The Offbeat Bride: Maryska, Academic Librarian
Her offbeat partner: Chris, Programmer
Date and location of wedding: Julian Smith Casino on Lake Olmstead, Augusta, GA — November 12, 2013
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: When we started planning our wedding we knew we wanted to make it as geeky and unique as we are but we couldn't settle on a theme.
We decided to simply include the wedding traditions we liked (cake and dancing), take out the things we weren't crazy about (bouquet toss, cake smashing, and over-emphasis on formality), and add in elements that we thought would be fun.
This included a handmade silver dress instead of white, lots of lights and lanterns, and top hats!
In the end, the Tolkien influence was accidental. We had an open bar and couldn't resist naming it “The Green Dragon” after the bar in Hobbiton, complete with a dragon plaque. I originally wanted to walk in to “The Imperial March,” but my friends who offered to arrange and play the processional and recessional music (Ascauga Horn Quartet), just couldn't make it work well with four french horns (it sounded more like the Imperial polka!).
It hit me that “Concerning Hobbits” would be a great piece. My talented friend, Katie, was able to arrange it for three french horns and a violin (which she also plays). I don't know if I'll ever be able to hear this piece without tearing up a bit.
The Celtic band that we had already hired, The Knock Climb, happened to fit beautifully into our Hobbiton-esque wedding, too. There were definitely some distinctly non-Tolkien elements, including a rousing “So say we all!” when we were pronounced husband and wife.
Tell us about the ceremony:
Our ceremony was a balance of religious elements to honor our families, and non-traditional elements that reflected our more secular beliefs. We had a couple of readings (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 and 1 Corinthians 13) but our handfasting was the most important moment for us. The multicolored cords represented both virtues that were important to our relationship and our solidarity with our LGBT brothers and sisters who don't yet have the right to marry in our state.
The cords were given to our wedding party, who took turns tying them around our joined hands and telling our guests what they symbolized. In addition to our rings, we exchanged a symbol of our families. I have two teenage daughters who stood with the wedding party and carried our rings and our family gifts: a kilt pin and tartan for my family, and the groom's father's pocket knife for his family.
Our biggest challenge:
The biggest challenge turned out to be my dress. I am a pretty experienced seamstress and wanted to make something inspired by the Oscar de la Renta dress worn by Emma Watson to the Deathly Hallows premiere in 2011, but I didn't anticipate how much tulle would be required for the skirt. I used all the tulle in Augusta (about 60 yards) then had to have my brother and best friend send me another 30 yards or so from Knoxville. Chris also drove the two hours to Atlanta and cleared out three stores there (I knew he was a keeper!). Ultimately the dress took about 40 hours and about 120 yards of tulle to create. I actually shed little bits of tulle throughout the night (it was windy and I kept stepping on it) but there was so much there you'd never notice.
My favorite moment:
Our families are big, but scattered across the US and the UK. We could not have anticipated how our families would come together in the days before the wedding to help us finish our preparations, set up the venue, and clean up after. We felt incredibly loved.
My funniest moment:
During our dance (which was a waltz that we had taken private lessons to learn), we drifted a bit too far towards the corner where the band was set up, and kicked over their speaker! Our second funniest moment was during the ceremony: I was so nervous that I said “I do” too early! I just followed it with an “I do, part II” and we laughed.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: Jack Herzberg Photography
- Catering: The Garlic Clove Italian Eatery
- Bands: The Knock Climb and Ascauga Horn Quartet
- Hair and makeup: Halo Salon and Spa
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!