So you just got engaged and are now being bombarded with “must-haves,” “to-dos,” and “checklists,” amirite? Hey, we're guilty of it, too. Our blanket advice has always been: Do what you want!
In this case, we're talking about stuff you can totally skip that most people won't notice. Do some of these things make your guests marginally happier or more informed? Sure. Will they notice they're missing? Probably not.
If you're excited about doing some of these things, awesome! Keep doing them! In fact, every single one of these topics is one that we've written posts about how fun and fabulous they can be… so we're big fans of all of the things listed below. That said, if you're looking for permission to streamline your wedding planning, here's how you can simplify your wedding and save yourself some time, money, and sanity by allowing yourself to skip some (or all!) of these “must-dos.”
Welcome parties and rehearsal dinners
We have all kinds of tips if you're planning a rock-solid rehearsal dinner. But actually, these can be completely optional. If you want to chill with your wedding posse after the rehearsal, meet up at a bar, restaurant, or in someone's hotel room.
Preserving a piece of your outfit? Hell yes. But know that for the dress, the only time this might be a thing you'll want to do is if you have dreams of passing the dress on to someone else. Otherwise, recognize that it's probably just fine in the bag it came in.
We love gifts, that's for sure. But rarely will anyone wonder where their baggie of candy is at the table. They're likely way more into dancing, mingling, eating, or hitting up the bar. Focus your efforts on their fun instead.
Hiring a calligrapher
This is one of those details that we totally love and wish we could have if budgets weren't as much of an issue. Alas, some things will get cut in the name of dollars and this might be one of them. Instead of hiring an expensive calligraphy master for your invites, feel free to mail merge them onto labels, hand-write them, or use emailed invitations.
Save-the-dates can be a really fun detail if you've got the time and money, but they're also one detail you could potentially cut if needed. There are too many alternatives to this one to make it a must-have. Facebook invites and email alone can cover letting everyone know. Feel free to go digital for these.
We love these for the fun factor, but hey, everyone will still know what's going on without a program. Have the MC make an announcement to move guests to the next part of the day, or maybe just make a chalkboard sign instead.
Want to really save some hassle? Skip the matching dresses, wedding party gifts, and the stress of choosing whom to ask. Unless you have tons of coordination to do and need their help, you can absolutely go sans wedding party.
Man, do we love creative wedding cakes. No one turns out an incredible wedding cake like an Offbeat Bride — y'all make your cakes work, whether they're geeky, nerdy, booky, spooky, rainbow-y, or romantic…y. But the truth is that many guests miss the cake cutting anyway, so if cake just isn't your thing, you can always skip it completely or consider a yummy cake alternative like waffles, donuts, cupcakes, candy buffets, and even whiskey fountains.