This wedding is super gay! 5 ways to make your wedding gay as hell #Advice#Wedding 101#ceremony#gay#gender#genderqueer#identity#lesbian weddings#LGBTQ#marriage equality#queer#transgender Posted Jun 12 2017 Catherine Clark bijouxandbits Brittany and Rebecca OWNED their gay wedding! Photo by YouAreRaven It's Pride Month, y'all, and everyone should be giving props to the LGBTQ community and their weddings. Well, not everyone. Related Post Why we had a very, very gay wedding (not "just a wedding") One of the arguments we hear a lot is that weddings aren't "gay" or "straight," they're just weddings. Of course, that's true… but our wedding... Read more Some folks have concerns about the concept of a "gay wedding" because hey: aren't they just weddings? We get that, of course, but we feature some weddings where couples themselves VERY specifically want to embrace their wedding AND its gayness. So if you're into self-identified Very Very Gay Weddings, this roundup of ideas is for yooooou! Let's see how you can fully embrace your LGBTQ-ness and rock it in your wedding theme… Add in same-sex love-inspired readings Related Post 5 best quotes from the marriage equality decision to use in your ceremony While we still have so far to go and so many potential obstacles in our path, I wanted to call out some ways to include... Read more Obergefell v. Hodges (the SCOTUS marriage equality case in which the Court held that the right to marry is guaranteed to same-sex couples under the Constitution) has some AMAZINg lines to pull for your ceremony readings. Give them a look here. Here's one example: No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. Here are a few gender-neutral and feminist wedding readings from which to choose as well! Authors include Rainer Maria Rilke, Liz Lochhead, Ani DiFranco, and more. Related Post 10 gender neutral and feminist-friendly wedding readings for your rad wedding ceremony When searching for weddings readings for your LGBT wedding, feminist wedding, or just a wedding where you want to embrace gender neutral terms, it can be TOUGH. There's a lot… Read More Make your ceremony more gender-neutral (or your gender-specific) From hen/stag nights to bride and groom, we've got a primer for more gender neutral ways to address yourselves and others in your wedding crew. These alternatives to hen and stag nights in particular are amazing: Hens are female chickens, and stags are male deer — any gender-neutral animal name would be a gender-neutral replacement, and animals like fox work well. There’s also the option to use chicken, rooster, or cockerel instead of hen, and deer or doe instead of stag. Related Post Mr, Mrs, Mx: Genderqueer and gender-neutral wedding wording Weddings aren't a strictly gendered thing, as all of us reading Offbeat Bride are like aware of... but many of the words around weddings and marriage are very gendered. Even… Read More Use your wedding to do some good You could plan for charitable favors, register for philanthropic causes, wear jewelry by small vendors who donate a portion of their proceeds, and more. A few great causes to support would be The Trevor Project, SRLP (Sylvia Rivera Law Project), Ali Forney Center, SAGE Advocacy & Services for LGBT Elders, Black & Pink, and Immigration Equality. Here are a few how-tos to get you started: Related Post 10 ways to show your support of marriage equality at your wedding Are you looking for a way to acknowledge your support for our LGBT friends and families during your hetero wedding ceremony? From the covert to overt, here are 10 ways… Read More Related Post Wedding as a political act: 8 ways to show your wedding is part of the resistance We've talked for years about folks who've used their weddings as political statements, most notably with marriage equality back before it became legal nationwide... but we're in a different era… Read More Make your program work for you Photo by Lauren Gill Photography One of our funniest and most popular wedding programs has gone same-sex with this awesome version. You'll want to see Jayme and Sondra's version which starts with "So you're going to sit through your first (probably) 2-bride wedding!" Show your pride with rainbow flag wedding decor Nothing says you can't totally embrace the rainbow in your decor, food, and outfits! Wear your identity with pride and rock it at your wedding if you want to. Ryan and Tyler had a secret hidden rainbow cake! Photo by Logan Walker Photography Christyana and Heather had the rainbow represented in their wedding party | Photo by Krista and Jerry Photography Ali and Olivia rocked rainbow socks! Photo by ZumaPhoto It was all about the rainbow confetti at Rachel and Bethan's wedding | Photo by Pippa Carvell Teri and Tonya had a rainbow ribbon ceremony arch | Photo by Robyn Icks Photography "Weddings are so gay" card by JulieAnnArt Related Post What makes a wedding "real": Why our gay wedding will be traditional Same-sex weddings are still new enough that a lot of people wonder how different they will be compared to a straight wedding. I suspect that some straight people automatically think… Read More Now, go peruse all 75 pages of our LGBTQ archive of real weddings, advice, and ideas! 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