If you're on Facebook at all, you've seen it happen: two friends end their marriage or long-term relationship, Facebook informs you that [FRIEND] and [FRIEND] are “no longer in a relationship.” Or, on the flip side — two secretive friends get engaged, change their respective statuses, and then BOOM! Every single person they know on Facebook wants an invite to the wedding. Both of these situations (and many in between) beg the question: just how do you change your relationship status on Facebook while keeping your news feed followers in the dark?
[related-post align=”right”]I get that this is a very twenty-first century only-for-people-who-are-online-a-lot problem, and perhaps a silly one at that. Why, when you're thinking about a change to your long-term relationship, would your mind wander to your Facebook relationship status? I can't tell you, I just know that for many people it does, and the creepy-crawly, upside-down-stomach feeling that goes along with those thoughts isn't the best thing ever.
Last year my best friend ended a relationship, and I noticed that she successfully kept the ending of this relationship from becoming Facebook's news — a few “friends” didn't even realize her previous relationship had been over for nearly a year when she started dating her now-boyfriend. So she's obviously a bit of a digital genius, and I recently had her sit down and show me how to make this happen:
- Go to your profile
- Click “Edit Profile”
- Select “Friends and Family” from the menu on the left
- Click the arrow next to “Relationship Status”
- Change this to “Only me”
Voila! Now your relationship status will be visible ONLY to you — not even your (maybe) partner can see it. It simply disappears! It's a pretty easy fix (assuming Facebook doesn't change the way you do it in a week), and painless at that. Win-win.