Have you told your groom he’s beautiful today?

Guest post by Miss Moppet
fissy & blaise

You know how in the movies (and in real life sometimes) the emphasis is so heavy on the girl dressing up? When a girl gets ready for prom, she comes down the stairs and everyone oohs and ahhs? When she steps out of the dressing room, cinched into her bridal sample, people sigh and just have a hizzy over her? How the groom's heart skips a beat when he finally sees her walk down the aisle?

You ever notice how that doesn't happen for men?

The man never comes down the stairs to oohs and ahhs like that. They don't get the sighs or the sentimental moment. I don't read about a lot of brides oohing about their groom in his groomwear. People fix their ties and tell them they are handsome, with tight lips and stern expressions, not the soft dewey kind of moment that women are expected to have.

When I made the decision to make my poor Boy and his nephew wear white pants, we had to head to the store and bring the shirts and vests with us. I waited outside the room, bored, staring at the wall and then The Boy emerged from the dressing room in his crisp white dress shirt, chocolate brown vest and white pants. He looked so handsome, so fantastic, so very MINE that I was breathless.

He had his hands on his hips and he kept spinning in circles checking himself out in the mirror and commenting on how much he loved the way it all looked. And my mind spun in circles too — my insides got all gooey as I watched him, full of love, full of lust, and full of excitement. I ran up and I hugged him and kissed him and told him he was the most beautiful man I'd ever seen. He blushed and smiled and preened for the rest of the day.

All grooms should have their moment as well. Hug them and kiss them and tell them they are the handsomest men you've ever seen. Because they are. They are beautiful and flawed and sweet and frustrating and OURS.

Comments on Have you told your groom he’s beautiful today?

  1. I like it. I’ll make a point to tell my groom how beautiful and handsome he is today.

  2. Dude, I try to do this every day. My fiance is a wildly vain Leo, and seeing the boost of happy he gets every time I tell him he’s gorgeous is endlessly entertaining. 🙂

    • hahaha, it’s amazing how much leos need compliments. it’s basically one of our food groups.

    • As a Taurean marrying a Leo, I really had NO concept of this – but yes, I have learned that Leos bloom when they are fawned over. (I mean, who doesn’t – but especially Leos, wow.)

  3. I told my husband how handsome he looked all day. If wad the first thing I said to him when I got a chance to talk to him. Even the groomsmen too!!! No one should forget any of the main men that day!

  4. Couldn’t agree more. 🙂 Very moved by this– my fiance is someone who is sort of saddened by the fact that men’s clothes and the male aesthetic for weddings and other things is so much more standard and secondary to women’s… he loves to dress up (he’s an actor) and i always try to honor that by making sure he feels appreciated. it’ll be doubly true on our wedding, cause we firmly believe it’s about ‘US,’ not about ME.

  5. I don’t tell him he’s beautiful, but I do tell him he’s gorgeous and sexy and hot and mine all the time.

    He will be stunning at the wedding. He’s having a gorgeous suit made at almost as much as my dress is costing.

  6. I refer to my fiance as my Handsome Man at least once a day. He likes it 🙂

    • Me too! I always say, “How’s my Handsome Man today?” Always gets a smile. I can’t wait to see him dressed up on our wedding day–he wants to get s special, super-awesome suit, which I heartily encourage because I want him to feel special and super-awesome. He is going to look just as amazing as I am! 🙂 People better tell him so, or else I’ll say it for them: “Doesn’t my Handsome Man look amazing?”

  7. Yes! I actually designed our wedding attire based around what colors look best on him because, as I put it “I’m gonna be looking at *you* all day” and I wanted him to look his best! And he looked so good 🙂

  8. Good thing that real life is not like the movies!

    I hear just as many ooos and Ahhhs for men as for women when they get all spiffed up.

    We had lots of fun at the haberdashery with the salesmen when we went to pick up his suit. Lots of “oos” over the beautiful shirts and ties, and how great he looked in this color or that color.

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