Gender-neutral vow examples for everyone #Ceremony Advice#gender#LGBTQ#nonbinary / genderqueer#queer#transgender#vow examples Posted May 22 2020 Offbeat Editors Brittney and Rebecca's joyful wedding | Photo by YouAreRaven We know that there are lots of you looking for gender-neutral vows… it could be that you or your partner (or both of you!) identify as genderqueer or non-binary. It could be that y'all are trans! Or you're gay or otherwise queer? Or hell, maybe you're totally straight, cisgender, and heteronormative but you just don't want to get getting social constructs about gender tangled up in your wedding ceremony script! That's cool too. Whatever the reason, we've got you… with these beautiful gender-neutral vows for everyone, sourced from our own offbeat community! Gender-neutral vow #1: I love you for who you are now, and yet to become (A) I, _____, take you, ______, as you are, loving who you are now and who you are yet to become. I promise to listen to you and learn from you, to support you and accept your support. I will love you and have faith in your love for me, through all our years together and all that life may bring us. (B) I,______, take you, ______, as you are, loving who you are now and who you are yet to become. I promise to listen to you and learn from you, to support you and accept your support. I will love you and have faith in your love for me, through all our years together and all that life may bring us. I Do’s: (officiant to A) Do you, _______ take ______ to be your loving friend and partner in marriage, to talk and to listen, to trust and appreciate, to respect and cherish? Do you promise to comfort and strengthen _____ through life’s joys and sorrows? Will you share your hopes and dreams as you build your lives together? Will you strive to build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honor, filled with happiness and love? And last but not least, do you promise to always be open and honest with ______ and cherish _______ for as long as you both shall live? (A) I DO (officiant to B) Do you, _____ take ______ to be your loving friend and partner in marriage, to talk and to listen, to trust and appreciate, to respect and cherish? Do you promise to comfort and strengthen ______ through life’s joys and sorrows? Will you share your hopes and dreams as you build your lives together? Will you strive to build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honor, filled with happiness and love? And last but not least, do you promise to always be open and honest with _____ and cherish ______ for as long as you both shall live? (B) I DO Gender-neutral vow #2: From The Witcher Vows taken from The Witcher novel series: Thus do I take you to have and to hold for the most wondrous and terrible of times for the best and the worst of times by day and by night in sickness and in health. For I love you with all of my heart and swear to love you eternally, Until death do us part. They're close enough to the vows my parents/other traditional people make for everyone to be comfy, with a geeky "easter egg" for those who enjoy the geeky things we do. Gender-neutral vow #3: SO SAY WE ALL Related Post Nerdy vows & stunning views at this intimate Savannah nature preserve wedding Joseph and Temprest wanted to celebrate with 20 of their closest friends in only 60 days or planning. They created the most joyful wedding at... Read more "A and B have chosen each and every one of you To be here with them To witness their Wedding Vows Because each of you has given something of yourself to their lives. You are the ones Who have taught them how to love. Having planted this seed of love in them, You have shown them the blessings That come from loving one another. As we rejoice in their marriage today, Let us each consecrate the relationships in our own lives And rededicate ourselves to these unions we share. Let us each choose the path Of loving and caring for one another And of making these commitments A priority in our lives. Each of us knows that a marriage is not created By a law or a ceremony; Rather it occurs in the hearts of two human beings. So, in witnessing this ceremony today, We are observing only an outward sign of an inward union That already exists between A and B. Today, they have come before us To publicly affirm their love; To promise to nurture themselves, Each other, and this union; And to acknowledge its centrality in their lives. We are here to see them off on this journey. Let us also be there to see them through. As family and friends, You form the community of support That surrounds them Each of you, by your presence here today, Is being called upon To uphold them in honoring and loving each other. Always stand beside them, never between them. Offer them your love and support, Not your judgment. Encourage them with your kindness and loving hearts, And honor this marriage Into which they have come to be joined today. Please affirm your support for this marriage By responding, “So say we all” to the following question: As part of the community That surrounds A and B, Do you offer your love and support To strengthen their marriage And bless this family created by their union? Audience: So say we all" Gender-neutral vow #4: I choose you to be my partner in life I choose you to be my spouse, my partner in life. I promise you my unconditional love, my fullest devotion, my most tender care. Through the pressures of the present and the uncertainties of the future, I promise to love you, honor, respect and cherish you all the days of our lives You are everything I need And at this moment I feel that all of my prayers have been answered. I know that our love is heaven sent and I promise to be here forever and always I pledge to respect your unique talents and abilities, to lend you strength to reach your dreams I promise to take care of you, to encourage and inspire you, asking that you be no other than yourself From this day forward you shall not walk alone My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home Gender-neutral vow #5: I vow to listen I promise to always leave the lights on in the bathroom I promise to mysteriously take three hours to make a simple omelet I promise to create a life for us of unexpected and strange adventures I promise that I will love you I pledge to listen to your advice, and occasionally take it I pledge to never take score… even if I'm totally winning I pledge to always admire your huge, strong, kind and determined heart I pledge that I will love you I vow to listen, for as long as it takes for you to feel heard I vow to watch in awe as you kick ass and take names I vow to be your unrelenting cheer squad on the days it feels too much I vow that I will love you I believe that 'me time' is an actual concept, that can be proven by science I believe that carefully folded socks make you happy I believe there is no time or place I'm more content than when you're close Because of this and so, so much more… I believe that I will always love you Check out lots more wedding vows for examples and inspiration! 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