What’s a bride to wear if you like playing with gender expectations?

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My fiancé loves to wear a bow tie and suit jacket, and equally loves to wear little dresses — and she's at an absolute loss as to what to wear for our July wedding! She's got a faux-hawk with the sides of her head shaved, and loves playing with gender expectations. Sometimes she's soft-butch, sometimes she's femme.

So: dress or suit? Long dress-vest with linen pants? Boat-neck A-line dress? And most importantly: where do we look to find appropriate wedding attire for a cis gender-bending bride? — Kimberlingo

When it comes to wedding attire, there are a lot of unexpected and fabulous ways one can simultaneously flirt with femininity and masculinity! Here are a few that I came up with:

Add a colorful tie

Neckwear is for everyone — and the number of brides who opt to wear a neck- or bow-tie proves it. There are plenty of brightly-colored options like the ones below.

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Photo by Michael Hacker Photography.

At Cristina and Adrian's colorful vegan wedding, half of this wedding party joined in on the tie-wearing fun.

Raina + Michelle Star Wars Glasses!
Photo by Stephanie Kaloi Photography.

Michelle rocked this bright pink tie at her Star Wars and Disney wedding.

yellow bow tie alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Photo by Hannah White.

I love this bright yellow bowtie from Maggie and Theresia's barnyard wedding!

Go for denim

happy couple blazers alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Photo by Frances Iacuzzi Photography.

You know what we love? Brides in jeans! Corrie and Renie totally pulled this look off at their Great Gatsby-styled vineyard wedding

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Photo by Arancia Sucra Photography.

Kelsey and Heather had a super laid-back farm wedding in 2012, and jeans were totally rocked.

Get fancy!

Of course, you two might not be into the denim-and-blazer look, and luckily designers have got you covered:

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Photo by Nate Gowdy.

Susanne and Ricki, aka Kitten and Lou, are a drag king and burlesque queen who got married in Washington earlier this year. As you can see, Lou was rocking a seriously incredible suit (with turquoise touches!) from Danial Webster Design the day of.

Cole + Kim Wedding
Photo by Kim Ventola.

Cole's wedding day wear was mostly styled from BHLDN and Modcloth.

bride in black pants alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)
Photo by Closed Circle Photography.

I love this trick from Sam and Julia's 2007 wedding — one could go from donning a black velvet dress during the ceremony to rocking black skinny jeans for the reception.

duchess clothier alternative wedding ideas from Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride)

Duchess Clothier offers high quality suits for men and women.

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Photo by Rus Mathews.

Kimberly, who identifies as genderqueer, opted to pair a corset with a suit by Matthews Design.

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Photo courtesy Bindle & Keep.

Bindle & Keep is a New York company that specializes in hand-cut bespoke clothing for men and women.

If these options don't do it for you, check out this excellent post by S. Bear Bergman, author of Butch is a Noun, and a whole host of archives celebrating brides in pants, clothing options for the genderqueer, and butch wedding suits.

Gender-playful folks, we want to hear from you: What are your favorite looks for folks who like to add a twist to gendered wedding fashion?

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