archive! (And yes, there is a Big Lebowski wedding in there.)
Amusement park rides
Tarot readings… or tattoo artists!?
At this chic Brooklyn wedding, they had a reception with both tarot card readings… and a tattoo artist giving real tattoos at the wedding reception!
Ok, is this a good idea for introverts? Maybe so, maybe not. Depends on your kind of introversion. But it’s very definitely NOT DANCING, and it keeps everyone focused on chasing each other instead of you. We can say this: these guys make it look very, very fun.
Collective art projects
Some couples have hosted archery workshops for their guests! Again, the idea here is to give your guests something else to do BESIDES LOOKING AT YOU.
Ok look, introverts: nobody said YOU had to be the one singing! Lets your friends seranade you, or host a lipsync battle. This isn’t for introverts who like quiet, but it is a great option for introverts who to let their guests be the center of attention.
Need more ideas for introvert-friendly wedding receptions with no dancing?