The perfect gender-neutral wedding playlist

Guest post by Jenna Avery
Photo by Creatrix Photography

Even in 2021, it's hard to find gender-neutral wedding songs, let alone a gender-neutral wedding playlist. The world is so binary, especially in the mainstream media. But you're on the LGBTQIA+ spectrum and as such, you want/demand/hope for something that is a bit more unique. As a transhuman, I want to help others find ways to celebrate their love and commitment together, while not feeling awkward as your first dance song plays, singing about a gender that neither you nor your partner identify with!

This playlist was built with pronouns, or the lack-there-of, in mind. As such, a significant amount of modern and even past songs are scratched off the list. These songs can be great for your first dance or even a dance with another significant other such as a parental unit!

However, as a wedding photographer, I'm also avoiding some popular songs because of their insane overuse at weddings. Sorry Bruno Mars, but today just simply isn't your day. Uhm, if you chose this song, my deepest apologies. I've just been to way more events than you have, I guarantee.

But ignore my hypocritical ass, because I love the shit out of “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri. Makes me choke up every time. I'm also a massive sucker for “Fools Rush In,” by any singer. That is probably my favorite and my skin is covered in goosebumps every time I hear it! It does mention, “men,” but I take it in abstract form. I'm sure you'll find something to love on this LGBTQIA+ wedding playlist. These gender-neutral wedding songs are on repeat for me!

A modern gender-neutral wedding playlist

Arro Verse – Marry Me
Norah Jones – Come Away with me
Stevie Wonder – For once in my life
Keane – Somewhere Only We Know
Bright Eyes – First Day of My Life
Death Cab for Cutie – I Will Follow You into the Dark
Etta James – At Last
David Gray – This Years Love
Train – Marry Me
Sara Bareilles – I Choose You
Brett Every – What a Beautiful Day
The Beatles – Here Comes the Sun
The Beatles – I Will
Culture Club – Love is Love
Sam Smith – Latch (Acoustic)
He is We – Skip to the Good Part
Christina Perri – A Thousand Years
Queen – Love of My Life
Jason Mraz – I'm Yours
Audrey Hepburn – Moon River
Savage Garden – Truly Madly Deeply (hello, nostalgia!)
Extreme – More Than Words
Little Mix – Secret Love Songs, Pt II
Miley Cyrus – Obsessed
John Legend – All of Me
Ella Henderson – Yours
Jason Mraz – Love Someone
Sam Smith – Latch
Ray LaMontagne – You Are the Best Thing
Ellie Goulding – Love Me Like You Do
Adele – Make You Feel My Love
Maren Morris – The Bone (loooove this song)
Calvin Harris – Feel So Close
Calum Scott – You Are the Reason
Cat Power – Sea of Love
Mariah Carey – Dreamlover
Temper Trap – Sweet Disposition
Ben Folds – The Luckiest
LP – When We're High
Billie Eilish – Ocean Eyes
Labrinth – Sexy MF (dirty but upbeat)

There you have it! If you have any gender-neutral romance songs that aren't mentioned here, be sure to add them in the comments!

Comments on The perfect gender-neutral wedding playlist

  1. Excellent topic. As a cis-gender female, it’s something that I never thought about before. When I’m singing some of my favorite songs, I’ll often change “her/she” to “him/he.” But it’s so much more than that, especially when celebrating your day of love. Thanks for the eye-opener.

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