After a very hard year with lots of family drama, I came to the realisation that the definition of family does not limit itself to one's bloodline.
With my upcoming nuptials, many family members have been asking whether I will be including members of the family that they know for a fact have nothing but bad wishes for me. To which I have honestly said: “No.”
My reasons for not inviting certain family members to my wedding are simple…
I refuse to wear a false smile at my wedding.
I refuse to have that moment where I really don't want to go over to a particular table to greet them as a newly married woman.
My only fake smile should be directed at the photographer as I pose in every which way in my gorgeous dress. It will not be directed at individuals who would show up out of spite and maliciousness.
I want to feel gorgeous from the inside out, be beaming with love and affection for my new husband and newly adopted family.
And while many think I will regret my decision not to invite certain family members, I truly believe that my wedding day is not a day to fix wrongs — that can be done in therapy.
So! To all those asking if I'm inviting those said individuals: again I say no. I am a woman of my word and I want to begin my life with my husband floating on a cloud of good vibes and best wishes. Save the drama for group therapy.